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Sometimes I think that dancing rules my life. I take a very rigid, strict class where everything must be "just so" and I can't do anything when I want to. One day when my friend tied a friendship bracelet around my wrist, my dance teacher saw it and personally cut it off my wrist so I wouldn't wear it again. Also, when I want to try a sport like soccer or basketball, my dance teacher is the one who refuses to let me, saying that I will twist something or break something and I wouldn't be able to dance. My parents just stand around saying "Listen to what she says, dear. Listen." Now I really want to get some gentle highlights in my hair and my parents said yes at first, but they changed their minds when my dance teacher said no. What do I do? (link)
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Who's the parents hear? Sounds like this dance teacher runs things. If you are really into dancing this much I guess it's okay. But, if you want a life apart from that I think you need to reconsider the whole dancing thing. You certainly have more dedication than I'd want to give it! Good luck :)
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H3Y even though this question is long please don't pass it over I need help.
Im almost fourteen and my nine seventeen year old brother died about a week ago. I don't want to talk about it and my parents are trying to force me into it. I don't want to talk sometimes, I just want to forget. But theres something inside me that wont let me and thats when I get either angry or sad, but I never find myself in tears. I havn't cried since I found out he was dead. Those were tears of shock. If you were in the middle of an algerbra test and got pulled out just to be told your big brother was hit by a car you would probably cry too. I can't take this anymore. Sometimes I just want to turn him into some distant memory, and other times I want to remember him. People tell me to remember all the good times we had, but that just makes me even more sad to know that we won't ever have those times again. My parents arn't helping either. They're wanting to have another baby. They want to replace him. Plus they have allready started turning his old room into a study for my dad. MY twenty year old sister does nothing but cry and therefore gets all the sympathy. I dont ever cry so people think I dont care, but I probably care more than anybody. I know even though he's dead but not gone it still doesn't help me. I find myself always asking "What if." I can't stand "What ifs" But the one question that I have always promised I'd never ask myself is "Why me" Then I realized I shouldn't be asking why me. I wasnt the one that died. So now I am despising my sister for her constant mourning, because she's not crying for Bryson, she's crying for herself. All I need to know is that if I force myself into crying if it will make the pain go away. And if it won't how can I stop hating the world around me. Because now I'm starting to hate myself. I'm afraid to love or trust anybody again and I can't do it alone. (link)
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I'm really sorry to hear about your brother.Everybody grieves in their own way. Don't be mad at your sister because her way is not the same as yours. Your whole family is grieving. You all loved him. What ifs don't do much good. You can what if forever. It changes nothing. If you want to do something that might help you, write him a letter. I know it sounds stupid but give it a try. Tell him all things that you didn't get to say. You could even make a family project of it and keep all the letters in a notebook. Maybe read them out loud on his birthday.
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ok my parents rele fight alot!!!wen i try to go to bed (well atleast try)there always yelling.i've tryed to break it up and talk it out but they yell more!!wat do i do??
sighned,
janice05 (link)
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Try talking to them the next day. Before they go at it again! But while they are in a good mood. They really aren't in the mood to listen during the yell fest. Talk to them when things are calm. :)
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Today, my family and I (14/m) were out playing sports. All was well for a while. Untill my lil brother started to misbehave and be uncooperative.I got vexxed, but i controlled my rage untill we got home.
At home, i was still vexxed.
(since my birthday is about a montn away)My mom asked me what i wanted for my birthday. I told her "i want my brother to be gone for my birthday. that would be the perfect gift."
She got vexx at me. so vexx she couldn't speak. Sheleft the room.
I went to look for her later and i found her crying. what i said really got to her emotionally. she just looked at me like everything was lost.
that look got to me. i am sorry i told her that.
but i dont know what to do.
What should i do?
i can't let her feel like she grew me up wrong- i am her 1st born. she will just give up with the others too.
please help.
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You just need to apologize for saying that. She was just a little emotional for one reason or another and it struck her the wrong way. She will get over it, and she knows you weren't serious. Mom's get that way now and then, we usually just don't get caught! It will be fine.
I think it's wonderful that your whole family goes out and has fun together by the way. You're very lucky. :)
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ok i just found out that we might have to move, and if we do i wont be going to the same school. now heres the problem, we dont have the money to move or to stay in the house we have right now. so i dont want to move and im to young to work any where really.so what should i do????????? (link)
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To be quite honest I don't think this is a problem a kid should be worried about. Leave it to your parents. They will do what is right for your parents. Maybe you could ask if they'd try to find someplace in your current school district so you don't have to change schools. :)
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Okay here it goes, my boyfriend is really unexperienced, and really shy. I want to know if I should just go for it or wait untill he goes for it (it being the kiss) Or is it more of a "we both will know when its right" type of deal. I was the one to initiate most everyhting else such as holding hands and whatnot,...now what? (link)
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If you've been going out a while then go for it. If not, then you might want to wait just a little longer. You both will probably know when it's right, but if he's really shy, just go for it. :)
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alright see me and my boyfriend broke up like Monday ..and this girl well it was his x girlfriend was talking to me and shit acting like she cared like aww i feel soo bad and then like 3 minutes later started goin out with him .. but see i tried to like.. be all calm about it and not get mad but when i read her profile or look at the away messages and just think how their together ..ahh i don't know i just like want to cry .. and i am usually the type that i wait like .. 2 days and then i want a new boyfriend but this time i think about liking other people and i just can't go out with anyone else because i want him .. and the fact that he says he's in love with her but he cheated on her with me last time they went out .. ( we made out ) and he is running back to her and she keeps taking him back and junk but i want him back soo bad and at night i usually cry myself to sleep cause of it.. =/
please help ..
i rate high..
xl brooke lx
( sorry about it being soo long ) (link)
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Sounds like you're better off without him. If him and the ex keep running back to each other then they must have pretty deep feelings for each other. A good lesson learned here is if he cheats with you he will cheat on you. You WILL get over him, may take a little longer than the other times, but you will. :)
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okay well like 2 weeks ago i was in school and my friend asked the kid i liked to sit with me at this assembly because i gave him a dollar.. and he acctually said that to him, so he said he thought i was different but im just a bitch who bribed people with money.. but then the next day my friend pushed me to go talk to him, so i told him what happened and he said he already knew because the kid who asked him had told him everything, and he said they only reason he said that was because he was scared and he wanted to work up some self esteem because he couldnt find the courage to ask me to sit with him.. and then he asked if we could walk to lunch together so we did, and we sat together during class. So then the day after that he accidently told me he was moving, and i didnt talk to him for a while, and then he told me the only reason he didnt tell me was because he didnt know how to, so we talked again. Then he wrote me a letter and it said how he doesnt think he can be with me for the remaining 2 weeks he's here because he cant give me the attention he should give his girlfriend and he thinks he can give me the right amount of attention for what we will be. Then he told me to go out with my best friend. And when i told my 2 best friends, ((ones a boy, ones a girl)) they both agreed. So i went to the dance with him, and i brought him on vacation with me my brother, my grandparents, my brothers friend, and a bunch of family friends. But i don't really feel right. I mean, i love him, but i feel like a player because i didnt even wait 2 days after i broke up with my boyfriend. Is this normal or should i not feel this way? (link)
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Don't feel bad, why should you? You weren't dating the other guy. You liked him but you weren't dating him. You aren't a player, you are a normal girl! :)
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Hey me and my girlfriend just broke up she broke up with me in january a different girl dumped me and i got over her for a little while but when i started talking to her again i couldnt help but love her again i miss her so much i dont know if she likes me
what should i do should i ask her out or should i sit here and wish she would go out with me please help!?!?!?!?! (link)
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Go ask her out. You have nothing to lose. Good luck! :)
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Theres this one guy at mi school and his name is anthony and we talk all the time and like we can talk about like anything and there was a dance and like i broke mi ankle so i cant dance and i really wanted to dance with him... should i ask him out and how? Thanx! =O)
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By all means! You don't have to dance to go and enjoy yourself. I bet you could dance a few really slow ones...what an excuse! Just ask him if he would go with you. Good luck. :)
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I am African-American/Japanese and the guys that I am normally into are white skater types. Nobody I've ever really liked has liked me back, and I've been told it's because I'm too shy. Is it really because I'm too shy or is it because of race? Do guys really think about race? (link)
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Some probably do,they probably wouldn't be real friendly though so I wouldn't worry about that. It may be because you're shy. Learn something about skating (if you don't know much) and start talking to them about that. Get some conversation going. Ask them questions about skating. They really love teaching things about skating. :)
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ok. so i go to lake bluff central school and i really like this boy. he knows from AIM but i can't seem to find out if he likes me or not. i mean in gym he always looks at me but when i turn he always looks away. we talk a lot on AIM about a ton of stuff like school, sports...ect. I just can't seem to talk to him on a regular basis. I mean the only thing i can say to him when he's around his friends is hi. the other day on a school trip my best friend and i had to sit with him because there were no more seeats on the bus. My bf made me sit next to him. we talked a lot on the bus ride home and that was really the first time i had ever really talked to him. Now i always say hi to him. but i still can't find out who he likes. i mean everyone asks him but he never tells. I guess my question is how can i start talking to him more when he's around his friends and do you have any idea how to find out who he likes without torturing him?
from please help me
P.S.can you teach me some ways of flirting without tallking to him? I rate high for good advice! (link)
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I'd forget the flirting. If it doesn't come naturally to you it will just seem phoney. Besides, he talks to you a lot on aim so he must like you already. You just need to talk to him at school more. Why don't you ask him about it on aim since that is where you do most of your talking. Tell him you seem to have trouble talking to him around his friends and see if he can help you out. :)
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okay so i am 14/f and i have never had a boyfriend before. Many times i have come close like this year but then something always gets in the way and ruins it. What i want to know is what is wrong with me i mean i have alot of friends and i am active and athletic and people tell me i am beautiful but i never have had a boyfriend and i dont know if i am doing something wrong. If there is anyone that could help me with trying to fix something that maybe i am doing wrong that would be great!
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You're doing nothing wrong. Give those guys a little more time to mature and thay will be bugging you. Some guys will be by now and some not...Don't worry about it so much, it'll happen. :)
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i am a 14/f and there is this boy that lives down the street from me that is a couple of years older than me and i really like him and want to get to know him better. Everytime that i am outside practicing volleyball he drives by and will wave but he never has said anything to me at all. What should i do to catch his eye? i really want to get to know him and he seems like a great guy to hang out with even if all we become is good friends. Please help me! Thanks! (link)
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Next time he drives by and your playing volleyball...say to him "hey wanna come play volleyball with us?" mAYBE he will! Good way to get to know him. :)
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my friend "Tori" found out that the boy I have a crush on Liked me back but now everyone is saying he lik-ed me. But she found out recntly that he thinks I am cute. if he thinks I am cute and liked me does that mean he stil likes me?
if I guy thinks ur cute and states it to a bunch of other guys does that mean he thinks she is cute or he likes her (link)
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he probably still likes you. Go ask him and see! :)
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okay well there is this guy that has liked me all year long and he tells me all the time that he always thinks about me and he dreams about me and it really didnt bug me because i just ignored him when he told me stuff like that. But then all of the sudden he put something in his xanga that scared me and has haunted me ever since. It said that he would take a bullet for me thats how bad he wants me. And i have been scared that he will do anything just to get me. I dont know if i should talk to the police or a counselor but if someone could please help. He stalks me all the time and he knows everything about me like where i live, what my mom's car looks like and the sticker on the back of the car. To me that is very scary. If someone could please help i am afraid for my life here... i feel like one day he will bring a gun to school and shoot me thats how bad he really wants me and if i say no to him then that makes him really mad. Please help ASAP! ITS URGENT!
thank you
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Tell your parents. Let them deal with it for you. :)
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ok so heres my problem- i went out with this guy a couple of months ago and we only went out for like 2 months but i'm still not over him! im so in love with him! but i also think i'm in love with my best friend(hes a guy). we are soo close but i really think i love him. but my other best friend(whos a girl) also likes him a TON! but he deosn't like her.she doesn't know i like him but i'm just so confused with what to do. cause a lot of people say he likes me but i dont wanna be mean and go out with him. so i really have no idea what to do! help me PLEASE! (link)
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You aren't being mean. If you two like each other and want to go out then go. The girlfriend may be upset at first but, just because she likes him doesn't mean you can't too. She evidently is not going to get him no matter how she feels so, you are doing nothing wrong. If she were dating him, that would be a diffrent story. She isn't he is free to date whoever he likes. Good luck. :)
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ok i think im kind of bi but im not really sure and to afraid to say anything to anyone, my boyfriend of 2 years told me that gay people are gross and if i was ever gay that he wouldnt like it because he wouldnt want me to leave him for a girl but i told him i wouldnt if i was gay but he said it would still be gross....and on top of that almost all people i hang around with are gay,but i cant even tell them or anything because they consider me there "straight" friend...and they would all think its probably weird also if i said anything...what should i do??? (link)
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I think you may be wrong about your gay friends. They would be the perfect ones to ask. Just ask them how do you know if you are bi? They would know better than we! :)
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so i'm selectively mute and i'm trying to be more outgoing i guess. i feel like i'm annoying my boyfriend..like i'm not a really good girlfriend or anything. i call him every other day and talk to him but not so much like everyone else. We talk on AIM and stuff but i don't know what to talk to him about. We have similar interests and stuff but it seems like i can't keep up with conversation. We haven't been going out for long but i worry a lot so yeah... i'm not all that open...and i need help on that. Can you give me ideas with conversation and ways to be more open with replies? i just don't want to say something wrong heh... (link)
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The guy is going out with you so he must think you are okay the way you are! If you feel like it is really a big problem ask him if he thinks you talk to him enough. :)
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I'm a fourteen-year old female I have a girlfriend that I really love but never see. When she talks about sex, she reminds me of my rapist so we haven't had sex yet and I don't think I want to. Every time we talk about getting together she talks about sex, but she writes me poetry and she's really loving. She's suicidal and I feel like protecting her. She hasn't come out to her parents yet and I think she feels safe with me. What should I do? She sort of creeps me out, mostly because she cares about sex so much. I'm a virgin save for my molestation when I was 7 through 8. I don't think she gets that I'm touchy about it, no pun intended (dark humor, sorry). I used to cut myself but I stopped, and she still wants me to. I told her I stopped and she asked me why not. She still does. Her mom's always on heroin and she does pot. I want and don't want to dump her at the same time. Should I break up with her? (link)
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I think you need to forget this girl. She has so many problem that you just don't need to be part of. I know you may not want to but you can't help her...she has to help herself. You have your own problems to deal with and don't need to add hers to the mix. Besides, if you think she's
creepy now just wait until you get closer to her! I think you need to forget about her most of your feelings are probably closer to feeling sorry for her than loving her. Good luck. :)
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