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when is it the right time to have sex? like what age is it okay to lose your virginity? what's the avg age when people lse their virginity and would it be better to lose your virginity with another virgin or a more experienced person?
better to do it with a more experienced but make sure if to ware a condom. There is a benefit of having sex with a virgin you can do it without a condom if your on the pill..It would be smart to be on the pill...even if you use condoms. Theres no avergae age and even if there wasy ou shouldnt use teh avergae age for your choices. You do it when your ready. the rest is different for certain ppl.
yesterday a peson i no... kinda a friend more of just some 1 i get along with.. told me that my boyfirend is cheating on me with his ex girlfriend. but i dont know if i should believe him because my boyfriend is always telling me that he loves me and thhat he doesnt want me to ever leave him.
my boyfriend and his ex are still good mates and hang around with eachother quite alot. and they are both very flirty people. i know i should talk to him about it but im scared that im gona get the reply i dont want.
later today me and my boyfriend are goin on holiday with my family (only camping) for the weekend. when should i speak to him about everything. becase i want to be able to talk to him when no one else is around. also what do i say?
some one please help me figure out what to do. i dont want to lose him because i love him so much and im very happy with him.
any advise would be brilliant.
thank you.
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Dont plan when you will do it before hand. Your spendin a weeekend there. There is bound to be a time when you two will be alone then do it. i dont no how to make this basic so ill just tell you how i would say it and you can take what you like from it :)
"I trust you and i love you very much so whatever answer you give i would rateher hear the truth then have you hide anything from me. I have heard from someone i know and dont ask his name because i really dont want drama over this. He said that you were cheating on me. I feel akward about asking you if its true or not but i know you can understand that i do need to ask."
IF he said yes id ask if it was one time thing and if he regrets it...If he said it happended numerous times i would tell him that id like to go back with everyone else and from now on be friendsand thats at the most. If he says it has happend once and he regrets it id tell him im very hurt and im not sure where i want this relationship heading anymore so i will need time to think. If he says he doesnt regret it say you understand that obviously the relationship is over but youd rather he had told you this before he went and did anything.
If he said No..Then say im sorry baby but i had to ask i no you undertsand
ANY OUTCOME MAKE SURE YOU TELL HIM FOR THE REMAINDER OF THE VACTION YOU INTEND ON ACTING FRIENDLY AT THE LEAST SO THAT YOU AVOID ANY AKWARD SITUATIONS WITH TEH RENTS
Well, the other day I find out that my gf kristin has been cheating on me. So, I broke up with her n' went into my depressin' thing trying to forget about what happend. Then, yesterday I hang out with Maia and her cuz. Maia has had the BIGGET crush on me for the longest time, and as things turned out. We actually made out a cupple times. N' I met her cuz for the frist time that day and I started to really like her too. Maia said that she liked me also, and that she'd be happy if I dated either one of them. So that made me happy because I kinda have my pick ya know? But I get back home n' kristin's friend tells me that she hates the guy she cheated on me with. And before I went to bed she said in this nice calm "everything is going to be alright" type voice that we should talk in person (i dont get to see her that offten because of her parents) if we wanna still be together so... What should I do Advicenators? (Sorry that it's a bit long)
ha ive seen longer. I know its hard and you may think your girlfriend doesnt deserve to explain. However i do think that you should be the bigger person and agree to let her explain then decide if you want to continue the relationship. The two girls maia and her cousin seem to really like you and honestly it wouldnt be fair to lead them on since your hurt and dont know what you want. It would be nice of you to wait a bit (a week) and get you head straight...A week after you decide where kristin and your relationship is going. if your unsure of what you want be upfront and say this to maia and her cousin she will respect you for it. Also when you know you want a relationship (or think you do) you should tell the girl that you have gotten out of a nasty brake up.
HOPE I HELPED! BEST OF LUCK
ok i know this is bad but my bf is 20 and im 13 but im vietnamese and i went over there and thats where i met him apparently age doesnt matter over there but now im back here and he lives over there which sucks but every1 says hes using me but he says he wants to marry me when im 18 which im not sure about yet since im just 13 but i dont know what to believe or what to do about the distance i can only see him once a year and i can only talk to him like once a month i dont know what to do should i keep going out w/ him? and i dont know if hes using me or not but i love him alot ahh im soo confused help!
let me blunt..using you maybe not, but honestly do you want to wait five years..never date guys around where you live not experience the dances and kissing after school...Hes 20 and your 13..7 year difference so now think about college i hope you will decide to go and when you do. Do you want to have on your 3rd year of college a 30 yearold come to your dorm room. Im 16 and ive dated older as well..Ive dated an 18 yearold for a year when i was 14 to 15 so 4 years difference. my first kiss was with a 17 yearold when i was 13. So its not like i cant understand i udnerstand theres no difference really. The age thing is only a minor part of why i say you should dump him. there are many great guys out there some even your age and there are benifits to dating your age. Im sorry i hope i wasnt to blunt. :) always ask if you want mroe advice...Ive lived every relationship possible
13/f ok so im 5'6" but im slim and most of the guys in my grade are shorter than me or at least a little short. My height at the most. Would they not want to go out with me or kiss me if im that tall?
A easy way to solve this is to date older....Honestly a guy who is smart wont care but alot of guys do. Dont worry your very fortunate im envious ive always been short 5'3" and im 16. You could also wait these guys will have a growth spurt very soon. so cheer up..
My boyfriend smokes weed and it really bothers me. I know it's HIS life and I shouldn't tell him what to do, but I don't want him to mess up his life. I know people say ciggs are worse then weed, but weed can still give you cancer. I don't want him to die I just want him to STOP doing drugs so I don't always have to worry about him. What can I say and do to help him stop smoking weed?
i just love these types of questions...im in the same circumastances only difference is that i did something about it. Alot of people in my town do drugs and i would be lying if i sed i never tried it but the difference is i dont DO em i just tried. My boyfriend did weed and i told him that i dont want to see him high. Its juts it means less when you kiss i want him to be smarter then that and so he doesnt do drugs before or when hes with me. The effect of this is that he stoped doing it as much and now that he knows it botehr me he hardly does it. The rest isnt really a girlfriends control. I suggest you tell him it botehrs you and see how he reacts. If you want further advice just ask.
I am a 14 year old girl, and up until about a week ago I never had a boyfriend, had never been kissed or anything. But last summer I knew a boy from camp, and I liked him then, but I didn't see him again till this summer at the same camp, when he said we should hang out. Soon enough he asked me out, I said yes, and this was all before we actually hung out since camp. He invited me over, his friend was there and I brought a friend of my own. But before I went he put me on the phone with his friend, and his friend asked me if I wanted him to be the first guy I made out with? I said sure we'll see how it goes I guess. And then pretty soon he just took me inside and we made out... but like a lot... it was kind of ridiculous that we didn't even really talk much. And a couple times he did it in front of my friend and his friend which bothered me. There was one time though he kind of uh tried to touch my chest so I just kind of backed away, he asked me if it was too fast, I said yea and he said it's cool and stopped. Then he tried again later, I didn't really know how to stop him but I tried and he stopped after a little. A while after I left, he texted me and said he had fun and asked if I did. I said yea but asked if we could take it a little slower. He said yea no problem my bad, and that he was also trying to show up his friend. That's probably not good even if he was telling the truth. I feel like I should give him another chance... cause I really do like him. But I don't think he likes me - I mean he's telling me he loves me but I know he definitely doesn't, he doesn't even know me that well. He says I'm hot and I think that's the only thing that matters to him, but at the same time I feel like there had to be a reason that I waited a year for this guy and then it turns out that he asks me out. I honestly don't even know how I feel about it... I think I should go see him again, but probably with more people this time, and see how it goes from there. I feel really bad about myself though, how fast that went... I've been upset the past few days and I lost my appetite almost completely. What am I going to do?
~Alright i hope your right the love part he may not know hes lying about...some guys relle believe their inlove but our confused of what it is, He might be using the whole friend as an excuse liek he realized you wernt responding so he gave an excuse..Id advise you to only give him one more chance...and no more then that :)~
He was trying to show up his friend...Im sorry but you obviously waited a year under false pretences. You seem liek a smart agirl and i bet you find something wrong with that statement as well. Making out isnt bad but for him to try and see how far he can go with you is. You seem liek a pretty girl why not get a guy who doesnt think of you as an oppurtunity to show up his friends. My first makeout wanst so great either but at least he respected where i wanted to go from the makeout. If he doesnt respect you enough to stop where you say so then he isnt a good enough. Youll meet anotehr guy with the great qualitys he has but also without those bad ones. My advice one more chance and try not with alot ppl itd be smart to put yourself in the same circumstances so you can see if he can actually control his behavior if he cant screw him you can do better!
i've been having dreams about this boy. he's not a stranger to me, but he's not a good friend either. the last time i saw him was sunday, july 30th at a party. i would say that i'm attractive to him, but not in a crush kind of way. that night, i had a dream about him. it was about me and him kissing in my room. i thought that i dreamt that because i love seeing him and that, like i said, am attractive to him. then, two days after that, august 1st, i had another dream about him. this was about us seeing each other in a store, i hugged him, he asked me out, then i gave him a peck in the cheek. it was more detailed, but i don't really wanna make it too detailed. i told my good friend about this, and she thought that it was weird that i was having dreams about him and that maybe i'm starting to like him. well, since sunday, i've been paying attention to most things that makes me think of him. i think the hug from sunday gave me this feeling. before i left the party, we hugged. it felt really good, and i wanted to keep holding on to him. since then, all this has been happening. i still don't think i have a crush on him, but it seems like i do. i think maybe it's just beginning? he's really cute, with dimples to die for! he's funny, and he's pretty smart. everything i would want. i don't know if i'm starting to like him, but if i am, i don't wanna get too attached, because i don't think i'm his "type", although i'm not so sure. but it just doesn't seem like something he would do - ask me out.
i was wondering what you think about it? what should i do and stuff?
Alot of people believe dreams have deeper meanings. Im one of thsoe people. I have a dream book and it says that the person you kiss means more to you then you know in reality. basically you like him. If you dont think hes the type to ask you out..wait it out and maybe instead of asking him out ask to hang out one day.. If you hang out with him one on one it will help you determine how you feel and where you want this relationship to go :)
I've been sexually active for 2 years. I'm 16 right now and with this amazing guy. We had unprotected sex just a few nights ago, and protected sex a few times before that. It's the time of the month where I should be getting my period, but I'm 2 days late. I was wondering if I should go ahead and get a pregnancy test, or wait another week. my period has been regular for almost 2 years now.
If so, what type of test should i get? One of my friends said get an E.P.T. for the best accuracy. Someone please help.. Thanks
E.P.T definitly but two days is not late enough you should wait a week then see. Talk to me if you find out you are cause ive been in your shoes before and definitly have some advice on that as well
my cousin: 14/m
me: 15/f
my cousin and i are pretty close in age, which is probably why we get along so well. we're seriously like brother and sister and we are like the best of friends. but, lately he's been acting kind of weird. he use to be kind of gangsta. i don't mean like seriously. he doesn't have a lot of piercings or is a pimp or anything like that. he just talks gangsta, loves rap, wears normal clothes. haha. we were always laughing and making jokes and i could seriously tell him almost everything. he was always at my house. so, naturally, me and my cousin were like best friends.
then, all of the sudden, he started acting really weird. like, totally not like him. i can understand that he loves starwars. ok. i get that that's normal. it's normal to also have a couple of postars or even be like obsessed with it. cause, i know guys can be like that. kind of like how their obsessed with sports. i get that it's normal that when ur a little kid to think that you're a character in the movie or something. i use to think that when i was a little kid too and i'm sure other little kids have too. but i don't think that it's healthy for a thirteen year old boy or a fourteen year old boy to strongly believe that he is a jedi. and he is totally serious about this. he really thinks that he's a jedi. he also said that he was going to go to disney world during star wars week or something like that and go in a black cloak that was being made for him and that he's a jedi. i'm sorry but it's really freaking me out.
he never comes over anymore. and when i'm going to go out and i call him to see if he wants to come with us, he says that he's with his other cousin and that he is going to watch wrestling. since when? since when does he watch wrestling and hang out with his other cousin? i'm not jealous. if i were, i would just write that that's the problem. i don't mind him spending some time with his other cousin. in fact, i think it's normal being it that his other cousin is a guy and they have guy time. but, I don't think that's a reason to blow me off EVERY time i invite him somewhere and when i try to talk to him and ask him what's wrong, he says nothing and that he's just changed
i really miss hanging out with my cousin. i'm an only child so u know how it goes. he always wanted to go to dances at my school and stuff, and now when i call him to take him, he says he doesn't want to go. that he's not into that stuff. i really want my cousin back, my old cousin. what can i do? he won't tell what's wrong. i don't know how to get through to him? sometimes. he has moments where he'll be like is old self and then we start cracking up and then other times he just looks really nervous.
does anyone have any ideas? please? he's not just my cousin, he's my best friend. and i'd really like to have my real cousin back
Okay so you obviously know that at a certain age teenagers start to pull away from tehir parents well its a similar situation hes experiencing puberty and with that some changes might come. i hate to sya this but maybe this is him and mayeb he wont change back to the cousin you loved. My advice is to just let him have his time and maybe one day you guys will be close again. 14 yearold boys act strange its just in their nature lol but you just have to know that it doesnt mean he has a problem with you its just hes taking interest in otehr things.
OK so I just read this: "Many mothers-to-be get a few days of bleeding right around the time that the early embryo is burrowing into the wall of the uterus. On average, this occurs five days after conception and may be confused with an early period, especially if the woman is not keeping close track of her cycles."
I just got OFF my period maybe like July 31st or Aug. 1st. somewhere in there and about 5 or so days later I noticed for like 2 or 3 days that i had LIGHT bleeding. This is sooo not normal for me. (I'm in my 20's so my periods are regular) and this is not something that has ever happened to me. I really want to be pregnant, so it wouldnt bother me at all. Has anyone ever had this happened (That had REGULAR periods) and came to find they were pregnant? I was ovulating around that time also and had unprotected sex. If you ahvent expiernced it personally, I'd still like whatever info you may have to share on this. I Rate.
light bleeding is sign of early pregnancy. So that is the most obvious answer to give. ive checked up on this numerous times when i was having pregnancy scares. If your breasts start getting sore around the time you are experiencing light bleeding then be even more sure that you are pregnant.
Anybody got any suggestions on how to quit smoking? I've been doing it since I was 15 and I'm 24 now. I smoke a pack a day and I really want to quit. I'm trying to get pregnant so I know I need to and now's the time. Cold Turkey didnt work for me even though that may be the best way to go. It seems like I'll quit for a day or so then something I consider to be "hectic" happens and I feel like I cant concentrate or fix whatever problem I'm having until I smoke. All idea's would be helpful and I'll definatly take into consideration. Thanks.
Theres the patch and the gum...Those are definitly the easiest and cheapest ways however if both are unsuccesful you can attempt asking your doctor who might have a suggestion
well i am moving to a new school. i mean these girls are beautiful and very mature. i made 3 new friends over AIM but they seem to be real sexually active. like they grind with boys, make out, and one girl even sticks her hand down boys pants! but i have never even kissed a boy and there are parties and stuff and i dont think i know how to grind or kiss or anything. I find it kind of gross but, i want to fit in. wat do i do?
aww dont worry about it...Partys are beyond fun i used to be sucha party girl. Theres really nothing to grinding your basically just dancing real close to a guy theres a lil more to it but thats all you really need to know. Kissing you dont need to worry about eitehr. their both pretty easy you jsut go with teh flow and keep your cool. But hun if your not comfortable it will make you stand out and i know thats not something yo uwant to do but really its a good thing. Besides when your ready you can do that you can still party without doing those things. Keep those guys waiting lol. play the hard t oget card :)
i had a sunburn..and i peeled the skin on my nose..and now its all red >.< ..is this just new skin? when will it turn back to normal color? is there a way to make the red go away!? thanks
lol it will you should definitly buy some aloe it will help it heal faster probably in less tehn a week it should be better :)
i asked the ? about him not sayin gi was the "hottest". if i tell him it makes me feel like crap he will just be like i know you don't thikn IM the hottest GUY. and stuff like that. and if i say yes i do then he will just be like, then i think you are too. or something. or he'll be like why do you care so much about it like you
but you do care.. Look you cant be hiding your feeling from your bf if he loved you youd be the prettiest girl he could see..Doesnt mean your the hottest girl in the world but in his eyes you should be. You dont know what he will say if you dont say it but if it doesnt botehr you too much leave the issue alone
Im glad you sent a message to me because if theres any further response needed im always here to give it
what is the best way and nicest way to break up wit ur boyfriend.i dont want any answers like there is no nice way i know that but i dont want him to hate me.he is way to clingy and i cant handle him geting mad when i just talk to another guy and im not flirting with him or anything just talking.he is raceist and i just cant take it anymore.i dont want him to hate me though.
thanxxx
There is a nice way. Tell him you do care about him but that you care about him enough to not be in a realitionship when your no longer sure what you want. Works for me
ok i have a little problem. i have been only in long term serious relationships before and am now entering a new relationship. in the past, my boyfriends have treated me very well. i am used to really romantic guys that tell me i am the most beautiful girl in the world, etc, etc. everything a girl wants to hear. now my new bf is great! i like him a lot but he isn't the same in that he doesn't say things like that. in fact i know he doesn't think i'm the "hottest girl" in school bc he has made comments about stuff like that. he says he doesn't think he would like them and stuff like that... meaning that he doesn't think i'm one of them. i know that it shouldn't matter but don't most boyfriends that really like their gfs consider them to be the most attractive? that's my experience and my friend's experience. beauty in the eye of the beholder. help!
yes and its my experience too. A boyfriend should find you goregous..He shouldnt even tell you how attractive otehr girls. When you care about someone your careful to not want to make them feel an ounce of pain. I would never tell my boyfriend that i dont conisder him the hottest guy i dont think you would either if you care about someone you would know that wouldnt make them feel good and you wouldnt want them to feel anything but. Tell him you really like him but it makes you feel like crap when he says your anything but the hottest. Its the truth isnt it?
me and my boyfriend have been going out for six months now, and im always jealous because he has alot of girl friends, and i mean i think its not jealousy but its not trusting him, i have no reason why i dont trust him because he is faithful and i need advice on how to trust him and maybe be more sicure about what he does and not care as much. thanx
trust is earned...make sure to tel lhim how you feel tell him you love him so much that you tend to get jealouse because you know otehr girls must realize hwo great he is and throw themelves at him. Thats what i do with my bf. You have to be always honest because if he doesnt know how you feel then he cant really help you with anything. If he knows your jealouse then he will be careful to make you feel more secure with the relationship.
my friend was hooking up with this older guy that got out of a year relationship about a week before they started hooking up.. they were stable for about 3 weeks.. they would go out alot.. sumtimes wouldnt even make out... he would pik her up ( shes 16 going to 11th ggrade, and hes 16 going to 12th) and he would pik her up in his car and they would spend alot of time together. he gave her his jacket.. i gues to keep and she gave him her tiffany's ring (expensive ring) but somthing happened to him and her relationship. he just became an ass.. one saturaday nite passed and he hooked up with another girl.. then he told my friend "you no i dont want a gf rite now rite?" (but she didint find out about the hook up from him).. we went to another party last nite but he didnt even say hi to her.. hes just been such an ass to her.. i dont even no how this relationship went downhill all of a sudden.. my friend really wants her ring back but she doesnt know how to get it.. i keep telling her to just call him ffrom a blocked number and ask him to drop it off at her house.. or tell him that shell come ppik it u p.. but i dont no wat she is afraid of.. what should she do!! she needs her 200 dollar ring bak!!
Tell her to call him and not to be afriad of what he thinks after how hes being treated her what he thinks shouldnt mean much to her anymore. tell her to say "I have your jacket ill give it back and you have my ring so Give it back" I know it will be akward but teol her she has to do it.. maybe you could do it for her..
I need help, really bad.
I lied to my boyfriend about something really big, not going to get into details, it's a VERY long story! He just called me & told me that he doesn't want to be in a relationship with me right now, because he just can't handle it.
& I have absolutely no idea what to say or do to make everything better. I can't handle thinking what it would be like without him, it's just WAY too much for me.
So, PLEASE. If you were in my position, what would you do?
Thanks in advance.
honestly it would help knowin the story but all you can do is wait and keep telling him how much he means to you theres nothing else to do...