to all the people who gave me advice on the rape thing.thanks..i guess you guys were right cuz uhh i told my mom and she listend to the phone call and we went to the cops and they sent me to a doctor to "check" me out for seamon or somthing and they found some and it matched him so hes going to juvey..its a start...so thank you everyone who gave me advice on it..it gave me the couragee to do it and you know what? after i told the police other reports of it showed up..so THANK YOU SOO MUCH!! (sorry it was long:-D)
Wow! I can't believe everything happened so fast!! That's great news!
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I have had a really bad guilty feeling since 2 weeks ago. I went to a dance(at my school), and me and my boyfriend snuck out of the dance. We went up behind the school, and we...uhh...had sex. I have been with him for 2 years, and i dont regret doing him. But i have had a horrible guilty feeling about it. And i dont know why. Can someone please tell me why i feel guilty, and something that i can do to make the feeling go away. Please and thank you. By the way, I'm a 14/f.
-EmoChick
You may not regret doing it, but if you feel guilty it's because a part of you believes that it was wrong. If it makes you feel guilty then you shouldn't do it again. The only thing that will make that feeling go away is time, but that only works if you don't do it again. Otherwise, the guilt will start all over again.
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13/f
i was recently raped and im scared. the guy who raped me..was my bedt friends boyfriend (shes 14 hes 15 turning 16) and im scared. i have nightmares about it and im afraid to go to sleep..i keep getting calls that have perverted breathing for like 15 seconds then he hangs up i havent told anyone..and im SCARED!! he threatend to kill me and my family..what should i do??
I'm so sorry that happened to you. You need to tell your parents what happened, and I know it will be very hard to do. Please don't keep this a secret, it will eat you up inside if you don't talk about it with someone. If it's too hard to tell your parents, start with your school guidance counselor, but if you do this be aware that they may be required to report it. I really think you should start with your parents, they love you and can help you make some tough decisions about what to do. After you tell your parents, you really should try to get some counseling. Above all else, remember that this was NOT your fault in any way shape or form. You are in no way to blame, no matter what you did or did not do.
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My best friend is over weight. My other freinds and I are all skinny. Well, I found out she is on a diet and trying to loose enough weight to look good in a bathing suit. And I think that's so great and stuff. She sent me this question on Advicenators on what she should do ... I found out it was her and said we should talk. I'm waiting for her to say something to me. i told me two other freinds.. all four of us are BFs. I'm worried she's on a bad diet. She's been overweight her whole life.Should we talk to her about it? I know if we did she would get all offensive. She doesn't dress for her body type and I don't know what to say. Should we talk to her? What should we say? What if she gets mad? What advice could we give her? I WILL RATE 5S!
Why don't you just answer the question she sent you? She probably is uncomfortable talking to you in person, hence the reason she asked you on Advicenators.
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I'm about 5'4" and I weigh 180. Now every night my weight flunctuates and goes anywhere from 174-181. I plan to go gym...which I will start monday but I really need advice on how much weight I need to lose...n how much lbs is healthy to loose in 1 month. I checkd my BMi n it's like I'm obese...n bout 135-140 is the highest normal weight I can have. That's like 40- 50 lbs I want to loose. Now I don't plan on jus losin it in one month cause I'll get bulemic//eatin disorder. I'm planning to stay in the gym for at least 1 years and stuff but I really want to lose the weight in like 3-4 months. How can I achieve this? How much lbs is healthy to lose in 1 month? And is 135-140 my perfect score?
Well, first of all, good for you for wanting to lose weight the right way! So many people mistakenly thinks there is some magical quick fix and that is just not the case. The pounds will come off most quickly in the beginning and it will get harder as you get thinner. I think an achievable and healthy goal is to lose 10 pounds a month for 3 months and 5 pounds a month after that. Your ideal weight will depend somewhat on your body type, ie: is your frame big or small, but I think that 135 pounds is a good goal weight to start with. If you get to 135 and you want to lose more, then I think 125 is possible. Just remember, the thinner you are, the harder it is to drop pounds so you'll have to step up the exercise as you go along or you'll likely hit a platueau. My advice is to incorporate weight training with whatever cardio you do. Increased muscle = increased calories burned, and using weights will speed up the process. You may gain a little weight initially as you build muscles but in the long haul you will lose more. Best of luck!! You can do it!!!
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Okay, Ive been in this relationship for almost 5 months and Im very much in love with the man I lost my virginity to. I dont know if it'll last long because hes so hard to be with, partly because hes so close to his friends. Their inseperateable and he doesnt realize it but hes alot nicer alone than with his friends around, also we cant drink together because he gets super irritated and acts like a dick and like he doesnt want me around him so I get emotional because ive been drinking and then i become a mess. I love to party and im the happiest drunk ull ever meet, but for some reason when I drink with my boyfriend he destroys that mood in an instant by doing something to make me upset. Funny thing is, he tells me its because he gets more irriated when he drinks hard stuff, but beers okay with him and he says i act stupid when i drink and that he doesnt like it when i drink cuz i get emotional. Well....probably becuz im drinking with him!!! Dont get me wrong, i love him to death i just dont see how its going to work because for once in my life ive come to realize that maybe love isnt enough anymore. I dont like being with someone i see maybe once or twice a week and its always on him whether we see each other or not. Im always the one to call after school and find out from his sister that he left with his friends. I work, he doesnt. Hes 19. Im 17. He thinks that if we care about each other so much that when he goes to college a couple hours away that we wont grow apart and that we'll see each other on weekends, however i know better. I can wake up to reality and see that if we have trouble seeing each other now, being 15 minutes away, how can it possibly work out when hes 2 hours away? And i know what some of you will say..tell him how you feel...tell him you think he needs to hang out with you more often and not his friends. Thing is I dont want him to think im some controlling girlfriend that wants to pussy whip him. One relationship in his life he always talks about is him and this girl lets say named Whitney. And she had him pussy whipped like no other that he blew off his friends for her. That was 2 years ago and after it ended badly he hadnt had a g/f since...until now. And unfortunately his friends mean soooo much to him that he doesnt know how to balance it out and so hes blowing off me for his friends. I find it unfair. Because he cant use something like that as an excuse and I am not going to pay for some dumb bitch's mistake.
Sorry for basically spilling out my lifes story but theres just some issues I have in this relationship and I just am not secure about what i should do. I hope someone has some great advice to help me
Your boyfriend sound extremely immature and definitely is not ready for committed relationship. It sounds like he's in what I like to call a "dick click". They do everything together, always say "we're doing this" or "we don't want to go there", and my guess is that they all drink a lot too. This doesn't make him a bad person, but it does make him a bad boyfriend. He cares way more about the "dick click" than he does about you and that is evident by the way he spends him time. How a person spends their time is a great indicator of where their priorities are and where their heart lies. He treats you like like leftovers, if he has some time leftover and you make yourself available, you'll do but you're not his first choice. His ex-girlfiend sob story is nothing more than a pathetic excuse, don't buy it for a second. You deserve better, you deserve to spend your time with someone who can't wait to see you, someone who treats you like the special person that you are. Save yourself some wasted time and drama and break up with him now before he has the chance to REALLY hurt you after he leaves for college. I really think you'll be much happier without him. Yea, the initial breakup will hurt because of your history together, but history tends to repeat itself and is the history you've had with him so far something you want repeated?
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To start off, I guess I should tell you I'm 15 years old. My mom is VERY religious. She goes to church every chance she gets. She is one of the strongest believers God and the bible that I have ever met. I, on the other hand, am confused about all of this. My beliefs in God, the bible, heaven, hell are slim. I've lost alot of faith. It's my age, I guess.. I'm to the point where I need proof and evidence of everything. I can't believe in something over what a book says. I need evidence from scientists. From what I know, there has been no proff of the Bible Days. So my question is this.. How could I tell my mom that I don't believe and that I don't want to go to church every sunday anymore? I NEED to tell her, this is important. But I KNOW that it would COMPLETELY crush her if she ever knew. How could I break the news to her? PLEASE HELP! I rate 10's just for trying. But please give me good, honest answers.
Thank you.
I think the best thing to do is to start asking her questions about what she believes. Don't do it in an attacking way, just ask in a curious way, because you are truly wanting some answers. It's good to know what you believe and why you do or don't believe. If you want to make a fully informed decision though, I suggest that in addition to reading some information that criticizes and questions the Bible (and there is plenty) you also read something written by a Christian that criticizes such criticism. There is a book by Lee Strobel, a very successful trial attorney, who was once a big critic of the Bible's validity, the book makes a logical arguement and provides evidence that the Bible is true. The book is called "The Case For Faith". You may still not believe, but it will give you a lot to think about.
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I need to lose 15 pounds in less than two weeks. Now I don't need any bull*hit answers I need ones that work and fit into a constracted time schedule of 1 1/2 hours 3-4 days a week 5 max, I also need diet as well.
If you have no clue do not answer
Unless you weigh like 300 lb's it's not possible. Even if you are that heavy, I still don't think it's possible. You can exersize hardcore every day and eat nothing but carrots and you still will not lose 15 pounds in less than 2 weeks. Even if by some miracle, you did lose 15 pounds, it wouldn't be fat, it would be muscle mass. And as you may know, the more muscle mass you have, the more calories you burn, so that's not a good idea. I'm all for extreme dieting if it works, but believe me when I say it's just not possible.
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So, i've been going through some crap. i'm a freshman, and at the beginning of the year i was in a show where i met a bunch of seniors and juniors and sophomores and other freshman and became friends with them. one of them i immediately had a crush on and his name was david, and he's a senior. he's had a girlfriend for almost a year now, but the girlfriend is a sophomore and she is SO oblivious to what is going on around her and she has no social life and she studies all the time, and she's not a very sexual person at all though her boyfriend is. so by the time the show ended, we were all really good friends. a few weeks later, i started another show with some of them, and david was in it and we grew to be even closer. we used to talk online every night about stuff. keep in mind, now, that he didnt get all that much from his girlfriend. after awhile, things began to get a little out of hand online-i told him that i do masturbate, and that's where it kind of took off. we started to like do it together online, and it wasnt all that bad, but it still was wrong. and we told each other everything and talked about sex all the time and fantasies we have and who we'd like to have sex with. he would compliment me all the time, and tell me i'm beautiful and that he would love to have sex with me someday, but he would never do anything right now because i'm so much younger than him (he's 18, i'm 14). so this went on 2-4 times a week, and it slowly got like more intense and we would say what we were doing as we did it and i dont know what made me do it because i know it was stupid and all but i had a huge crush on him and he made me feel so good about myself. and he used to kid around all the time about sending naked pictures. until one night when he actually did. they got more and more "risky" each picture he sent and by the last one was just like him naked and it was so fun but so wrong! and he asked me to do the same..so i said i would..but i was so afraid because im self conscious and naked pictures are just a bad idea in general. so the next night i did it and sent more teasingly pictures than completely naked ones, and he sent more, and the next night we did it together at the same time and did the whole cyber thing. he also sent a video and asked me to do the same the next night..i was so stressed out every day because i didnt want to take the pictures but at the same time i did and i loved his compliments and i wanted to please him and a video would be just awkward you know? but the night before we did he went to a party, got drunk, and kissed another girl and had to tell his girlfriend and it was this big to do so i told him we need to stop and we did. so then i was like alright we'll still be close and all will be well. yeaaaa right. he didnt talk to me that much at all and he told people he was sick of me and he totally ignored me for a week and during that week i figured out from talking to other people and through whats been going on that he was just using me and he never actually cared about me and was only nice to me and pretended to be my friend so id send the pictures and cyber with him at night. not only did he do this to me, he started to do this with another girl within the past week. and shes 14 too. it sucks and it hurts a lot and he IMed me this morning and said "you are really mad at me huh?" and i just let him have it and i felt so great but he was sweet and said he really does care and really is my friend and all and feels guilty and like..w'ere going to talk later tonight..and i still like him..and i dont know what i should do now! not be friends with him anymore? be aquaintances? be friends? let it all go? be mad or upset? i'm so confused. sorry this is so long, but any help/advice would be greatly appreciated!:)
This guy is disgusting. He totally used you and he will continue to use you as long as you allow him to. He doesn't care about you at all apart from what you can do for him. The fact that he's started doing the same thing with another girl should leave you with NO DOUBT that he is a pervert and will gladly use anyone who is willing to be what he wants them to be, his cyber slut. (I'm not saying you are a slut, but this is how he treated you) Your best course of action is to retain what little dignity you have left and walk away.
Let this be a hard lesson and learn from it, don't repeat your mistake. A guy who really cares about you would not ask you to do the things that he asked you to do. A guy who is trustworthy and has any respect for women would not do the things he has done, especially with a girlfriend. He doesn't care about her either, so don't feel alone, he only cares about himself. You deserve better, in the future, remember that you teach others how to treat you. How do you want to be treated? Accept nothing less!
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Im 13 and in 7 grade. I have A's and B's in all my classes but one. Im failing in math. I dont know why its so hard for me. I belive its because I have never had to study for any other classes because im good at them. The only thing is that im terrible at studying. If I try really hard and study the night before for like six hours I can get a good grade on a test. Just recently I got a mid-B on my test which is pretty good for me. But I dont understand the lesson even when our teacher teaches it to us. The hardest part for me is that my best friend makes PERFECT grades. She has like 100 in three or four classes. It really gets me down when I come home with a C or D and she gets an A. I know its not her fault or anything, but I get kinda jealous sometimes because I really try hard and she doesnt have to. So does anyone know a good way to study and get over my jealosy prob?
Ill rate high as long as its serious.
I've always been horrible at math too, so I feel your pain. I can't say this is true for you, but it turned out that I had a learning disability in Math. Like you, I did well without too much effort in every other area. The reason I ended up getting tested was because my standardized testing scores were very high in the verbal/language area and the math was way below normal. Most people fall into an average range and their scores vary some but a stark contrast (i learned) is a sign of a learning disability. Unfortunately, since math disablities are not common (most people have verbal/language disabilities such as dyslexia) they are often unrecognized and people just chalk it up to " i just suck at math". Maybe you don't have a disability, but if you do, you can sometimes take different types of tests or be allowed longer time etc.
As far as the jealousy goes..there is no cure except to stop wanting what she has, easy A's. Sounds impossible, right? Who doesn't want easy A's? Well, your only chance is to truly desire the best that YOU are capable of. If that means a C in Math, then go for it and be proud of yourself when you succeed. You have gifts and talents that your friend does not, gifts that she will never have because they're yours. It's easy to see what we wish for ourselves in those around us, but it can be so hard to see the things about ourselves that are just as special. Good luck with the Math!!
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okay you know how some people say you're lighter when you weigh yourself in the morning?? is that true?? i was wondering what your real weight was..like in the morning er in the afternoon/day because i noticed when i weigh myself in the morning i weigh less than at night.
thanks!!
The difference in your weight between morning and night is what a few pounds? It doesn't really matter which one you pick, if you weigh less in the morning, pick that one. Just be consistent about what you wear and what time it is if you're trying to monitor your weight. In my opinion, both numbers are your weight but the later one will be heavier because of food, but food is kind of part of us too.
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My name is Jay im actually a coulmnist on this website but would like advice from someone else for a change.
The thing is i moved to Spain 4 years ago and i fell in love for the first time and the girl is great. But now i have moved back to my home country and she has moved to another country and the only thing i have is her e-mail adress. But since she didnt even notice me when we were in the same place how is she supposed to talk to me on MSN or anything. I have no clue what to do, i cant get over her.
What should i do? Im 14 by the way.
Here's the problem, you fell in love but she didn't. Even if she were your next-door neighbor, things wouldn't be any different if she doesn't feel the same way about you. Since she does live in another country, you don't have the opportunity to find out whether or not she would change her mind, so try to let her go. I know it sounds hard, but you can stop yourself from thinking about her. Every time you start to go into a girl from spain daydream, tell yourself (silently) that it's not going to happen and there is someone else for you. If you remain hung up on Spain girl, it's going to be hard to fall for or meet anyone else. The worst thing to do is to allow yourself to dwell on what if's, stop dwelling and you'll start to feel better.
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i'm going back out with my boyfriend after he cheated on me. but i know he won't do it again! a lot of people tell me that i'm stupid.... "once a cheater always a cheater!" but i love him so much and know he won't do it again! WHAT DO I DO?!
Enjoy him while you can because it won't last. There's a reason that we date people before we marry them, and the great part about dating, unlike marriage is that you don't need to feel obligated to take them back. Dating is for weeding out the cheaters, liars, and jerks, so I suggest you move along and leave him for someone else to deal with.
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Okay. This is going to be a longer entry but i'd really love the advice, i need some help on this one. So there's a guy at my school. this is going to sound incredibly typical, but i really do like him a lot. I have for a long time, i think its been about 5-6 years. We were together on and off for the majority of last year, but we had some conflicts and he said he didnt want a romantic relationship over the summer, but maybe once school started up again. This school year is almost over, and he's basically told me and some of my friends he liked me. We flirt with each other a lot, but every once in a while we just kind of stop talking, like for a week or so. I dont really know why, except that he's kind of shy when it comes to me. But with other people he's totally out there, and doesnt hold back at all. Recently, another girl has started to like him too. She's apparently really obsessed, and i do mean obsessed. She writes poems about him and basically freaks out everytime she hears his name. she follows him around and he's all she ever talks about. He knows about all of it, and has no interest in her. i feel bad for her, but at the same time i'm kind of annoyed. she found out he liked me and watches me all the time. her friends question me, him, his friends, my friends, and other people about our feelings for eachother all the time. One of this girls friends asked him if he liked me and he said if he liked me he'd ask me out. I was disappointed at first but just earlier that week we'd been flirting like crazy and his friends were telling everybody about how he talks about me so much and how much he likes me. I'd love to talk to him about it but the truth is i'm totally shy. I really need some advice, either on what i could do to get over my fears or what some of that stuff means. For those of you who read this far, thank you so much. Like i said i really need some help. ♥
Try to forget all the stuff about the psycho girl because she's not relevant to your problem. The facts are pretty simple,
HE broke up with YOU.
You guys flirt all the time, so it's not like you're acting uniterested.
He said "if i liked her i'd ask her out".
He managed to ask you out the first time.
He hasn't asked you out.
For the most part, unless you are acting like you are not interested, ie: don't respond to flirting, a guy who is interested will ask you out all by himself without any coaching. If he can't summon up the strength to do that, he's just not that into you.
I promise there is someone else who will care for you enough to put himself out there and take a chance, this guy just isn't it.
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Right, my best friend is usually really nice, but recently she keeps putting me down, mostly about things that arent even true. She keeps pointing out people and saying they're taller than me and teasing me about my 'frizzy' hair. Shes even started being mean about the things i like. Like my big eyes she says are weird and the other day she said "I like my tummy better than yours" and i really like my toned tummy. Even though most of it isnt true, its really getting me down. What should i do? Please do not tell me to talk to her about it because she would just tell me i'm being stressy.
Aside from not being her friend, you have two options:
1. Don't say anything and hope she stops. (not likely)
2. Tell her exactly how you feel when she says those things, if she tells you you're being stressy, tell her she can think what she wants but that's who you are.
My suggestion is the second option, that way you have given her the opportunity to change her behavior. If she continues to belittle you, you need to make some new friends or start spending more time with current friends who aren't little snots. If you put some distance between the two of you, she'll either get mad (because she's not controling you) or she'll recognize the error of her ways and apologize. Most likely, she'll get mad. Trust me, it's easier to deal with this head on, because if you allow her to say those things about you, she'll get worse not better. If you're her doormat, you won't be losing a friend, you'll be losing a kick in the face.
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i broke up with my boyfriend and said that i just wanted to be friends then he was saying that he loved me and stuff like that. i only feel like i still like him when he talks about other girls and stuff. well like yesterday he started going out with my best friend and she knew i still liked him. on his away messages he always puts i love sarah turner.
he never put i love paityn smith on his away message and we went out for almost 3 months and they have been going out for one day! we arent friends anymore because of this. and i really want to keep it that way.i dont know what to do , and im miserable now without him. do you think its just jealousy or do i really love him?
im in the 6th grade and hes in 7th i know this probably sounds stupid, but he is the only boy ive ever loved.
thank you for reading this
paityn
I promise you that your ex does not love your best friend. He is behaving like a jerk and is only trying to make you jealous. I'm willing to bet that he is using your friend for that reason and it doesn't say much for his character. It's totally normal to feel jealous when someone that you used to be with is involved with/talks about another girl. It doesn't mean that you love him. Whenever someone else gets something/someone that used to be ours, it's normal to feel a twinge of jealousy and doubt. That's just basic human nature, and those feeling will pass with some time. It's too bad that you and you best friend aren't friends anymore because of this guy. However, she doesn't sound like a very good friend anyway so I say it's her loss.
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Background for reference. Disregard it if you only want to read the problem:
I met Ashley at Sam Goody. She kind of followed me around and talked to me a lot. Gave me hugs and flirted at random times. At first it was a little odd, she just seemed like a kid with a crush and I wasn't interested in the least. She quits work and I don't see her for the better part of that year. I don't miss her.
I see her working at a grocery store later on. She doesn't seem quite as interested in me, but she's still incredibly flirtacious. I eventually develop a big crush on her. I ask her out on a date, but what was implied was that her parents wouldn't approve. She was turning 18 later on this year before I turned 21, but the 20-17 year old age gap was too much for them. Shortly after, I pretty much lose the romantic feelings I have for her. They're replaced with pity, from the terrible things I find out happened to her (from someone who knows us both). Before five days ago, we never really talk much outside of her workplace.
What's key to know for the problem:
Sunday (five days ago). She gives me her new number and invites me to her new place that night. While there, I listen to her complain about her now ex boyfriend and how she isn't over him. He used her for sex after he dumped her, then left without saying a word.
Tuesday. I text her asking if she feels like doing anything that day. She said, "I made a huge mistake. Shannin called and asked to see me and I said yes." I told her she can use plans with me as an excuse to not see him if she feels she shouldn't, and that I didn't think she shouldn't see someone who recently used her. She says, "Thanks. I know I'm really stupid but I just still love him so much"
She calls me later that night, crying from what happened earlier. I asked her if she needed me to come over and she said she wouldn't be much of a host since she would just be crying, but she could use the company.
It takes me a little while to get there, and when I do no one answers the door. I walk in and find her in a room with depressing music playing. She has a blade in her right hand and her left arm is covered in blood. She cries to me telling me how stupid she is and how it seems she can't learn from her mistakes. I try to comfort her I tell her how common such a thing is and turn off her music. I have her choose from a few different movies I brought over and we watch one that is now one of her favorites. She says that she feels a little better now and asks me to hang out with her the next day.
Wednesday. We start hanging out in the late morning. We watch a few things and talk. I learn some things about her past, distant and recent, that don't reflect well on her, for instance, she's capable of stealing. We go out to eat and to a few different places, an overall good time despite my being quiet from drowsiness. I leave to give my mother a ride home from work, and she asks me if I'm coming back afterwards. She said she would like it if I did.
After I come back, we go to her father's place to watch a movie (her father's working on her house) and so she can check stuff online. I get a quick glance at what she types in an e-mail. It read, "...heart broken again...feel like maybe I should just kill myself..." An exaggeration of her recent mood, but it still alarms me. I ended up staying with her until she was almost falling asleep after midnight again.
My problem: I've been noticing a list of things I don't like about Ashley, but the biggest thing in that list is the fact that I now have feelings for her again (spending over 12 hours with someone and you'll know how you feel about them after you leave). It might be stronger feelings than before, since I can't get her out of my head. I can't date her because no matter what she feels for me, which probably isn't more than friendship, she still is so caught up with and damaged from her ex that she's thinking about suicide. No good can come from having feelings for someone like this.
I desperately want to help her. I haven't been getting more than a couple of hours of sleep a night worrying about her. In the past, I've tried to help friends (all female) by trying to convince them they shouldn't make mistakes like this, which lead to arguments. They end with them being pissed at me, then making the mistake anyway. I've learned it's better to just give your advice/opinion once and hope they'll listen to it. If they make the mistake, they make the mistake.
The thing is, I don't think she can afford to make this mistake again. I can't tell her not to, it's her life, her business. I already told her how I felt about everything. My best friend thinks I should stay away from her, and she might be right, but I can't turn my back on her when just spending time with her seems to cheer her up a little, especially since now I care for her more than I would a friend. I considered trying to convince her to see someone about this, but I know from experience that, despite the good intentions, it will driver her away. I can't afford that since it seems like I'm one of the very few things kind of helping her. I know for a fact that she would go back to this guy, and I don't want that to happen. It could literally kill her. So what can I do? How can I help her past this?
As you know, Ashley needs professional help, and you aren't it. You sound like a sweet guy, but the truth is that Ashley's biggest problem is Ashley, not her ex-boyfriend. If you want to be a friend, fine, but you can't be her savior. The problem with being a friend to someone like Ashley is that she'll suck you dry and once you can't give anymore she'll move on to someone else. Here's another thing to ponder, although your presence brings her some degree of cheer, it isn't enough to change her behavior. You could spend all day with her for weeks and with one short visit from her ex, she's sitting on her bed again with a knife. The outcome is the same. I hope she is able to get some professional help and turn her life around, but I wouldn't bet on it.
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My boyfriend is EXTREMELY overprotective. I talk to this other boy like on the computer and on the phone because we're just wicked good friends. We've never really met in person, but I'm thinking this kid likes me. He like always brings up my bf in negative ways and tells me to dump him and that he'd never do anything bad to me. Now my boyfriend wants to kill him even though he doesn't know him and my friend wants to kill my bf even though he doesn't know him. No matter what I say to my bf about not touching him or not worrying about it he just goes on and talks about beating up the kid or killing him and stuff. Now I'm finally going to meet this kid and we're sleeping over my friends house together. My bf is completely paranoid and says "IF THAT KID LAYS ONE FINGER ON YOU HE'S DONE ILL F***ING KILLTHAT KID." can you just please tell me what to do? it's getting way out of hand!!
What are you thinking?????????? You've never met this guy before and you're going to spend the night at your friend's house together? First of all, until you've met someone in person, you don't really know them, and it's unwise to have your first meeting be a sleepover. Second, I would be worried if your boyfriend wasn't angry. He should be angry and not just with internet boy but with you as well. If you care about your relationship with your boyfriend, stop talking to the internet boy. If you want to be a drama queen, keep doing what you're doing.
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Ok, to sum it up. I like this guy, and my friends all think he likes me, even though they don't know i like him, and then my friend told me she likes the guy i have a crush on. and even though we're not really good friends, she asked me if i liked him and i said no, so know i feel like if she finds out i do like him she'll think i just decided it after she said she liked him. to complicate things even more, i still like a guy from camp who i haven't talked to since summer. i'm not sure what to do.. i mean alot of my friends think he likes me, and i guess i sorta see it, but i'm not sure.
thanks
Tell your friend (in private) that you do like the guy that she likes and explain why you said you didn't tell her yes when she asked. This will go over a lot better if she hears it from you rather than from someone else. Just be honest, she may not like the truth but I think you'll like yourself more if you straight forward. All you can do is tell it like it is and if she thinks you just like him because she does, there's nothing you can do about it. Either way, she's probably going to figure it out, and if it does work out for you and this guy you don't want to feel guilty about lying to your friend.
As far as the camp boy goes....if you and the camp boy were keeping in touch that would be different, but since he hasn't contacted you since SUMMER, I don't think anything is going to happen.
Besides, it sounds like there's a very real possibility that you and the other guy mutually like each other, and if that's the case, camp boy is about to become a nice but distant camp memory.
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okay so everyone at school calls me a slut n even my friends. like i no there jsut kidding and all but it really bugs me and i want it to stop. ive had sex with 4 people.. is it THAT slutty? im 15. i dont no wat to do i just wish it never happend. i just want to earn respect from my friends and clear my bad reputation. ]
any ideas?? it would be greatly appreciated
Everyone makes mistakes and that's a part of being human. The good news is that you're still young and you have the rest of your life to make better choices. And regardless of what other people think of you and what names they may call you, I don't believe that deep down in your soul you are a slut. I think that having sex with 5 people at the age of 15 is a sign that you are looking for acceptance and love in any form you can get it and sex is one way that girls often try to fill an emotional need. I think you already know that it doesn't work.
As far as your reputation is concerned, you've done some major damage. But the thing to remember is that it's not what others think about you that matters the most, it's what you think of yourself. You should start by forgiving yourself and respecting yourself. You tend to project the way you feel about yourself in subtle ways that others will pick up on. If you want to be respected, respect yourself.
Also, please know that no matter what you do or how bad you think you've screwed up, there is no sin, no mistake, no number of sex partners, that is too great to be forgiven by God. He is the author of second chances and fresh starts.
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