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Well there's this boy....
There's this boy I have known since 1st grade and we've dated three times now and we just broke up a few months ago and I've moved on but I can't seem to get him off my mind....I'm still in love with him....and i don't know if he feels the same about me....what should I do....someone please help me!
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If you still love someone you should not surpress that. Tell him you still like him. If you never tell him, you'll never know if he feels the same way.
If he feels the same way, try the relationship once again. However, I stress that this should be the last time. It's only going to hurt you if you do the on and off thing too many times.
If he doesn't feel the same way, quite obviously, it is time to really move on. Occupy you time with something else, and you will eventually forget about him.
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This is tough because the logical thing to do would be to tell you to just forget about him, but i don't think you want to. Obviously you really really still love him and want him back. If you don't know how he feels about you and you want to, just ask. Live life on the edge and just tell him "look, i still love you. after all we've been through i'm just not ready to let you go. I don't know if you feel the same way about me but i wanted you to know how i feel about you. I can't get you off my mind, and I am always thinging about you. I don't even know how you would feel about getting back together, but I wanted you to know how I felt about it. It's your choice, and i understand if you don't feel the same."
- I don't know if all that made sense, but just be honest with him and say whatever comes to mind. Follow Your Instinct!!!
-*- Hope I Helped -*-
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Sometimes pursuing someone you've dated/broken up with many times is not the best thing to do.
I suggest you get over him and move on [not to sound harsh]. There are other fish in the sea =].
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That will help for a bit.
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From there:
1. Invite some friends over, and watch some chick flicks. Get fun and upbeat movies like "John Tucker Must Die"
2. Get some money, and get a new haircut that is fun and flirty, and invest in some new makeup! If you usually wear red, try coral!
3. Grab a good book, and some jelly beans (any candy/food works) and just get lost in the book
4. Spend a day with other single friends and spend the night rating cute (single) guys! Find a new crush! You never know!
5. Open your mind and realize that if he deserved you, he would be with you.
6. Throw a party.
7. Call your friends and have a good laugh!
8. Shop! Splurge!
9. Write down every single thing that annoyed you about him. Then read it and realize he is not only not perfect, but also not perfect for you.
10. Exercise! Work it, girlfriend! Over the weekend work out, eat great and when the weekend's over, he's going to take one look and say "Boy, she does look good."
11. Grab a bottle of soda, a cute cup, and a friend go one for one saluting all the good things in life.
12. Listen to funky music!
13. If you delete him from your buddylist, phonebook, and everything else. Completely stop messaging - texting - calling - IMing - spending time - with him all together and you will get over him. Trust me.
14. The more time you spend thinking about him, the harder it will be to get over him.
15. Remind yourself that he's just another guy.
16. If he flirts with you, then ignore him. He's like a mosquito; you have to swat him.
17. And if he's rude to you, you be rude to him.
18. Get rid of everything that reminds you of him...including his phone number
* You can always just cry and get it all out of your system so you don't have to worry about it.
* Remember that there are millions of other guys out there.
* Don't be mad at yourself if a guy ever turns you down. There always is a reason for something happening. You might never figure it out though.
* Accept that you're still attracted to that guy, but try to become interested in other guys.
* Chocolate is good, but don't overdo it.
* You have to try to stay optimistic.
* Try to avoid spending time with him if possible. It's harder to get over someone you're always thinking about.
* Know that there is someone perfect out there for you, not a jerk that broke your heart.
* Write a letter to him explaining how you feel but do not send it.
* Delete his number from your phone to avoid texting and calling him.
* Don't be fooled by his charm when you bump into him
* Get a pet. Play with it, take care of it. It's a much better replacement than dating another guy you don't really like.
* Start introducing yourself to other guys....then get their number and call and talk to them.....that's what my sister did and she fell in love with someone else.:)
* go out parting with friends.. TO AVOID SEEING HIM.. that doesn't mean go out to the same party you know hes going to be at.
* Secretly put your friend's favorite candy in their pocket and watch them wonder how it got there. If you focus your energy outwards to make someone happy, you'll forget all about ol' whatshisname!
* EXERCISE! it really helps. and leaves you feeling re- charged and gives you time to think and stuff :D
* Start looking extra hot so you get attention from other guys. It gives you confidence and it might help earn you someone else.
* If he starts being charming, think of it as a cheap way of comming on to you. That way he'll seem stupid and desprate. (the more turn offs the better.)
There you go =].
--Jack
(16/m)
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