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OK i was really mad at my friend krista because she did unspeakably mean things to me. because of it, she was asking em why i was mad, so on myspace i posted a blog about it. now my best friend marissa who is good friends with krista is getting mad at me for writing all those things about krista and telling her why she was mad. One of the things krista did was tell marissa the mother of all secrets, that my other friend, luke, thats like a brother to me was gay. marissa liked luke, and as a result got mad at me for not telling her. but i couldent tell her because i couldent have it on my concience that i made someone feel that badly, and i didnt want to break the news to her. when i found out that he was gay, i got really depressed and had to tell somebody, and i told leah, my other best friend who would never tell a soul any secret. when marissa found out tho, leah told her that she knew and that i told her, and marissa got really mad at me because i told leah and not her. marissa has been my best friend since 5th grade and i really dont want to lose her. and im afraid i am, because she sent me 2 hate letters and dissed me so badly on aim, and marissa is the nicest person in the world and would never do anything like that so i was shocked when she did. i really want marissa back as a friend, and dont say talk to her, becuase when i tried that she cussed me out and i was basiclly grovelling 4 forgiveness, so that wont work. i really need advice, please help me.
catherine
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It seems like you had a problem with one friend and everyone else decided to join in and make the problem even bigger. The only thing that I can say to you is that if you tell her that she means a lot to you as a friend and that would never try to hurt her this bad, and she doesn't accept your forgiveness, then you have to accept that she my not every forgive you. YOu can't make someone like you and grieving won't work. Just tell yourself that you well say what your heart feels, go up to her somewhere that you two will be alone (bathroom) and tell her that you feel like you are losing a part of you, your best friend, and tell her that if she doesn't forgive you, you will understand and move on. Don't make the mess bigger by starting a fight or crying. Just try your hardest to accept what has happened. I'm sorry that i don't have those secret words to get your friend back, but you can at least try. (also, try talking to your other friends about what's going on. Maybe they can tell you how your friend is feeling) good luck!
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you could always do this (write to her on aim and dont expect her to talk back,just write it,it'll help)say - ~~~Hey,im really sorry,for everything.For talking bad about krista,for not telling you a really important sercret,everything.I dont expect you to write back,you dont have to,just here me out.I couldn't see you get hurt if i told you about luke,because if it hurt me that badly,you would be hurt even more.I just remember all our fun memories and i get upset that this tore us apart.You dont have to say anything,you can even cuss me out all you want,I just really wanted you to know im extreamly sorry..~~~
The best thing about this is you get things off of your chest.She'll probably just brush it off,then again she could tell you something in return.But if she is still mad,you have to bare it,you cant change her.Only she can realize things.Meeting new people is also a good thing.Just have fun with your life and think "if i stayed friends with them,maybe more bad things would have happend" "If i didnt get into a fight with them i probably wouldnt have had the chance to be who i am" "I defended myself and stood up for what i think,and theres no way there gunna make me scared of them" In time they'll come around,you just have to be on your toes with them.No secret is safe no matter what,even if luke told some one else.Everything happens for a reason! I would find another group,stay nice to them no matter how mean they are,and just have fun!Life is to short to dwell on the negative things :].Im trying to encourage you,to know that some times no matter how close you guys were there was a reason for this.and you know,it will be better if you just forget about them for a LITTLE while.you should never have to cry about friends,espcailly if they were so close to you!sorry if i didnt give you great advice,but i really hope i did encourage you and help you to see things differently!:]
seriously,
GOOODDD LUUCCKK!! :] :]:]:]
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