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SCARED!
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i was recently raped and im scared. the guy who raped me..was my bedt friends boyfriend (shes 14 hes 15 turning 16) and im scared. i have nightmares about it and im afraid to go to sleep..i keep getting calls that have perverted breathing for like 15 seconds then he hangs up i havent told anyone..and im SCARED!! he threatend to kill me and my family..what should i do??
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You have GOT to go to the police. I know it's a terrifying thought and it's so scary to think that he might hurt someone but think about it this way. If you don't stand up and do something about this, he's going to do the same thing to more girls and make them feel the way you do right now.
Make sure you tell your parents first. They have to know that something like this has happened to their daughter and you will need their support with going to the police because it won't be an easy experience for you. Because you didn't go to the police straight away, there will be no DNA evidence but if he didn't use protection, you need to be checked out for any infection, disease or pregnancy and again, you will need your parents support through this.
I doubt VERY much that he will do anything to harm your family. He is going to be using that as a threat to prevent you from reporting to the police. Call his bluff and do it. For your safety as much as anyone elses. When you do go to the police, tell them about the telephone calls. They might be able to trace the number and block it. If it comes from him, he can also be charged with harassment, as well as rape.
I am so so sorry that this has happened to you but now that it has, you can't let him get away with it. I know that it's tough because he's your best friend's boyfriend. But how do you know he hasn't done this to her? Also, if he can treat you this way, who knows how long it will be before he does treat he like that? You need to help yourself and other girls by doing something about it. You CAN be strong and you CAN report him to the police. Please be brave. Too many people get away with this. Don't be another victim.
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OMG! This is serious. Tell someone, tell your parents! You shouldn't be scared. If you tell your parents, then what you are doing is RIGHT! Most importantly tell the police.
This kind of stuff needs to stop. If someone rapes you and threatens you, you right away tell someone. I was in shock when I read this, and when I looked what date this was posted up. I right away started this.
You need to be safe. Tell the police so he can book this guy. It doesn't matter whether it's your best friends boyfriend. You friends can find someone better, then to rape her other best friends.
I'm going to pray for you, that everything is alright, and that this person is in jail right now. Please, I am telling you, Tell someone, ANYONE! An adult, teacher, mom, dad, sister, brother, anyone!
Then when everything is over with, hang out with your family, and get this out of your mind.
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Oh my gosh. You should tell you parents or at least your mother. This is very serious and give the phone to your mother or father when he calls!
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It's very important that you tell an adult about this. While it might seem scary as he's threatened you, the way to regain your power is by telling your experience to someone and getting help. It's also important because keeping your mouth shut not only will hurt your healing process, but it could allow him to do this to other girls.
In order to heal and move on, to feel strong again, you'll need to talk to someone. A counsellor is an ideal person to work through your feelings with. You would see a counsellor once a week for as long as you needed to feel you were okay.
Your parents, if you feel close to them, are probably the best people to talk to. If you tell them what's happened and they don't take action, then tell someone else. This is a bad thing that has happened to you, and finding someone who believes and supports you is the first step in learning to cope with your fear, nightmares, and anxiety.
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I'm so sorry that happened to you. You need to tell your parents what happened, and I know it will be very hard to do. Please don't keep this a secret, it will eat you up inside if you don't talk about it with someone. If it's too hard to tell your parents, start with your school guidance counselor, but if you do this be aware that they may be required to report it. I really think you should start with your parents, they love you and can help you make some tough decisions about what to do. After you tell your parents, you really should try to get some counseling. Above all else, remember that this was NOT your fault in any way shape or form. You are in no way to blame, no matter what you did or did not do.
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go to the cops asap that is very serious!
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you have to tell someone! tell your family about. if you dont tell anyone then no one will help you and your sistution will get worse and you will stay scared forever and hemight even do what he said he would so i would tell someoen right away. hope this helps you out.
*~Stephanie~*
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No matter what he says tell your parents.
They should call the police. He will be taken care of. He won't be bothering you or any other girls for a while.
Don't let someone harass you and make your life miserable. This is not your fault at all so go and tell your mom right now. You will feel so much better after you do.
Go tell. Its the only way to get over being frightened. :)
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I think you should tell your parents I hope i've helped.
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Tell your family. Tell a close friend. Tell a trusted an adult. And most of all, let the police know.
This is the sole reason why so many rapes go unaccounted for for so long, it's the fear instilled on the victim. YOU NEED TO TELL SOMEONE AND YOU NEED TO TELL THEM NOW. He is 15 and I seriously doubt he can hurt you or your family. This fucker needs to be shipped off where you will never see him again. You need to tell someone, and let the police and everyone else know what he intends to do if you tell. Don't let fear prevail here, because fear is too trivial to let be.
I hate people who do this, and it is my wish that you get help on this. And I hope what I said only helps to encourage you to tell someone and get this bastard where he belongs. You have a prayer from me this night. If you need anything else, please tell me because I would be more than happy to help.
-Ryan
*edit* P.S. Don't think....do.
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omg, hun! You REALLLY need to tell someone. I know it's embaressing but it's true! You're family could sue him and he could go to jail so he won't touch (or kill) your family. This is a serious deal. Or if your to scared to tell your family, than you should get counsiling or something to help relaxe you. And it might even help to tell your boyfriend. Maybe he could talk to his friend, but you really need to tell someone other than the people on the web. I hope this works out for! I wish you all of my luck.
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He's 15, he can't really do that much. However any proof you've been raped, specifically by him, is now long gone and really you should have gone to the authorities straight away.
That's still what you need to do, but you need to catch him out phoning or making threats so he can actually be prosecuted. You definately need to talk to your doctor though, probably them first rather than your parents. A Doc is sworn to keep things between you and them.
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