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Q: my boyfriend broke up with me. and it happened a long time ago but im still sad over it. wat do i do? nothing is working? i loved him alot and it came out of nowhere. do you have any advice? plz help me
I would say if you don't understand what happened try to talk to him about it to get some closure from the relationship and then meet new people and get your mind off of him. You will eventually find someone special and when you do you won't even think about that old ex. think about all the bad things about him or the things you never really liked and be like now i can go find myself a guy who doesn't do this or isn't like that.

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Q: For my new room I get to pick how to paint it! On one wall I want to have strips with different sizes. I get to pick four colors. But I don't know what colors that will look good with each other. If you have any ideas I will be happy to check it out!! I'm a teen and girly girl!
I really like orange, pink, yellow, and brown together.

or teal, aqua, lime, and silver

brown, blue, pink, and green

purple, pink, blue, and green (all pastels)

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Q: 15/f

When it comes to saving up I don't know how to save my money better yet my check without spending it on stupid stuff...I get my check every friday and sadly it doesn't even last to see sunday meaning its gone by sunday . This has become an issue with my parents because they no longer want to provide me with any transportation to work or anywhere since they say its pointless to work if I don't save my checks. I thought getting a bank account would help but its worse it seems I go there and withdrawl money everytime I'm in need to spend...idd really like to start saving my money to buy a new phone or an ipod touch but idk how that's going to happen =/ does anyone here have any suggestions? Tips on how to not spend and save up? Anything would help please
There are some saving accounts where you can deposit a certain amount of money and if you don't take money out you are given a certain amount every certain days months or years. I'm not sure about all the details. I'm sure you could find more information on this.

When I get paid i usually take half of my money and put it in a box and spend only the money i left out. This works for me because i can keep myself from using it. If you won't be able to keep yourself from spending it it might not work for you.

You could also give some to your parents to hold onto for you. Each time you get paid write down how much you give your parents and keep track of it till you save up for what you want. Tell your parents not to give you the money till you have saved up.

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Q: I have a Verison Wireless phone, and my dad put some songs onto it. The songs were on is computer. Now that they are on my phone, how can I set them as my ringtone? Is the only way to get a song ringtone to buy one? I should be able to set the songs I already have as a ringtone, right?
I have a verizon wireless v-cast phone and i get most of my ringtones off of myxertones.com u can choose just about any part of any song to set as a ringtone. If you have something saved as a sound you can send it in a message back to your phone and when you get the message back just go to options and save as ringtone. I don't know about setting the songs as a ringtone but i know you can send yourself your sounds and set them as a ringtone.

I would just say to get the songs you like off of myxertones.com and use them.

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Q: Heyy. Well, my 15th bithday is comming up and i really want a tattoo on my foot. Nothing big but something simple and cute. Any ideas?! Ohh, and how can i convince my mom cause my dad is cool with it. Thanks! Oh and im a girl :)
Ideas: I like stars with some sparkle looking things mixed in. I also really like a vine with flowers on it or just a couple of flowers. Here is a website on foot tattoos. I have always wanted one on my foot too but have never worked up the courage to get one.

I would suggest getting a lot of information on tattoos and foot tattoos before going to your mom and asking her again. Make her see that you really want one and that you have researched it and know all the affects and how to take care of it and help it heal and that kind of stuff.

Here is a website with a lot of pictures of foot tattoos and some information on foot tattoos.

http://www.squidoo.com/foottattoos

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Q: 13/f

I have dark brown hair that goes below my shoulders. I have side bangs and my hair is layered. I want to use hair ties more. I usually just use them for a ponytail. Pig tails don't work very well with me either. Any other ideas?

Also how can you curl your hair when its just past your shoulders? And if anyone has any other hair ideas I would love to hear them. Thanks so much!
Hey! For ideas, i like the half up and half down but flipping it through, same with a regular ponytail. (use your fingers to make a hole in the hari right above the scrunchie or tie then pull the part that is going through the tie/scrunchie/rubberband over and through the hole) I do this a lot with pigtails too and then curl the bottom half but i have really long hair.

You could also do french braids down the back, side, or coming from one side across the back to the other side.

As for curling it use a curling iron and do spiral curls so that it doesn't shorten the length too much. There are curling irons made just for spiral curls too.

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Q: 13/female

okay so i like this guy and hes 18 and my parents dont approve. i see age as just a number. and hes not the type that just wants some. so how do i get my parents to compromise with me?
You probably won't like the first answer to this question but here it goes: My way of looking at this situation is that it is illegal and if he doesn't just want you so he can "get some" then waiting to date wouldn't be a huge issue. You can just tell your parents y'all are just friends and talking. Not technically "dating"

My second answer: I would say do something with him and your family. Show your parents that he is a really nice guy and that he doesn't want you for the obvious reasons an 18 year old would want a 13 year old. No Offense. Show your parents you are responsible and mature enough to make smart decisions in your relationships.

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Q: so i cannot stop thinking about this one guy and i really just want to stop thinking about him and just get him out of my life.. that sounds really stupid but eh its complicated he's really out of my league.
how do i get him out of my head.
and stop thinking about him before i go to sleep.
Do things to distract yourself from this guy. Be spontaneous and go to the mall and flirt with any and all cute guys. give him your number and send him flirty text messages. You will eventually find someone who means a whole lot more to you. The way i mentioned above would probable not be the best way to find someone for a long term relationship, but hey the thrill of a new guy will have your mind on him and other things.

Q: There's this boy I have known since 1st grade and we've dated three times now and we just broke up a few months ago and I've moved on but I can't seem to get him off my mind....I'm still in love with him....and i don't know if he feels the same about me....what should I do....someone please help me!
This is tough because the logical thing to do would be to tell you to just forget about him, but i don't think you want to. Obviously you really really still love him and want him back. If you don't know how he feels about you and you want to, just ask. Live life on the edge and just tell him "look, i still love you. after all we've been through i'm just not ready to let you go. I don't know if you feel the same way about me but i wanted you to know how i feel about you. I can't get you off my mind, and I am always thinging about you. I don't even know how you would feel about getting back together, but I wanted you to know how I felt about it. It's your choice, and i understand if you don't feel the same."
- I don't know if all that made sense, but just be honest with him and say whatever comes to mind. Follow Your Instinct!!!

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Q: 13/f
Ok im going into the 8th grade and i have never had a boy friend. It's not like im realy lonley or anything. It's just at school and stuff I always see my friends with their boy friends and I feal left out. And when me and my friends go to the movies or mall they always bring their boy friends and I hate not having one. I'm not ugly or anything either but guys never ask me out and im way to afraid of being turned down. I know im only 13 but my friends have ben in many many relation ships and i dont mean like a week they always go out for a while and that makes me feal so inexperienced. What should I do?
Don't worry about it! I didn't get my first bf till i was in the 9th grade and the relationship i am in now made the wait worth it. When your friends all plan to go to the movies invite another single girl friend to go so you aren't the only signle one, or you can even invite a guy as just a friend and nothing more. Just as someone to hang out with. Try to plan things with your friends that don't involve the bfs so you don't feel left out. All i really want to say is just don't worry about it. There's a reason you haven't had a bf yet, you may not know it now but when you find that someone special you will know it and you won't be upset about having waited so long to find him.

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Q: Hello,
Ok me and my ex boyfriend who I dated for 3 months broke up because he told me he thinks he might of loved another girl. But he didnt want to break up, but I already dumped him. Now curently a week later he is dating that girl and already did stuff with her. I still love him but I'm not sure if I want to tell him that, I think he might just laugh at me but I've been in a really bad depression hole and I cant get out of. He was always there for me. Do you think I should tell him and try to get him back? Do you think It was foolish of me to dump him in the begining?

Thank you
CuteKitten
you can just wait and see how things end up between him and the other girl. If he loved another girl, then maybe it was best that you two broke up. If you think he might still feel the same way about you then you go ahead and tell him that you still have feelings and would like to get back together. Let him know that you regret breaking up with him and didn't really think about it before you did it. Tell him that you understand if he is happy with his new girlfriend and doesn't want to get back together but you would really like to.

Hope I helped some!

Q: Ok well its my senior year in high school, you know that last year of high school when kids are supposed to go crazy and have the time of your life. Well anyway, this past summer my friends and I were talking and saying that were not going to care about anyone or anything this year, were just going to have fun. Well that didn't quite last long because now my friends ALL got boyfriends. Not one of my close friends is single. Now when I want to go out and have fun and party they tell me, "oh my boyfriend has to come" or "i cant go because hes gonna get mad at me" or "I have to talk to him on the phone for a million and a half hours before I go to sleep". Its, to say the least, really annoying. They all act like they're married, and I'm getting reeeallly sick of it. I mean I'm extremely happy for all of them, but it seems like they all just gave up and centered their whole life around their boyfriends, and meanwhile I'm bored as hell, and my weekends consist of everyone paired up except me. I don't even want a relationship, I just wanna have fun!

ugh help!
You can't stop your friends from spending time with their boyfriends, so just find some other senior girls at your school who are single and just wanna have fun. Still do stuff with your close friends, but just have some others on the side that will go party with you and not worry about anything or any one else. Sometimes you need a little time away from your close friends, especially boy obsessed friends.

Q: My birthday is coming up and my parents said that they would get me a new camera for it because the one i have now was a freebe. Basically, I want to know which cameras you have PERSONALLY used and are really good. What brands are good as well also?

thanks and price doesn't matter.
preferably over $100 tho because otherwise its probably not a good one.
i have a Sony DSC-N2. I love it. The picture quality is really good. It is a touch screen and you are able to go in and color on you pictures on the camera itself. You can add stamps and different colors. It also has a built in Album that stores all your pictures even if you delete them, great for those awfully hilarious pictures of your friends who delete it thinking they have gotten rid of it for good, but you will have it in your album till you go into the album and delete it. The battery is rechargable. I looked around trying to find the best deal on it and I think I got it from Best Buy for $321. I went in and asked if they would sell it to me for the same price they had listed online since it was cheaper and they did, there's a little tip for you. Hope I Helped. sry this was so long.

Q: 15-f
I just entered a class this semester. It has to do with getting up and talking in front of others and dancing, acting, sharing my opinion. I'm a creative person don't get me wrong it's just I HATE BEING IN THE SPOTLIGHT. I completely despise it and I need to learn to just push it away. Is there anyway to get over this or am I just going to have to go through the class and learn to suck it up?

Any advice is good advice,
AL
I can assure you that you are not the only person out there that has this problem. I am one of those people too. I have a class that I have to present a lot of projects and work and it helps me to just pick out one of my friends in the class and act like I am talking to them like I would at lunch and like i am telling them about my project. It's hard and people will tell you that its something you will have to get over eventually, but for now just learn to cope with it and slowly fight it. The more you do it, the more comfortable you will get doing it.

Q: 16/f
I've been in girlscouts for about 10 years. I've been with the same girls in my troop for that long. We are down to about 10 of us. We are all working toward our Gold Award, which is the last award. Then, we complete girlscouts.
This summer, we are going on a cruise. I want to do something really special for all of them. Maybe buy them each a little something, or make a toast at one of the dinners on the cruise.
Its just .. these girls and i have been through soo much and I just want to show them that I appreciate all the itme we've spent together.
Ideas for something special wanted!
Thanks!
if you have a bunch of pictures of you and all the other girls going on other trips and other things you all have done together, make a collage of all the pictures and frame them and give each of them one. I did thi for x mas for my friends that I have known for 10 years and we are always going on trips together so we have a bunch of pictures. Here's how I did mine.

I taped 4 pieces of construction paper together and started cutting pictures so that they layed crooked and still had a straight line to fit the edge of the paper. Then I taped them all on there at different angles and slanting all over the place. Then it was too big to gt copies made at the printing shop we have in our town, so I had to take a picture of it on my camera and then they printed the picture off of my camera card and made several 8x10 pictures and it didn't cost much and you would only have to have 1 copy of all the pictures. Then I just went and got some $5-$10 frames and framed them. It looked really good when I finished. Everyone liked it cause you can look back at each picture and be like oh I remember that, thats when ...

Sorry this was so long. I tend to ramble on and on. :)

Q: hello, i have brown hair, dark brown eyes that are small and a bit narrow, not too fat lips but pretty fat, a small but wide nose and fat cheeks. i'm a bit tan but not too much, kinda like in between rachel bilson and jennifer aniston. i have long eyelashes and brown eyebrows that go straight across.

what color makeup and what makeup should i wear to make my eyes look bigger and stand out more, and for my cheeks, lips, and nose to look small, especially my cheeks?!?!?!? Thanks!!!!!
I would suggest purple and green eyeshadows with brown eyeliner and brown mascara. On your cheeks use a shimmery bronzer. It will not make them look huge or stand out as much as blush would. But with a shimmery bronzer they will still be pretty. You can get your eyebrows shaped at most salons and that adds a nice touch to overall appearance. The only thing about doing this is that you would need to keep getting them done. on your liips I would go with something natural looking. Maybe something just shiny and not colored. I hope this helps.

Q: School talent show and i am drawing a blank on what to do something creative (funny or stupid)and thats about 2-3 minutes please help!
thanks
You may think this is stupid, but this was very entertaining to watch. You need 2 people to do it so you would have to find a friend to do this with. ok now here's the idea:

let' say you are in the front and your friend is behind you under a sheet or somethin so that she can't be seen. Then you have your hands behind your back. Your friend does everything for you. You can make a comical skit to go with it.

One year someone did this where they were getting ready for a date and had to do their hair and put their makeup on and she had makeup all over her face from where the person behind her has to put the makeup on for her but couldn't see what she was doing. She spoke too and it was just really funny.

You may not like this idea, but it was funny to see.

Q: How do you go about starting a debate team at your school? thanks!!!!!!!!
Our class did a lot of in class debates and realized we really enjoyed it. After this we decided we wanted to start a debate team. First make sure that you can find enought students that will be interested in doing so. Then do some research before going to a teacher. Go online and look up infor on starting a debate team so that when you ask a teacher about sponsoring the debate team you can show her how serious y'all are about it and that y'all have researched it. Then go to the school board and discuss it.

Q: ok i babysit this little girl shes 3 and when its close for her to go to bed she starts crying because she misses her mom what do i do.
The boy i babysit doesn't like to go to bed either. He says he wants to call his daddy. I usualy just don't mention that it is bedtime and have him hop in bed to watch a movie or tv saying that it would be more comfortable in the bed or under the covers. i also suggest that we could lay down and read a book. This usually helps for me. I hope it helps you

Q: (it's kinda ong and confusing, but please help me)I babysit 1 kid at my house he's 6 years old! He is alot of work and eats alot i mean ALOT!we had dinner once and he had a plate full of mac and cheese,a plate of corn,a plate of chicken and fries! he is also very stuborn!he dosnet listen to the rules i set and makes mess's ,dosnt clean it up and he digs through my stuff and ask if he can have it!And he's family is very rich but i only get $2 an hour.the other dayi babysat him for 7 hours and i got 5 hours worth!how can i ask for more without sounding like a brat!
I think you should ask for at leat minimum wage. if they tell you they can't afford to pay you any more, but you can't go without the money, babysit for some other families and see how it goes. does the kid behave better and do they pay more. don't quit without getting out there and seeing what else you can do for the money then tell them you have another babysitting job that is willing to pay more and that you really need the money and your sorry but you are going to have to take that job.

I hope i have helped and not rambled to much nonsense. :)

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