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Whats up with my ex?
My ex's gf broke up with him again for like the 5th time. Each time it gets worse. She broke up with him like 3 weeks ago and he gave all her pictures and stuff back. (he wouldnt give me any of my things back. he told me i gave them to him so theyre his) Well 2 nights ago i asked him to come to a friends house and he said that he was chillen at one of his friends houses. An hour later he calls me up and tells me he was bored and wanted to come by me. So he came and we sat and talked for 2 hours. (we havent been together now for over a year)!(The same thing happened in november when she broke up and we hung out for a couple hours~his request) Both times hes told me he still loves me.(hes been with this "slut"(not even exaggerating) for over a year now) i feel its the sex that keeps him crawling back to her. she keeps calling him, and seeing another guy. I see her at school all the time kissing and holding hands and acting like theyre going out. Even though my ex and her arent going out, she still calls him and goes over to his house.
anyways, we talked about just starting out as friends and getting to know one another again. we talked about maybe hanging out tonight. well last night i asked him if we were still on, and he said "i told you not to get youre hopes up, something will probably come up". Ya his dick. his ex's car was at his house tonight and guess what they were probably doing?? Why cant he just be honest and stop with all the lame excuses? im sure he knew last night that she was gonna come over. Doesnt he think im not gonna find out? I live 3 mins away from him!! Hes told people that hes tired of getting hurt by her. She keeps dumping him and he keeps getting rejected when he asks her back out, and it makes him wanna kill himself, and he says thats unhealthy. Then why the hell does he jump everytme she calls? is it the sex? he says they are so alike that they butt heads all the time!! They are always fighting. So if she makes him feel horrible, why does he take her calls and let her in when she comes over? How can he say that he still loves me? I dont sleep around, maybe thats why! He told me he got checked for STDS, and had her checked too. Thats so pathetic!! Why would a guy even want a girl that gives it up so easily and to any1? (she told me to my face that she would let any guy f**k her) My ex always talked negative about "sluts" and he did her the 2nd night they hung out! Hes told me he did everything out of hurt.(we ended because he asked me out and told me that he "had" to take another girl to homecoming) I said "NO" to him becuz i wasnt gonna let my boyfriend take another girl to her homecoming.(he said i was being selfish) because i rejected him>he went off and started a relationship with someone else, but didnt like her.(he was using her to make me jealous) well that only made me more hurt and angry. They didnt do anything, but she really thought he liked her. I think he thought i was gonna come crawling and begging him to take me back, but i didnt!
How can some1 say they still love you when they do all this shit? See i have alot of self esteem, and alot of confidence where i dont need to sleep with a guy for whatever reason. She on the other hand cant be too bright if she puts out to any guy out there. My ex told me that it hurts her to have sex and she bleeds every single time. How can she even enjoy sex then?
Any input is greatly appreciated!!
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well girl you need to kick him out of your life totally all can bring with him is misery hes a guy and right now his hormones are raging out of control he doesnt know which way is up but he doesnt care about you believe me i knew a guy like him and he told me the same things while screwing another girl but all he wanted to do is get in my pants and thats all he wants to do he is gonna realize what hes missing but you will be doing something else and going out with someone else your better than him all he can do is drag you down
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Cut the strings. Turn him loose. No more hanging out, no more talking about relationships with him...nothing.
He's gone WAY past the line. You can do better. You DESERVE better. Not every guy thinks only below the belt.
It might hurt for a while, but you need to do your best to end ALL contact with him. You can't be "friends" with him - you'll just end up being hurt again and again. It's like picking at a scab. You just keep making it bleed, and it will never heal.
So stop. Get yourself busy with other things: volunteer someplace, take a class, learn something new, make new friends. The busier you are, the less time you'll have to think about him and what he's doing with that girl. That way, you'll heal more quickly.
It would be a good idea to give yourself a little time off from boys, too. You don't want to deal with a rebound relationship - that would just hurt you all over again. Take your time, and the right guy will come along.
Once you cut the strings your old boyfriend may come running (or crawling) back, swearing that he's done with that other girl and only wants you. That's an old story. If you give in to him, he'll be back with her within a month.
For your own sake, you need to just cut him out of your life completely, and KEEP him out - for good. It won't be easy. But it's what's best for you.
Good luck!
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Thou she may not enjoy sex, its what she uses to get get him back when she screws up. Yea she does sounds like a slut for doing that but he's also taking her up on every offer she gives him. He may still have feelings for you, but it sounds to me that you are his "crutch" when she's just doesn't want him at that time. Do you still have feelings for him? Like you want to be with him again? The next time he calls you wanting to hang out when his girl ditches him tell him no! That will shock his azz! Forget her, but YOU deserve better and maybe one day he'll wake up and realize what a wonderful person he let go of!
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I went through the same exact thing.
Then, I realized...if you keep letting them do this to you, they are going to take advantage of you.
If he asys jump, he expects you to jump.
So next time they have a "fight", and he invites you to hang out with him, tell him no.
That ought to surprise him a little.
Make him feel what it is like to be the loser for once.
Keep me updated!
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