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Earning Respect
okay so everyone at school calls me a slut n even my friends. like i no there jsut kidding and all but it really bugs me and i want it to stop. ive had sex with 4 people.. is it THAT slutty? im 15. i dont no wat to do i just wish it never happend. i just want to earn respect from my friends and clear my bad reputation. ]
any ideas?? it would be greatly appreciated<33
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I don;t really think that's slutty, it doesn;t really matter how many people you've slept with, it's really more the way you act around other people. I mean, I'm a virgin and I've been called a slut b4 so, it really depends on the way you act. My suggestion would be to stop sleeping with guys 4 a bit, but you can still be in a relationship, just show them that you don;t thrive on sex and that you can be in a serious relationship without someone in your pants.
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Sadly people are real jerks, even on this site, with the rude comments they left you. What you do on your own time has nothing to do with anybody else. It's your life, and yours only! Having sex isn't a bad thing at all, there also isn't a so called right age to be having sex. About your friends well most likely their just jealous, that you have more experience even if they don't admit it. Trust me on this one! And to all the girls that said your a slut on this site are such whores that can't get any dick! I swear!! You don't need other peoples respect JUST YOUR OWNS, if you have that your all set!
♥ maria ♥
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well the reason that people are calling you a slut is because you are one. and i do not think that they are joking.
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its your life and you can live it how you want to. but 15 is a young age to be having sex, and 4 people is more than a lot of people have sex with in their entire lives. so people are gonna talk no matter what you do. they find pleasure in revolving their lives around yours, so if they talk shit, let them. just be flattered they`re willing to spend so much of their time thinking about you. but if you want to clear your reputation you have to stop having sex. stop doing anything sexual for that matter. if you don`t give people anything to talk about then the things they used to talk about just don`t seem significant anymore.
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Everyone makes mistakes and that's a part of being human. The good news is that you're still young and you have the rest of your life to make better choices. And regardless of what other people think of you and what names they may call you, I don't believe that deep down in your soul you are a slut. I think that having sex with 5 people at the age of 15 is a sign that you are looking for acceptance and love in any form you can get it and sex is one way that girls often try to fill an emotional need. I think you already know that it doesn't work.
As far as your reputation is concerned, you've done some major damage. But the thing to remember is that it's not what others think about you that matters the most, it's what you think of yourself. You should start by forgiving yourself and respecting yourself. You tend to project the way you feel about yourself in subtle ways that others will pick up on. If you want to be respected, respect yourself.
Also, please know that no matter what you do or how bad you think you've screwed up, there is no sin, no mistake, no number of sex partners, that is too great to be forgiven by God. He is the author of second chances and fresh starts.
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Well, nothing makes me more happy than to hear that you want to clear your reputation. It's very responsible of you and I know that you can definetly find it in yourself to do so!
For one thing, it's no joke to be called a slut, theres nothing funny about it at all even if you don't mean it. So you have to be the one to step up and tell them that you feel hurt to be called a slut and that it isn't a joke to you. You have to tell them that you want to start over and have support in it. If you have friends that are calling you a name that everyone else is calling you, how will ever ever find support in their hearts?
For another, you have to be able to forgive yourself for this reputation. You say that you wish it never happened. Well, it did, but that doesn't mean it's too late to start over and move forward. If you truly can't forgive yourself for what's happened, then you'll never be able to move on. It's about loving yourself again and loving who you are.
You also asked if having sex with 4 different people was slutty. Well, it's a slutty act, but I don't think you ARE a slut. I think you've made a mistake, and you're learning from it. And I hope you've learned that having sex young isn't the smartest thing you can do for yourself. Even if you weren't being called a slut, I hope you'd still want to clear things up and start over. Because you will likely not end up with these people later on. You will likely not be married to them because you are so young. Everything changes very much as you get older.
Sometimes it takes learning from experiance to understand why something doesn't work out. I hope that you now understand from experiance that young sex isn't the way to go.
-TheTeenGirl
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Well having sex with four guys is your business && not my business or anybody else`s but if the guys talk or if you talk about it then you will probably get labeled a slut..
Maybe keep your business more down low && have more standards with guys sweetie..
Your very young still && you don`t want a bad rep forever..
♥Dez
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Well in my opinion you're too young to have sex with FOUR guys ((well I'm hoping they're all guys since you said people)) and I don't want to be mean or anything but I think that is kind of too much for your age. Clearing your reputation will be kind of hard but don't have any regrets. Maybe doing what you do made you learn from those situations, so just try to earn your reputation back by keeping things slow with people.
♥ Alexa
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Honestly, I don't think its slutty. What you do in your free time has nothing to do with other people. Unfortunately, Not everyone sees it that way. A lot of people see having sex as a bad thing. Your supposed to wait till your married, which i don't believe in that either.
There really isn't much to do to clear your reputation. Once you get it, it pretty much sticks with you. With that kind of reputation you won't get much respect. People can be quite ignorant, and its ridiculous, but theres nothing you can do.
Even if you stop, it doesnt matter, people will still think of you that way.
Just be yourself and don't worry about them. Thats all you can do. Sorry if thats now what you wanted to hear.
Good luck!
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That kind of rep is very hard to break, seriously, 15 and 4 guys? To be quite honest (and not meaning anything out of spite) but that is a bit "much"
Only way you can get any respect back and ruin that bad rep is tojust not do anything like you have done anymore. Sure some words might linger about it, but if you just stay away from things that will give you that bad rep, then you should get a better one in a matter or time. That is really all you can do about it.
I hope I helped.
-Ryan
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Ok, come on you have to know that is pretty slutty. Do you want us to tell you that is not slutty? Because it is.
But, like everyone else has said, stop have sex with people. Because no one is going to stop if you keep screwing guys.
So to earn respect and clear you bad rep, your going to have to seriously stop with the fucking. Try explaining to your friends, that you don't like them calling you that, and that you want to change your ways, but only say that if you are going to stop.
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well your are slutty just stop sleeping with kids ur 15 young lady
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&& if you name is marcy, i'ma gunna laugh
but other than that, i'm not sure what you can do..
just try to ignore them cuz they are gay
ok
bye
edit;;
how did all the other people in the school find out??
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Actually To tell the Truth that is pretty SLutty.
4 Guys im 17 havent slept with any. The only Way to get Respect is Earn It and you probly need to stop having sex. Your only 15 Thats like asking for the label "slut" Sorry its probly not waht you wanted to hear.
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What you do is your business and no one elses. If you want respect, usually you have to act in such a way that reflects how you want to be seen.
Since that isn't really an option for you, you need to stand up for yourself. You need to stand up to your friends and everyone else that calls you whatever. You don't have to fight, you don't have to yell, you just need to be no-nonsense and serious.
4 partners at 15 will seem like a lot to the others around you and there is nothing you can do about that. But if you don't/refuse to take it, they will get the message. People will still call you a slut. You are probably far more experienced than most of your class.
But everyone has things they are insecure of and sensitive about. If they can exploit yours, you can exploit theirs. Maybe if they understood how crappy it is to be singled out, they wouldn't be so quick to do it themselves.
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ok im not gonna lie..
that is slutty
& theres no way that you can really "clear" ur bad reputation..
but yeah if u want them to stop..
then stop having sex.
its simple.
<3 Lauren
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