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15/f.
okay so about three weeks ago i broke up with my boyfriend. we had been going out for 4 months [yes, i know that's not really a very long time] but i honestly was in love with him. i had never felt the way i felt with him with anyone else i had ever dated. he is also the first guy i had sex with. which makes it even harder. the last time i saw him & talked to him was on valentines day when we went to the movies. the bad part is, at the movies we ended up making out and everything. he was even walking around holding my hand like we were still going out. ive always told myself that i wouldnt be in a friends with benefits type relationship; because that isnt something i would want to do. since 2/14 i havent talked to him [called, texted, or seen him] at all. i feel beside myself. i dont go out with my friends anywhere anymore because they all think im a slut when they found out about i had sex with him. i really feel like i want to call him but i dont know if i should. maybe the best thing for us both to do is not to talk, but i honestly feel like i cant let him go. should i try and work things out? HELP ME PLEASE.
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well if you really love him i would try to work things out.. but why would you brake up with a guy that you love in the first place..?
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You sound just like me when me and my ex brokeup, its so tough dealing isn't it? :/ I don't know why you two broke up so it so I can't exactly say if you should/shouldn't hang around him but I can try. If you think that you two might end up back together, I would say hanging out is okay. But if something drastic happened that made you break up with him (Cheating, he has personality flaws, etc.) I would suggest staying farrr away. Hanging out with someone you know you could never be with again/it would cause you trouble is never a good idea. If you think he's worth it, I would give a relationship another try because you seem to really like him. As far as your friends, don't listen to them. They have no room to judge you and if they are your true friends they should understand you really care for this guy.
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You're not a slut if you had sex with your boyfriend so don't worry about what they say. I think we all know the friends with benefits game and it is harder to play it when you're trying to get over somebody you love/loved. I also understand why you wouldn't want to do that because by being friends with benifits you would be considered a slut if people found out. The relationship is over and you need to deal. I don't think you should call him just for the sake of hearing his voice. You both could still be friends. You both have been through stuff that shouldn't be just thrown away, especially if you're still in love with him. But this is the time that you need to be real with yourself. Take a minute and look beyond your love, pain, and lonliness and really think about if it would be better to move on without him. Don't play games with yourself. No one is judging your decision but you. When you get cut and it heals sometimes its better to just rip off the bandaid without thinking of the pain. Just go ahead and rip off that sucker! Sometimes the cut leaves a scar or is infected and you need the bandaid for protection and reassurance. Only you can decide on how to deal with your mental and physical injuries. You see what im saying? As for your friends, well maybe their not really your friends? Make some new ones and if you can't then you really need to get your olf friends back. Call them up, make some plans, make an effort. Don't let your social life collapse becuase of boy trouble. Find a new guy! =)
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