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i saw my friend snooping around on my computer...
my friend slept over at my house, and we both slept in my room. i have a computer in my room, and i told her that she could go on my computer if she woke up before me, which she did. when i woke up, i was still in bed and i just opened my eyes, but i didnt move or anything. i could see from where i was on my bed that she was going through my computer and looking at all of my things. i could see that she was looking through one of my word documents. then when i said something, i sounded tired and she closed the document immediately and i could see she was hoping that i hadn't seen her looking through my things. i know that i shouldve said something but i didnt, and i completely regret that now, because it shocked me that she would do something like that.
so my question is...should i just try to forget about this happening? and also, is it just me or is it wrong for someone to look around someone elses computer without permission, even if they are(somewhat) a good friend?
thx a lot.
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well i guess it is normal for people to be curious. your friend was probably bored cause you were still sleeping, and was looking at everything, and when you woke up, it startled her, and she probably thought you would be mad, so she quickly got out of what ever she was on... i don't think its anything to be worried about!
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ok, first of all that is not right even if she is a really good friend. i think you should confont her and say, " i saw you looking through my word documents, and i was just wondering why you didn't want me to know and why you did without asking me first?" i know i would be upset if my friend was looking through my word documents without my permission, i wouldn't care if she looked if she asked me that. you could also say something like that?
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since its bothering you then you should mention it to her. You can ask her what she was looking at on your computer. (Since you know she was going through your information.) If she says she was just online or playing a game. Simple say but i know you werent because i saw the document opened. If she denies it say i told you that you could use my computer. Not look through all my information.
If she up and admits it & apologizes tell her to not let it happend again because you trusted her when you let her use the computer.
And yes i can see why you are upset. But something like this can be resolved & you shouldnt ruin a friendship over something like this.
hope i helped
kimm:)
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Well...i dont' think it was right that she was gong through your documents...If it was anything important, definately confront her with the issue. If not, maybe joke around, and be like 'heyy I saw you going through my stuff! find anything good?'
just say it in a kidding way.
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If it really bothers you then you should definitely talk to her about it. Everyone deserves some privacy-even when it comes to their computer. I know 'cuase I store some of my most personal stuff on my computer.
Hope I helped.
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yes. she's invading your privacy. she should've fully known that when you said she could use the cpu, you meant to like go on sites, check her email, use aim. Not go looking at your cpu files. she knew it was wrong since she tried to close out when she heard you and you should definately talk to her about this.
ask her what she was looking at and why. ask her if she would feel good if you looked through all her stuff etc.
ijust want you to clear this little mess with her before it becomes a quarrel and ends up being a fight.
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it's not wrong for you to think that - everyone has their own personal things that they save, whether it's conversations with other people, or private journal entries or whatever. she knew it was wrong for her to do that because she obviously didn't want to get caught. maybe for this time, it's better not to confront her. i only say this for a couple reasons: saying something now will do nothing beneficial for either of you - you may get it off your chest, but if she apologizes, that doesn't save her from doing it again or from seeing the things that she did see. although you do need to let her know somehow. the next time you invite her over, maybe plan it this time, either when you wake up and see her doing it, confront her then and there. or, you could plant something private in there that's fake, and see if she reads it. she'll mention it somehow or find a way to ask you about it if she did. hope that helps
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