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ok, there's this girl, i'm not really 'friends' with her but i act like it because she is shy and not a lot of people can stand how shy she is...anyways, at lunch yesterday her chicken sandwich wasnt cooked properly and she started telling me to bring it up for her. so i said 'no, it's yours, i'm eating my lunch, you gotta do some things on your own' was i right? because she always wants someone to do things for her....like take out her trash go to the bathroom with her...i'm sick of her being so dependent on others.
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ya, you did do the right thing becuse somebody not always going to be there. she need to learn to do stuff alone. so even if she get's mad or something she'll learn later on that you really did help her a whole lot.
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Don't let her run your life/take advantage of you. NEVER do things you don't wanna. If she can't understand that, it's her loss.
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I think you were absolutley right.Stick to your guns and make her do thing's on her own. The more you do the more she will expect you to do. :)
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yes, you are right you cant let her take advantage of you. she should learn to do somethings on her own!
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Im sorry to say hun but you didn't do the right thing or at least in my eyes. I have a friend just like her. And the reason for her acting the way she does isn't becuase shes lazy or wants people to treat her as a princess its actually because she has problems of self Confidence. She feels shy around people because of that reason only. She feels as if though people are gonna think she's ugly, or not cool, or whatever the reason is. She may had also had bad experience with another person putting her down. So please next time why dont you actually take the time to talk to her and ask why shes so shy. You may be surprised with the answer. You yelling at her to do it her self may have put her down into thinking she's a bad person. And i dont think thats the case. By the way another word of advice if you dont care about her and arn't really her friend you shouldnt make her feel as though you are that could really hurt her feelings. Its better to leave people that you feel sorry for alone then to hurt them even more then the already are. Trust me on this.
dont mean to sound like a bitch with everyone else telling you you are right but juts telling it how it is and maybe some other points of veiw
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You did the right thing. But without therapy or encouragement from the right persons, she may never change. That is very sad to go through life afraid of everything, never standing up for yourself. Perfect type of girl to end up being abused by her boyfriends. You could help by next time tell her, that no, you can do that yourself, I know you can. You are smart enough to handle that.
It would really be an act of kindness that may help her more in the long run.
Michele
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I'd say you were right, your being pretty nice by trying to be kind to her.
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I think you did the right thing. She really needs to depend on herself a little more. There will be a time that she has to depend on herslef and she needs to learn to do so. I think you did the right thing. If she was offended then just explain to her why you said that and your feelings towrds the whole thing.
I hope I helped and I hope everythign works out. Let me know how everything turns out.
XoKiSsEsoX
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i have friends like that and i think that it was good that you are making her do some things on her own. the bottum line is there isnt always going to be someone around to do things for her. try not to sound to negitaive or judgemental when you tell her that she has to start doing things for herself, but yeah i definatly think that this girl has to start being more indipendent.
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If I were you I'd stop talking to the girl and stop being so nice to her for a while because it seems like she is manipulating you and molding you into what she wants you to be for her.
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i kno i girl like that.. you were becuase your not always gonna be there to do everyuthing for her.. she has to get over it
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