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Dancing Ruling
Sometimes I think that dancing rules my life. I take a very rigid, strict class where everything must be "just so" and I can't do anything when I want to. One day when my friend tied a friendship bracelet around my wrist, my dance teacher saw it and personally cut it off my wrist so I wouldn't wear it again. Also, when I want to try a sport like soccer or basketball, my dance teacher is the one who refuses to let me, saying that I will twist something or break something and I wouldn't be able to dance. My parents just stand around saying "Listen to what she says, dear. Listen." Now I really want to get some gentle highlights in my hair and my parents said yes at first, but they changed their minds when my dance teacher said no. What do I do?
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Who's the parents hear? Sounds like this dance teacher runs things. If you are really into dancing this much I guess it's okay. But, if you want a life apart from that I think you need to reconsider the whole dancing thing. You certainly have more dedication than I'd want to give it! Good luck :)
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That's very ridiculous. I would quit dance and go somewhere else. And, I would save my $$ and just do it. What can your teacher do? You pay her, and remember that!!
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Go get highlights... im sure highlights do not effect you preformance in dancing what so ever... and if dance teacher has a problem with it tell her to shove it... and find a new teacher... you seriously cant live a healthy life when someone is trying to control you... especially over petty stuff... it sounds like she's a control freak who has had issues growing up and you seriously should keep your distance from her... its not good to have sum1 like that in your life... if you really want to stay in her class... stand up to her... if she tells you to do sumthing tell her NO... your not going to do it... no means no and she needs to deal with it... her cutting your bracelet off your hands... thats just illegal.. (if ur living in the USA) she shouldn't touch you EVER... unless shes telling you how to position ur body for dancing
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Tell your dance teacher to F*** off. Seriously. Dump the class and get a new one. You don't have to stop dancing, you just need a teacher with a better attitude.
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Ugh, who is she to rule your life like that. I would go to a different dance school or whatever or just quit. She sounds like a bitch.
-Brianna
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I agree that your dance teacher is very strick, but let me ask you this.....what does she see in you? She may be so impressed with your ability to become one of the best dancers in the world, that she thinks THAT should be your only goal. And while that may be her dream, it may not be yours. If it is, then you should listen to her because she will help you to achieve that goal, but if you don't have those capabilities then maybe she is just a control freak, and you have to try to get your parents to see that. Seems like they are relinquishing their parenting duties to her. They should be parenting you. If they agree with her methods, then you are at least entitled to an explanation.
I hope this helps
Michele
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wow! this sounds like a really really advanced class! how do highlights affect your dancing? i mean i can see how playin soccer could affect it but highlights? what a b*tch! ok dont say that to her haha just tell her nicely that you dont think it would affect the way you dance and you should be able to decide for youself sometimes. just dont fight her...some dance teachers kick students out of the studio if they dont like what they see. luck! <3
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Dude! Your teacher is like controling your life! Shes not your mom and dad and do what ever the flip you want. Tell her your parents said you can and they dont have a problem with it so you can do it. She might be your teacher but she cant tell you what to do with your hair and what sports you can play. I wouldnt even dance for her cuz shes a bi*ch! I would yell at her and tell her to stop controling what you do. x0
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Take a break from dance for a few months. I don't know what kind of dance you're doing, but it sounds like ballet, so try a fun class like hiphop at a different studio. Or try a sport- take a self-defense class or try out for basketball, volleyball, or soccer. If you still want to be semi involved with dance then try out for cheerleading, colorguard, or the dance team. After season's over, if you find yourself missing dance, go back. Otherwise, you can still take a few classes and have fun. You sound really stressed out, so discuss it with your parents, tell them that you need time for schoolwork and dance is just getting too intense at the moment. Don't say you wanna quit- just say you'd like to take a break then come back.
If worst comes to worst, don't let this teacher boss you around. You wanna try out for soccer? Go for it! You wanna highlight your hair? Go for it (with your parent's permission)! Really, how can she stop you?
I used to be a dancer (now I teach myself) so I know what you're going through. If you need any more help email me tinkerbell_7141@msn.com or drop one in my inbox.
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Big question do you want Dance to be your life do you inspire to be a Great Dancer. If so listen i know its hard to ehar right now but yes you should listen she knows what shes talking about. If you dont want to make dancing your life quit you have time you odnt need to do it right now. If your parent say no well then quit anyways dont go or if you do go dont dance. Another thing you can do is talk to you teacher tell her how you feel it maight make things alot better
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Do what you want when you want anyways...forget your dance teacher dont let her run your life over every stupid thing.. your teacher is apparently really out of order for this she isnt your mother.. much luv dez x0x0 *rate me please*
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Talk to your dance teacher, getting highlights will never affect your dance, no matter what they look like. If you and your teacher can't come to some reasonable agreement on what you want to do in life, then maybe dancing wasn't as destined for you as you may have thought before, you should be able to do what you want as long as you don't miss dance or have to miss dance at any point. You need to figure out what you want more. Hope I helped -Angel
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OMG! Do whatever the hell you want! Dance teachers shouldn't be telling you what to do. Your parents should be. If they tell you something is okay, do it. How annoying! Tell your dance teacher, nicely, that you have a life outside of dance.
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