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His Family....
My boyfriend's family doesnt really like me all to much. They [ had ] a reason to . This past summer[ 07 ] i kissed another boy , i made a horribLe mistake but he was gracious enough to still love me just as much and give me another chance. We have been dating 11 months and 3 weeks. Once his family fount out [ a lonng time ago ] They just never really cared for me . I can totally tell from before i cheated , to after. His family was rude to me to my face and still are . His mom isnt the same around me to , Iv tryed so hard to show his family how completly sorry i am , i respect them to the max and im polite . But they still havent forgave me , [ i can tell ] i just wanna know what to do . They have had more than enough time to get over it , if justin [ boyfriend ] can deal with me , then why cant his family who i never see?
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Talk to your boyfriend about it.
It's okay if they don't like you. You have to learn to live with that and forgive yourself anyways. But it isn't okay if they are openly rude to you.
Ask for your boyfriends support in this, because it really hurts you. His family is only trying to defend him, not hurt you. If he explains to them clearly that everything is good, but that thier attitude is not very nice, things will likely get better.
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If it is bothering a lot you should talk to them. I would ask the mom out to lunch or just go see her and tell her everything you just wrote. Most mothers would apreciate it. The parents should know that their son has control over his life and they shouldn't treat you differently because it is up to their son not them.
Show them that you care what they think and you really want them to like you.
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You kind of answered that yourself on the last sentence.
You never see them, if you dont then they dont have a chance to see the respect and love you give to your boyfriend, they need to see this and you more often to realise what you are doing for their child and how much you love him.
It all takes time, and yes some take longer than others, perhaps do something really nice for his mums birthday/dads birthday. Send them something nice. And apologise for any problems caused. Marizzle<3x
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His family has a right to distrust you a little after what you did, but being disrespectful right to your face? That's wrong. I would stop trying so hard to show how sorry you are. You've done what you can to earn back their respect and its up to them now. If they continue treating you this way, maybe you should try talking to your boyfriend Justin about it. Communication is key. You need his family on your side too if you want to keep this relationship alive.
His family just cares about him and doesn't want to see him hurt again. That's a good thing. But it's getting a bit out of hand.
Good luck with this.
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