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how do i get over this?
ok i have a little problem. i have been only in long term serious relationships before and am now entering a new relationship. in the past, my boyfriends have treated me very well. i am used to really romantic guys that tell me i am the most beautiful girl in the world, etc, etc. everything a girl wants to hear. now my new bf is great! i like him a lot but he isn't the same in that he doesn't say things like that. in fact i know he doesn't think i'm the "hottest girl" in school bc he has made comments about stuff like that. he says he doesn't think he would like them and stuff like that... meaning that he doesn't think i'm one of them. i know that it shouldn't matter but don't most boyfriends that really like their gfs consider them to be the most attractive? that's my experience and my friend's experience. beauty in the eye of the beholder. help!
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Did you come from planet beautiful? I actually heard this line once and fell for it, until I heard it again from the same guy telling it to another girl. The point is that some guys are really good at giving girls the gooey lines we love to hear...as long as they are only for us and totally honest, right? Sorry, but the "romantic" guys are pretty much the smooth-talkers that use their knowledge of what a girl loves to hear(endless flattery to indulge her ego) to get somewhere with that girl of the moment. It actually concerns me more that you are feeling insecure because this new guy is not feeding you enough bull to make you feel secure. Is a boyfriend supposed to be a judge in the highschool beauty pageant to vote you "most attractive?" Maybe you should consider what you need to hear from a guy for you to be convinced that he likes you for you. No girl is "the hottest", because as you said, "beauty is in the eye of the beholder" but, it is also because beauty does not last. Models get dumped and cheated on all the time! Sometimes the prettier the girl is, the less self-esteem she actually has. This is because she has based most of her sense of self on looks. You are more than a pretty face sweetheart! Stick with the guys that see your dazzling wit, your flair with auto-mechanics, the beauty of your latest science project, or your gorgeous sense of humor!
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yes and its my experience too. A boyfriend should find you goregous..He shouldnt even tell you how attractive otehr girls. When you care about someone your careful to not want to make them feel an ounce of pain. I would never tell my boyfriend that i dont conisder him the hottest guy i dont think you would either if you care about someone you would know that wouldnt make them feel good and you wouldnt want them to feel anything but. Tell him you really like him but it makes you feel like crap when he says your anything but the hottest. Its the truth isnt it?
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Hey,
I am sure that your boyfriend loves you and is crazy about you, and you share the same feeling too. And since he is your boyfreind, ofcourse he does think that you are beautiful and attractive, but there are some people who don't just go and say their feelings or their opinions out load, and this new boyfriend is different from all the others, maybe he is not really into complimenting people even the closest and most special person to his heart. so lets say its just an attitude or his personality, and we can't change that ,but there is something i can tell you, that deep down inside him, he thinks that you are the most amazing, beautiful ,hot girl he has ever seen.
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