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Freindship dwindling...what do I say?
If it matters, I'm seventeen, and a girl.
Okay, so I've been really close with this friend of mine for about two years. Then all of a sudden, she decided she was too good for me. She dwells in every issue she has until she makes herself depressed. She's getting all "emo", for another thing, and pushing EVERYONE away, except our mutual friend, who happens to be a guy.
Now, she even admitted to him that she had a crush on him for awhile, but she "got over it". Somehow, I don't think she did. We're in a choral group and she always manages to position herself next to him, which bothers me - not because I like him - because I'm used to hearing his part in my ear. I'm used to listening to him. We always used to practice together for concerts, we sit next to each other in choir because we blend, and all that.
Anyway, so the main issue I have is, what do I say to her, if anything? She suddenly decided she was too good for everyone except one guy - oh, and her "college friends" which are her only "real" friends. Most of my friends are in college, and I still don't act like that.
I almost want to confront her about her pompous attitude, and about her supposed crush on our friend, but it would make everything awkward, I know.
What would you all do in this situation? I'm just curious.
I rate ones for stupidity and fours for bad grammar and spelling. =)
Thank ya for your opinions.
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I know how that is when voices blend well, I'm in choir too.
Well, I would mention it to her subtly, and ask if you could at least sit by him in choir. Tell her your tired of the way she is acting, and maybe pointing it out will help her to change her attitude.
Good Luck,
~*Tiffany*~
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umm well I think she just thinks shes better then everyone else..and since her friends are in college she wants to act "mature" and might not laugh at the things she used to and stuff like that..its almost like her college friends are taking over her life or something..and as for this guy don't let that interfere because then she'll say you're jelause and stuff..just stick to the college thing and her new point of view in your friendship.. x0ox
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you can be engaged to someone and still have feelings for someone else, not the point though, if she's acting all high and mighty like her s**t don't stink then you need to confront her. tell her to stop being such a drama queen and let go of whatever issues she's got because it's clear that she's got some. as for the mutual friend thing, you can't control that just let nature run it's course. and if that doesn't work the help him find a girlfriend who isn't in your choir that way you can still stand near him and she'll back off
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I understand your not wanting to confront her with this. However, the way she is acting is already awkward for you...I'd mention it to her. :)
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Well... I think its always best to talk to someone about what's going on. First off you should talk to her about how you have been noticing her acting different and how you have noticed her pushing people who care about her away. You should try to understand what is wrong with her because maybe something is bothering her that you aren't aware of. Who know's maybe all she really needs is someone to feel sympathy for her and make her feel like she's wanted. Maybe that's why she's acting like she likes this guy. She sees you with him and decides that she wants the attention with him that you have. She's probably just jealous. Also she probably dwells on everything because she doesn't feel as important to anyone and it just makes her depressed... I hope I was of some help
~*ash
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I think that you should talk to your friend instead of keeping everything as a big secret. I also think you should ask her if she likes this kid.....but don't just ask out of the blue...just slowly get into the conversation. Hope i helped....
-isurfinpink-
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That sucks that your friend is acting like that. In my opinion, I think you should confront her about it and ask her if she likes this friend. Also, tell her how you feel about her and you not being as close as you used too. Even if it would make it awkward, it would be better if you talked about it rather than leave it locked up!
-Brianna
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What I think you need to do is reach into yourself first and make sure that you really don't like this guy. Somehow I'm getting the vibe that you do feel something for him, just a little bit, and you're feeling a bit awkward now that someone that you know likes him.
If you don't like him, then I think you need to have a conversation with him about this girl, and if you two need to intervene. Personally, I would go right ahead and kindly and supportively talk to her, because there may be something else that's triggering this change in your friend that she might need to talk about.
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