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She keeps putting me down.
Right, my best friend is usually really nice, but recently she keeps putting me down, mostly about things that arent even true. She keeps pointing out people and saying they're taller than me and teasing me about my 'frizzy' hair. Shes even started being mean about the things i like. Like my big eyes she says are weird and the other day she said "I like my tummy better than yours" and i really like my toned tummy. Even though most of it isnt true, its really getting me down. What should i do? Please do not tell me to talk to her about it because she would just tell me i'm being stressy.
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Okay. Is this girl really your friend?! I've known alot of girls like that and if you cant get them to stop you have to make a desicion. Is trying to keep this friendship worthwhile? Or would you rather waste your time trying. Or when you talk to her, sticking up for yourself is the best thing you could do. Say "excuse me but I really like my tummy."(or something to that effect.) Dont stress over it. There are mean people out there and Its so cool that you know its not true. There are girls that get mad at themselves over this kinda stuff. Hope it helped!
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heyyy Maybe yourfriend is insecure or jealos of you? maybe something is wrong at home? see if you can ask a sibling of hers or another close friend? if not, then maybe you can just give her time to chill and go hang with other friends. if she stays the same then maybe its time to get a new bff (if she is- you didnt mention) so i hope all goes well and i hope i can help! xoxo
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Usually i would ask you to talk to her about it but if she is being so mean im sorry but i dont think she is that good a friend.
Your friend should be someone whos nice to you and someone you trust. Not someone who treats you this way.
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Alright. From the time i was six years old, i've always had the same best friend. Not until we were 12 did we start having real fights and problems. I tried telling her the way i felt with her, which i would totally suggest for you. Depending on how sensitive your friend is, talking things out really will help. In my situation though, my friend was incredibly sensitive and deffensive. Just talking didnt work, and i guess you could say we kind of took a break from eachother. It only took about 2-3 months of not being around eachother, and to tell you the truth it really worked. We took a breather and we tried talking again, we're great friends now, just not as dependent on eachother as before. Good luck with whatever happends, i'm sure things will work out. <p>[♥]
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Your friend probably does this because she is insecure about herself and possibly is jelous of what you have and what she doesn't so she's trying every way possible to make herself feel like she's better than you. Well you've got to decide if she's worth putting up with that crap or otherwise talk to her and tell her how u feel, and if she doesnt stop you guys are over as friends.
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Suprisingly, I used to have a friend JUST like that.
Unfortunately, one day I gave her a taste of her own medicine and told her what I really thought of her, and it just went all downhill from there.
I think you should talk to her, and tell her it is hurting your feelings. She probably doesn't even realize shes doing it.
If that fails, maybe you should stop hanging out with her and find new friends. It may be hard, but its for the best.
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ok, whenever she tells you something that isn't too nice, tell her that it hurt you and if she tellsl you that you're being stressy than tell her that if she was really your fiend that she'd understand whyou you're mad. if she keeps treating you like this, even after telling her how you feel, then you should probobly not be friends with her. a real friend looks at all of the good things about you and should not be comparing herself to you.i hope everything works out!
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Aside from not being her friend, you have two options:
1. Don't say anything and hope she stops. (not likely)
2. Tell her exactly how you feel when she says those things, if she tells you you're being stressy, tell her she can think what she wants but that's who you are.
My suggestion is the second option, that way you have given her the opportunity to change her behavior. If she continues to belittle you, you need to make some new friends or start spending more time with current friends who aren't little snots. If you put some distance between the two of you, she'll either get mad (because she's not controling you) or she'll recognize the error of her ways and apologize. Most likely, she'll get mad. Trust me, it's easier to deal with this head on, because if you allow her to say those things about you, she'll get worse not better. If you're her doormat, you won't be losing a friend, you'll be losing a kick in the face.
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Don't be her friend anymore. People like that have problems, she wants to use you to make herself feel better. You're better off not having her as a friend.
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Get better friends, leave her. Get away from her.
She is just a big bitch!
You do not need that, just dis her and find better friends. Because it will just get worse.
Good Luck!
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