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13/f
Ok im going into the 8th grade and i have never had a boy friend. It's not like im realy lonley or anything. It's just at school and stuff I always see my friends with their boy friends and I feal left out. And when me and my friends go to the movies or mall they always bring their boy friends and I hate not having one. I'm not ugly or anything either but guys never ask me out and im way to afraid of being turned down. I know im only 13 but my friends have ben in many many relation ships and i dont mean like a week they always go out for a while and that makes me feal so inexperienced. What should I do?
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Just relax. Most of my friends havent gotten boyfriends either and we're going into 8th grade too. Don't try to get a boyfriend, wait until you meet a guy you like. Having a boyfriend isnt everything.
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I'm 15/F and I have the same problem. Afraid to be rejected and my friends are experienced. Well...How I cope with it is that I don't let it get to me. It's a waste of tears and pouting. Trust me. I'm just waiting for that right guy. You have plenty of time. There are tons of girls that are inexpereinced. I'm one of them. I'm almost going into 10th grade. No boyfriend...ever. Have faith in yourself and your moment will come. Like people say, "If your friends jumped off a cliff would you?" You don't need to have everything to join into the crowd. Be happy what you already have and not what you don't have. My friends talk about their ex boyfriends and who they are dating now and blah blah blah. Your not alone!
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Darling, I know you're probably tired of hearing this, but you don't need a boyfriend to make you happy. Sure, you could just go out with anyone, but is that really for the best? When you find someone you truly like and they truly like you, you'll realize it was well worth the wait.
Besides, regardless of what kids these days are doing, it's silly to be so commited at thirteen. When you're young you should be meeting lots of people; you do not need to be tied down by a guy you'll break up with in a few monthes.
And if you're still worried, remember- once you stop looking for a guy, you'll find one.
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Don't worry about it! I didn't get my first bf till i was in the 9th grade and the relationship i am in now made the wait worth it. When your friends all plan to go to the movies invite another single girl friend to go so you aren't the only signle one, or you can even invite a guy as just a friend and nothing more. Just as someone to hang out with. Try to plan things with your friends that don't involve the bfs so you don't feel left out. All i really want to say is just don't worry about it. There's a reason you haven't had a bf yet, you may not know it now but when you find that someone special you will know it and you won't be upset about having waited so long to find him.
-*- Hope I Helped -*-
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hey hun, I do understand how you feel. I went a long time without having a boyfriend either. And let me tell you at first I felt left out and like there was something wrong with me, but you know what, there wasn't. I wasn't in a rush to date or have aboyfriend, and when I stopped worrying and rushing, he came along. I have anice guy I'm casual dating, but hadI been in a rush I would be like every other girl. What I notice people do is have boyfriends at 13 or w.e. then they give everything to that person and all for what? just to regret the 6 months their together. So it is okay to feel lonely, but please dont rush to be in a relationship because you will regret it, and you could end up with someone extremely controlling.
I may not be making any sense, if so I'm sorry. But I know you can't see it now, but just relax and enjoy your life, because someday you wont be single anymore and youll be glad you waited for the good nice guy to come along. Believe me, it makes all the difference.
And your not inexperienced, you're smart. You can watch what they go through, and learn from their mistakes, before you rush into getting hurt.
Just take your time, and everything will work out great!
Btw, I'm 17 I don't have a boyfriend either, but I'm happy, I casually date and I know Mr. Right is just around the corner, as you get older, youll learn that too. Just relax, you'll be fine :)
Best of luck! And no more feeling left out! You're the special one, guys will come along for you soon, promise. Don't lose hope! You got plenty of time.
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I'm going to tell you that relationships aren't all they are cracked up to be. Sure- they are fun having someone to share things with and be with. But they involve a huge commitment and if you end up with someone who is clingy- they'll want to be with you every minute of every day- and you might not have time for friends or anything else you want to do. I say this because one of my ex-girlfriends was sort of like that- and got mad if I was busy with other plans.. and it was just really retarded.
What I mean is, you shouldn't feel in such a rush to date. Just because your friends are doing it doesn't mean you HAVE to. If they all jumped off a tall building, would you do it too? ;]
If anything, you should be proud of yourself for having been single for 13 years and that you haven't just dated whoever just to date. That's what I'm sure a few of your friends have done.
Your friends aren't leaving you out from their activities, so I don't think you're really left out. Sure, you could find a boyfriend, but would that really make you feel anymore "in"? If it's just for that reason, I promise you that you wouldn't, and your relationship would end quickly.
--Jack
(16/m)
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