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my cousin
my cousin: 14/m
me: 15/f
my cousin and i are pretty close in age, which is probably why we get along so well. we're seriously like brother and sister and we are like the best of friends. but, lately he's been acting kind of weird. he use to be kind of gangsta. i don't mean like seriously. he doesn't have a lot of piercings or is a pimp or anything like that. he just talks gangsta, loves rap, wears normal clothes. haha. we were always laughing and making jokes and i could seriously tell him almost everything. he was always at my house. so, naturally, me and my cousin were like best friends.
then, all of the sudden, he started acting really weird. like, totally not like him. i can understand that he loves starwars. ok. i get that that's normal. it's normal to also have a couple of postars or even be like obsessed with it. cause, i know guys can be like that. kind of like how their obsessed with sports. i get that it's normal that when ur a little kid to think that you're a character in the movie or something. i use to think that when i was a little kid too and i'm sure other little kids have too. but i don't think that it's healthy for a thirteen year old boy or a fourteen year old boy to strongly believe that he is a jedi. and he is totally serious about this. he really thinks that he's a jedi. he also said that he was going to go to disney world during star wars week or something like that and go in a black cloak that was being made for him and that he's a jedi. i'm sorry but it's really freaking me out.
he never comes over anymore. and when i'm going to go out and i call him to see if he wants to come with us, he says that he's with his other cousin and that he is going to watch wrestling. since when? since when does he watch wrestling and hang out with his other cousin? i'm not jealous. if i were, i would just write that that's the problem. i don't mind him spending some time with his other cousin. in fact, i think it's normal being it that his other cousin is a guy and they have guy time. but, I don't think that's a reason to blow me off EVERY time i invite him somewhere and when i try to talk to him and ask him what's wrong, he says nothing and that he's just changed
i really miss hanging out with my cousin. i'm an only child so u know how it goes. he always wanted to go to dances at my school and stuff, and now when i call him to take him, he says he doesn't want to go. that he's not into that stuff. i really want my cousin back, my old cousin. what can i do? he won't tell what's wrong. i don't know how to get through to him? sometimes. he has moments where he'll be like is old self and then we start cracking up and then other times he just looks really nervous.
does anyone have any ideas? please? he's not just my cousin, he's my best friend. and i'd really like to have my real cousin back
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Okay so you obviously know that at a certain age teenagers start to pull away from tehir parents well its a similar situation hes experiencing puberty and with that some changes might come. i hate to sya this but maybe this is him and mayeb he wont change back to the cousin you loved. My advice is to just let him have his time and maybe one day you guys will be close again. 14 yearold boys act strange its just in their nature lol but you just have to know that it doesnt mean he has a problem with you its just hes taking interest in otehr things.
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Know that a lot of guys go into puberty at this time. MAybe it's just their emotions starting up again. You have to understand that even thoguh you guys are close in age, your maturity and his maturity maybe way off. Interests maybe changing dramatically and such.
I think you should respect his thoughts of him being a Jedi...just support him and never make fun of him. Hey, play along with him a few times.
Also, the reason he doesn't want to hang around maybe because his friends may make fun of him for haning out with a girl too much. Or maybe he didn't feel manly haning out with a girl
I suggest that you and your cousin have your alone time. If he say's he's too busy, plan a week ahead or say it's really really important and that he's the only one who can take care of this porblem you have (it's true, isnt it?) Even though it will be hard to work up the courage to tell him what you just listed above, you have to get this all sorted out.
Sit with him alone in a room with plenty of time. Tell him your problems and concerns and ask. Don't yell, don't blame, don't critisize. Just explain to him calmly and nicely. When it's his turn, listen to him and do NOT interrupt. In fact clear that up from the beginning. Tell him to listen to you all the way through then he can talk or vice versa.
Overall, just listen to each other and get this thing over with before it becomes a big jumbled up misunderstood angry family thing
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I honestly have no idea why the change in him happened. Don't ask him what's wrong and wait for answers, make him tell you. Whenever you see him in person, sit down with him and talk to him seriosly. "Say, you've been acting really different lately and even though you think it isn't a big deal, it is. I want my cousin back and my best friend." Just say something like that. If he doesn't tell you anything, maybe he just needs some space. Seems kind of lame but maybe that's the problem. He probablly has other things to worry about that he doesn't want you to know. Just accept him for who he is now and be there for him no matter what.
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