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Creepy girlfriend--should I get rid of her?
I'm a fourteen-year old female I have a girlfriend that I really love but never see. When she talks about sex, she reminds me of my rapist so we haven't had sex yet and I don't think I want to. Every time we talk about getting together she talks about sex, but she writes me poetry and she's really loving. She's suicidal and I feel like protecting her. She hasn't come out to her parents yet and I think she feels safe with me. What should I do? She sort of creeps me out, mostly because she cares about sex so much. I'm a virgin save for my molestation when I was 7 through 8. I don't think she gets that I'm touchy about it, no pun intended (dark humor, sorry). I used to cut myself but I stopped, and she still wants me to. I told her I stopped and she asked me why not. She still does. Her mom's always on heroin and she does pot. I want and don't want to dump her at the same time. Should I break up with her?
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Forget about this girl,she has too many problems and i know you just want to stay with her so her life sint more screwed up..but shes s you!! up your life again..and thats not good for you!!hope i helped =]
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I think you need to forget this girl. She has so many problem that you just don't need to be part of. I know you may not want to but you can't help her...she has to help herself. You have your own problems to deal with and don't need to add hers to the mix. Besides, if you think she's
creepy now just wait until you get closer to her! I think you need to forget about her most of your feelings are probably closer to feeling sorry for her than loving her. Good luck. :)
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You say you love her so no i dont think you should, but firsttell her how if she keeps talking about sex and oesnt respect the fact that you are sensitive on this isue then you shouldnt be with her in that sort of relationship but you will always be her as a friend and like a sister tell her that no matter the relationship you will always carte andbe there for her. if she does respect your wishes of no longer speaking of sex then you should stay with her.
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Tell her to quit talking about sex because it is kinda creepy You out if she doesnt respect Your thoughts then you shouldnt be with her. In relationships you should always be open to each others feelings if she doesnt respect you. Then you know she is not the one.
Good luck hope i helped you out.
lisa
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Well this girl is apparently starving for some attention and thats why she wants it from you.. you should tell her what things you arent comfortable with so she knows.. you should continue to be with her.. much luv dez x0x0
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This girl needs your support, you said yourself that your'e the only one that she trusts. I don't want to say this but who knows what she'll do if you break up with her now. Tell her that you are not ready for sex in the mean time, while you are helping her trough this and she should understand beacuse she does really seem to love you. As in everyone elses advice ring up an advice line, explain your situation and they will tell you what to do. My friend used to cut herself but we got through it together with help given by 'professionals.' After your girlfrend is back on tracks consider what you want to do, break up with her or stay with her. At the end of the day it's your decision, tread carefully.
hope I help. Good luck!
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If I was you, I would dump her. Here are the reasons.
1. You told her that you don't like talking about sex, which she still does.
2. She WANTS you to cut yourself.
3. She sounds like she grew up in a not so nice home.
But, if you really like her that much, then stay with her.
-Brianna
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you need to talk to her bout that hole cutting thing and if you lok deep enough in your heart you will find the answer bout the breaking up if all she talks about is sex than she probally is just anjust to see what its like
hope i helped
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wow. well... alright. i would stick with her until shes a little more stable. it almost sounds like if you dump her it could put her over the edge. but if shes going down you shouldnt go with her. its really GOOD that you stopped cutting. you shouldnt do it because she deos. try to get her to understand that you dont wanna have sex and that your still bothered a lot by what happened to you. if she deosnt get it or gets mad most likely she will dump you which i think would be better than you dumping her.
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This is a tough one but think it through- you're only 14 and really shouldn't be thinking about having sex ESPECIALLY if it's making you think about what you went through when you were younger. You need to sort through this problem first before you embark on any sexual relationship possibly through counselling? You say she creeps you out because she's always talking about sex and if she knows about your experiences when you were younger surely she should be more sensitive about it if she's your girlfriend? Also she wants you to cut yourself? You've got over that chapter in your life you're moving forward, not backwards. It sounds like she's got a lot of issues of her own that she needs to sort out before you continue this relationship. If you're really serious about this relationship you need to get her some help, but if you want to look after your own interests i think you need to call it a day really. Good luck and be strong x
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if she loves you so much she will listen, so sit down and talk to her about her sex issue and how it bothers you. plus if she is still cutting thats dangerous and you should try to help her but you shouldnt go back to cutting yourself. its not worth hurting yourself to deal with your problems
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hey... i don't think homosexuality is right but if this girl is suicidal and cutting herself, u need to get her help right away. there are always help lines for everything out there, drugs, drinking, cutting, suicide! this girl has issues and so does her mom. maybe you should tell your mom or definatly call a help line! this girl doesn't seem like the type of person anyone would wanna have sex with or be in a relationship with! and ne ways, your ONLY 14 YEARS OLD! thats way too young to even be concidering sex! SO PLEASE GET HELP!
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i don't like gay people so i think if she creeps you out but you love her you and her should still be a couple............. because love is the only thing that counts
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hey, there are helplines for nearly every problem you listed. there is a disturbing and disproportionate percentage of gay teen suicides. you need to call a hotline and find a local organization to help her out. this is a seriously fucked up person. she really needs help.
-hitler
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hun, sounds like she's got a lot of issues. you shouldn't have gotten mixed up in that, but you did, and you need to get out. anyone who wants you to physically harm yourself is not anyone to consider having sex with. or having a relationship with. please get out now! <3
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