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Too far too fast... what am I doing?
I am a 14 year old girl, and up until about a week ago I never had a boyfriend, had never been kissed or anything. But last summer I knew a boy from camp, and I liked him then, but I didn't see him again till this summer at the same camp, when he said we should hang out. Soon enough he asked me out, I said yes, and this was all before we actually hung out since camp. He invited me over, his friend was there and I brought a friend of my own. But before I went he put me on the phone with his friend, and his friend asked me if I wanted him to be the first guy I made out with? I said sure we'll see how it goes I guess. And then pretty soon he just took me inside and we made out... but like a lot... it was kind of ridiculous that we didn't even really talk much. And a couple times he did it in front of my friend and his friend which bothered me. There was one time though he kind of uh tried to touch my chest so I just kind of backed away, he asked me if it was too fast, I said yea and he said it's cool and stopped. Then he tried again later, I didn't really know how to stop him but I tried and he stopped after a little. A while after I left, he texted me and said he had fun and asked if I did. I said yea but asked if we could take it a little slower. He said yea no problem my bad, and that he was also trying to show up his friend. That's probably not good even if he was telling the truth. I feel like I should give him another chance... cause I really do like him. But I don't think he likes me - I mean he's telling me he loves me but I know he definitely doesn't, he doesn't even know me that well. He says I'm hot and I think that's the only thing that matters to him, but at the same time I feel like there had to be a reason that I waited a year for this guy and then it turns out that he asks me out. I honestly don't even know how I feel about it... I think I should go see him again, but probably with more people this time, and see how it goes from there. I feel really bad about myself though, how fast that went... I've been upset the past few days and I lost my appetite almost completely. What am I going to do?
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Just go see him again with more people around , like you said. & if he trys to make-out with you , in front of ALL those people .. then hes just using you. Pretty much. (=
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Woman,this guy dont love or like you BUT he loves and likes your BODY!!What makes that true is when he tried to touch your boobs.He tried to get you turned on so you can have sex with him!!Next time,dont make out with him or anything like that till you get to know him better.
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~Alright i hope your right the love part he may not know hes lying about...some guys relle believe their inlove but our confused of what it is, He might be using the whole friend as an excuse liek he realized you wernt responding so he gave an excuse..Id advise you to only give him one more chance...and no more then that :)~
He was trying to show up his friend...Im sorry but you obviously waited a year under false pretences. You seem liek a smart agirl and i bet you find something wrong with that statement as well. Making out isnt bad but for him to try and see how far he can go with you is. You seem liek a pretty girl why not get a guy who doesnt think of you as an oppurtunity to show up his friends. My first makeout wanst so great either but at least he respected where i wanted to go from the makeout. If he doesnt respect you enough to stop where you say so then he isnt a good enough. Youll meet anotehr guy with the great qualitys he has but also without those bad ones. My advice one more chance and try not with alot ppl itd be smart to put yourself in the same circumstances so you can see if he can actually control his behavior if he cant screw him you can do better!
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Making out is completely okay.. And you shouldn't be worried about it! The fact that he didn't respect your limits is the only problem. You should try to hang out with him again and ask him if you guys could talk more and kiss less. If he cannot do this, and says that the fact that you are attractive is the only thing that matters, than he is deffinately using you. Give this dude one more chance. If he disrespects your wishes again, dump him.
Good luck
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It seems like this guy only wants to have sex sex and more sex.
Next time you visit him, go with your friends. Talk with him and say that you don't wnana make out but just talk. If it revolves around sex, or he doesn't respect that and tries to kiss you , ditch him. Tell him that you'd rather just be friends and that you're not looking for a guy like him to be your boyfriend right now.
hope everything works well <33
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