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my mom is verbally abusive
My mom really does seem to yell at me alot. Today, we had grocerys in the car, and they feel to the foot of the backseat, like they do, and she got out of the car, and started yelling at me for it, and she almost hit me with some plastic wrap box!!! She was like " GROW THE FUCK UP SHELBY!!!!!" " ITS NOT FUCKIN FUNNY!!!!!!" And then she started yelling at me so loud that when she got done, she couldnt even talk barley cause her voice was so cracked.I am seriously done with all of her shit. She thinks she's the greatest mom ever, but she needs to stop treating her kids like shit if she wants that title. One time she hit me, because I asked her to help me find a pair of my shoes, but that was kinda along time ago, so that doesent really matter anymore. I'm really loosing all my respect for her. I really dont know what to do about it. She is always getting mad at me for no reason what so ever. And when she dosent get mad at me, she takes it out on me. Once, when I was younger, she called me a dyke just because I didnt clean my room.And usually when she get's mad, she yells at me, and is mad at me for 10 minutes, and then just completly ignores me for the rest of the night, or sometimes even longer. Her and my dad are divorced, and she always got mad at me when it came close to me seeing my dad, just because I was seeing him. She would ignore me, and barley talk to me, and she kept saying that I was choosing my dad's " whore " over her, and that I wanted to live with the both of them. She got all of that, just because I liked to see my dad.I had to choose to stop seeing him and have my mom like me, or see him, and have my mom hate me. I havent seen my dad in weeks.... I really dont want to talk to her about it. So, what do youi think I should do about this problem? Thanks for all the help you can give me.
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I think that if you are really that upset with your mother, when she is not home call your father and tell him about what you are going through and how you want to see him, maybe you can live with him until she straightens up. i mean you have two parents for a reason..
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You could ask your dad if you can live with him, because then you won't need to face up to your mum and go through what you've been living with.
Your mum isn't the best mum, nor the worst. She is just having trouble dealing with her anger.
I know that this may sound weird but you can decide on this: could it be because she's angry and breaking up with your dad? I don't know how long they've been divorced but it could be that the thought of the two of them breaking up after they were in love is creating so much anger that seeing you reminds her of the love that she once had with your father and this may or may not be making her upset because you're a result of their love. This is NOT your fault.
After you've broken up with somebody, you've got two choices, either to move on with their life (like your father has done), or to continually be upset with themselves and find escape goats for their pain and sorrow (which in this case would be your mum).
Talk to her about this and get help from a school counselor because she needs to control her pain or get over it or not to take it out on you. You cannot live under this treatment anymore and you must help her get through this.
Good luck with the future,
triquetra
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I think your mom has anger management problems and she needs to conquer it. I would tell your counselor because they will handle it...if you tell him/her that your mom hits you. When you do tell them ask what you should do because you probably shouldn't go back to the house for a while. I would find a friend and ask if you could stay with them until you figure things out.
I am very sorry that you have to live with that. Just stay strong and grow from these experiences. I have known to many kids that have gotten screwed up because of things their parents have done to them. I hope it doesn't happen to you!
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Your mother is being completely selfish. Calling you names and yelling at you--that's not how a good mother should be. But--this is your reality. She has no right to "play" you that way with your father like she does. That's just wrong to make a kid choose like that. She's immature--but you sound in your letter like you already know that--the only thing I can tell you that could help is that you're right about that. You definitely need to speak to a trusted adult--a teacher, a counselor, or call the boys& girls hotline [Link](Mouse over link to see full location) It's a shame that adults can act like that, but they do. She's playing you. She expects you to feel guilty for wanting to be with your father--making you "choose" him over her --you have every right to see him. It sounds to me like she's acting more like a kid than you. That's a shame, but try to find someone that you can trust that you can confide in. Good luck.
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Unfortuneately, there is no nice answer to something of this nature.
The only possible suggested thing is to call a childline, or inform social carers of your situation.
Its a horrible posistion to be in and sometimes I can relate as my mum gets the same, but not as often and not as bad.
Google childline, and it will give you many answers and opportunities to raise this problem with someone and they will help you deal with it.
Good Luck <3Marizzlex
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