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She's so shy.
Okay. This is going to be a longer entry but i'd really love the advice, i need some help on this one. So there's a guy at my school. this is going to sound incredibly typical, but i really do like him a lot. I have for a long time, i think its been about 5-6 years. We were together on and off for the majority of last year, but we had some conflicts and he said he didnt want a romantic relationship over the summer, but maybe once school started up again. This school year is almost over, and he's basically told me and some of my friends he liked me. We flirt with each other a lot, but every once in a while we just kind of stop talking, like for a week or so. I dont really know why, except that he's kind of shy when it comes to me. But with other people he's totally out there, and doesnt hold back at all. Recently, another girl has started to like him too. She's apparently really obsessed, and i do mean obsessed. She writes poems about him and basically freaks out everytime she hears his name. she follows him around and he's all she ever talks about. He knows about all of it, and has no interest in her. i feel bad for her, but at the same time i'm kind of annoyed. she found out he liked me and watches me all the time. her friends question me, him, his friends, my friends, and other people about our feelings for eachother all the time. One of this girls friends asked him if he liked me and he said if he liked me he'd ask me out. I was disappointed at first but just earlier that week we'd been flirting like crazy and his friends were telling everybody about how he talks about me so much and how much he likes me. I'd love to talk to him about it but the truth is i'm totally shy. I really need some advice, either on what i could do to get over my fears or what some of that stuff means. For those of you who read this far, thank you so much. Like i said i really need some help. <p> ♥
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Dear " So Shy "
You sound like a girl that relates extremley well to my best friend .. roxie, or is it casey? Oh jeeze I can never tell these days.
Anyways, you shall walk to publix, buy a frozen hot chocolate, pop a few balloons then go to the new movie theaters and get some chick-fil-a.
Soon enough your problems will be thru.
PS: If you can't do the math, stay out of the equation.
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Try to forget all the stuff about the psycho girl because she's not relevant to your problem. The facts are pretty simple,
HE broke up with YOU.
You guys flirt all the time, so it's not like you're acting uniterested.
He said "if i liked her i'd ask her out".
He managed to ask you out the first time.
He hasn't asked you out.
For the most part, unless you are acting like you are not interested, ie: don't respond to flirting, a guy who is interested will ask you out all by himself without any coaching. If he can't summon up the strength to do that, he's just not that into you.
I promise there is someone else who will care for you enough to put himself out there and take a chance, this guy just isn't it.
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Well there's no way to get around it,your just going to have to talk to him,the more you do the more comfterable you will be with talking to him,then you will no longer have the whole being shy thing,hope this helps
Jasmine,
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heyy
well what he said about asking you out could have been just to get that girl to shut up, or he could be waiting until the perfect time , or maybe hes just as nervous as you are. thats what im guessing because guys confuse every girl- lol. but maybe to confront him you can write a note to him or get one of your friends to ask him.
hope i can help and good luck! xoxo
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Well you say your totally shy but if you have been flirting this often i think its time you do something about it.
And if you cant build up the courage to ask him out yourself or see how feels get a good friend to do it.
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i think you should go for it & talk to him. what do you got to lose?? you'd wouldn't feel so great if you didn't talk to him & he moved on, ya know?? if you can flirt with him then you can definately talk to him about it. try not to be shy. i know it sounds difficult but you should really try. you don't want to regret not doing it & maybe he wants you to. try not letting the whole girl situation bother you. obviously he doesn't like her & he might like you. juss talk to him about it.
-hope that helped!♥
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