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DATE HOW MANY U WANT ♥
14f I THINK THAT PEOPLE SHOULD BE ABLE TO DATE AS MANY PEOPLE AS THEY WANT.If you have a boyfriend you should talk to eachother about also being able to see other people like calling them your bf/gf also. I mean, why should you have to stick to that one bf/gf, that will get boring, give your love life some variety. The whole commitment thing is i think overrated. Or you can call it a commitment but have the same with other people too. I want as many peoples opinion on this. Maybe someone can change my mind. Thanks
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I think that age has nothing to do with anything. I think someone should do what they want. If you want to date mutiple people...do it...just don't hurt them.
If someone wants just one and want to find the one I don't think they should be told that that is wrong.
I agree that you should experiment when you are younger but if a person finds someone that they really like to be around why crush their dreams by telling them that it won't last. Let them decide what they want to do. If they get hurt they will learn from it.
What i am trying to say to you is that you should live your life. You might find someone that you want to give everything to. Either way be happy!!
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It is fine to feel that way. I have no interest in changing you mind.
But you MUST RESPCT that everyone does not feel the way that you do, and that their feelings deserve respect and honor just like yours do. People are not less intelligent then you, or less mature then you, because they enjoy monogamy and commitment.
I've been in non-monogamous and open relationships and you are right, the variety IS fun and exciting, espcially when you are young and still learning about people and relationships. As you get older though, it's also tiring and often short lived. In the end, the most satisfying relationships I've had have been the committed ones.
This is my advice to you and you need to understand it and understand it quick: DO NOT date people who don't feel the same way you do. You will NOT change their minds. You will hurt each other. Be honest and upfront about the way you like your relationships to operate and allow people to back out if they are uncomfortable.
Date everyone and anybody who interests you! But becareful calling anything a 'relationship' if the other person doesn't understand and agree to your terms.
You will always miss some opportunities and options in life, whether you are in a committed relationship or not. You have to be mature enough to see when someone wants different things then you, and not try and fight to make them want to same things as you. Accept what the song says is true, you can't always get what you want, and you'll be in a more realistic frame of mind to approach open relationships or even just to 'date around'.
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I don't think you should have multiple boyfriends at the same time. I sort of agree with the person below me in that of course you can casually date a variety of people. But, having all of them as your boyfriend? That doesn't seem fair to them and I wouldn't consider them to really be your boyfriend if you are that willing to have so many.
That's just my opinion...I'm not scolding you or anything.
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You're only 14! That's exactly how you should be thinking!
It bugs me how so many other girls your age are so caught up in finding "the one" that their youth is wasting away!
I'm glad you think the way you do. Seeing lots of different people is good for you. It will actually help you grow as a person and see what kinds of qualities you want in the person you want to love.
I agree with Younggrandma. Sex IS a completely different story, though. As long as you are having healthy, safe relationships and not giving yourself away to ever guy you meet, there is nothing wrong with dating lots of different people.
Keep doing what you're doing. Don't be in a hurry. Because one day, you're going to meet someone you want to spend the rest of your life with and you're going to know exactly who you're going to be looking for. You're not going to find that at 14.
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I think its very important for young
people to date a lot of other people.
How do you find Mr right if you stick
like glue to just one person?
I don't know that you call those people
Boyfriends or girlfriends. They are simply
people you occassionally go out with as
friends. Your boyfriend would be a guy
you decide to date exclusively after
dating a lot of others.
I want to make it very clear that I
am talking about dating. Not having sex.
You save that for the special guy.
Having sex with a bunch of different
people is a whole other ballgame.
I do not recommend doing that at all. :)
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