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H3Y even though this question is long please don't pass it over I need help.
Im almost fourteen and my nine seventeen year old brother died about a week ago. I don't want to talk about it and my parents are trying to force me into it. I don't want to talk sometimes, I just want to forget. But theres something inside me that wont let me and thats when I get either angry or sad, but I never find myself in tears. I havn't cried since I found out he was dead. Those were tears of shock. If you were in the middle of an algerbra test and got pulled out just to be told your big brother was hit by a car you would probably cry too. I can't take this anymore. Sometimes I just want to turn him into some distant memory, and other times I want to remember him. People tell me to remember all the good times we had, but that just makes me even more sad to know that we won't ever have those times again. My parents arn't helping either. They're wanting to have another baby. They want to replace him. Plus they have allready started turning his old room into a study for my dad. MY twenty year old sister does nothing but cry and therefore gets all the sympathy. I dont ever cry so people think I dont care, but I probably care more than anybody. I know even though he's dead but not gone it still doesn't help me. I find myself always asking "What if." I can't stand "What ifs" But the one question that I have always promised I'd never ask myself is "Why me" Then I realized I shouldn't be asking why me. I wasnt the one that died. So now I am despising my sister for her constant mourning, because she's not crying for Bryson, she's crying for herself. All I need to know is that if I force myself into crying if it will make the pain go away. And if it won't how can I stop hating the world around me. Because now I'm starting to hate myself. I'm afraid to love or trust anybody again and I can't do it alone.
I'm sorry for your loss. But you are never going to get over him. Crying will make things better, it will let everything out, so I suggest you do it. I have never gone through what you have, so I cannot be very much of a help at all. I'm really sorry....
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Okay i want some songs for this party and i wanted to know if anybody knew any good old r&b songs.. not like oldies but in 90's.. and i want some rap music also from 90's.. i thought of alot of songs but i feel there isnt enough.. so if you can help ill rate you..Thanks in advance!
Young Usher? o_O "U Remind Me" PLease don't rate if that didn't help....cuz I really don't know!
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I really like this guy at my school, but i know for a fact that he doesnt like me, i want to really ask him out badly but i dont want to be turned down, what should i do?
Well, he obviously will turn you down if you ask him right now....so get to know him even more. Write him a note w/ ur number and talk on the phone! Or just plain=out talk face-to-face more. Wait to ask him after a while, and see what happens!
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Sometimes I think that dancing rules my life. I take a very rigid, strict class where everything must be "just so" and I can't do anything when I want to. One day when my friend tied a friendship bracelet around my wrist, my dance teacher saw it and personally cut it off my wrist so I wouldn't wear it again. Also, when I want to try a sport like soccer or basketball, my dance teacher is the one who refuses to let me, saying that I will twist something or break something and I wouldn't be able to dance. My parents just stand around saying "Listen to what she says, dear. Listen." Now I really want to get some gentle highlights in my hair and my parents said yes at first, but they changed their minds when my dance teacher said no. What do I do?
OMG! Do whatever the hell you want! Dance teachers shouldn't be telling you what to do. Your parents should be. If they tell you something is okay, do it. How annoying! Tell your dance teacher, nicely, that you have a life outside of dance.
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I'm a bit overweight and so I've always been a little bit embarassed to exercise in front of people. It seems to just make things worse for me, because then I don't feel like I get enough exercise in the day, but I hate running because I'm slower and always afraid somebody will see me, and I don't even like doing stuff at home because my mom and dad might see me. Any good tips for conquering my fear or ways to exercise alone?
Maybe exercise in your room? Blast your fave radio station/CD, lock ur door, put up a "DONT DISTURB ME' sign. When you exercise more and more, you will be able to exercise in front of family. Then in public. Good for you, for trying to become healthier! (=
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My boyfriend and I have been together for nearly a year and we are very much in love. We do not attend the same highschool so not seeing him everyday does make it hard, but other than that, we have a very good relationship. He has a myspace and there is this girl that comments all the time saying how he's "An awesome kid" and she wishes they could hang out more. I checked out her myspace and in a few of her pictures, HIS pictures are in there with her. Not just him by himself, but him with her and another one of their friends. He's been spending wayy too much time with her and I don't know what to think. I've been cheated on by every boyfriend I had and I thought this one would be different. I don't know what to do. Can anyone help me out?
Sorry gurl, but this one might be a playa. Chances are if he doesn't go to your school, he can have other relationships...
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Okay...I have alot of friends. But, there is this boy that i have been friends with since like forever. But whenever he has a gf we dont talk at all. it's like we dont even know each other. If i talk to him, or call him his gf will think i'm stocking him or i like him. Someone help me....What should I do? If someone could help that would be great. Thanx
Okay, he prob just doesnt want to have his gf think that you two are bf and gf, so he backs off. And that is not unusual either. But you deserve to talk to your friend. Call him whenever you want! Who CARES what his gf thinks?
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Here's the deal.
I have been single for about a month now, and it really sucks, I don't feel lonely so much, but at the same time, I am really lonely. I just need help meeting guys and getting them to like me and everything, something I've done before, I just don't know what to look for anymore. I guess I just need help finding a good guy, someone better than my past relationships. I have to get back into the single life I guess you could say. 14/f.
Signed,
Lost Mojo
Did you make a typo when you said 'I have to get back into the single life I guess you could say.'?! Lol! But, anyway, I think that having a boyfriend is a wonderful feeling, and when it's gone, you feel you need to find another love asap. But, I'm sorry b/c you prob heard this a lot, I am speaking the truth; The right one will come along soon. Or maybe not soon. Maybe in 5 years. Just be patient.
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This has probably been asked a million times, but me and my friend like the same guy. She doesn't know I like him, but I overheard her telling someone else about how she REALLY liked him... but the problem is, so do I. He doesn't know that either of us like him, and I don't want her to tell him, because I really like him too, but she's known him longer, so they're better friends. I know this sounds selfish, but I want him to myself, lol. I don't want her to get mad at me, though. I know everyone says "pick your friend over the boyfriend" but is there any way to compromise?
Yes, there is! If you like him, make sure your friend knows! If she is kewl about it, then she's the friend you need to keep, other than the boy. If not, then go for the guy! Ask him out or flirt with him!
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ok, there's this girl, i'm not really 'friends' with her but i act like it because she is shy and not a lot of people can stand how shy she is...anyways, at lunch yesterday her chicken sandwich wasnt cooked properly and she started telling me to bring it up for her. so i said 'no, it's yours, i'm eating my lunch, you gotta do some things on your own' was i right? because she always wants someone to do things for her....like take out her trash go to the bathroom with her...i'm sick of her being so dependent on others.
Don't let her run your life/take advantage of you. NEVER do things you don't wanna. If she can't understand that, it's her loss.
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I love my boy friend so much! He is one of the best things that has happened to me in a LONG time. I just moved more than 30 minutes away from him. My parents almost never give me a ride over there and no one in his house will give him a ride unless we pay them money. I love him but I feel like we are just growing apart. Should I break up with him or just see how things go?
If you love him, then pay to see him!
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