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My dad is 75 years old and he has had a poor diet for most of his life. He believes that because he goes to the gym every day, he is at the peak of condition. But for the past five years or so, he has been struggling with severe chronic constipation due to his bad eating habits. He has had colon cancer twice (both times we were lucky and the doctor cut it out before it started to spread too much) but cannot get himself to stop binging on burgers and ice cream. Over and over again, I have tried to explain to him the importance of eating fruits and vegetables. I have tried creating menus for him to follow and came up with all sorts of ideas to make this as easy as possible for him. He always agrees, but abandons the plan within 2-7 days. Part of the problem is that he also has dementia, so he always forgets. When I remind him of the agreement he made, he says, "stop telling me what to do!"
It became clear that he had no willpower to stop himself from becoming sick again. So our family made arrangements to put him on a strict daily allowance and have my mom go out and buy all of his groceries. Except that he always turns his nose up at all of the vegetable dishes she makes and runs out to get ice cream even when we give him just $5 a day. I continually remind him of the agreement he made, and he always either says he'll do better tomorrow, or he acts like he never agreed to it at all.
My mom has given up. She said that you can't force someone to want to make themselves better and it stresses her out to have to police him all the time. The truth is that he's going to kill himself with bad food and there's nothing anyone can do about it.
This is simply not acceptable to me. My dad is literally the only person I have in the world. The idea of him not being around is not imaginable. Yes I know that we all die someday. But I can't just sit by and watch him actively destroying himself. I was thinking of simply cutting him off of all money so that he can't go out and buy ANYTHING at all that he's not supposed to. But my mom said that this isn't realistic. He would need to have money on him in the event that his car broke down somewhere.
What can I do to ensure once and for all that he intakes the nutrition he needs every day to stop his colon cancer from returning? (link)
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I'm sorry but there isn't really anything you can do to make a person eat the way you want them too. You can only suggest better options & hope he likes them. You could try letting him eat ice cream if he eats a salad or some veggies first.
I am a little confused. You say he has dementia & yet he is driving? He must have early stage dementia. Are you sure this diagnosis isn't what is upsetting you? Dementia is a very, very difficult thing to live with for all involved. Changing his diet won't change any of that.
I say let him eat what he wants. When his dementia progresses he won't know what he's eating so you can feed him what you want. That is just my opinion & probably not a very medically correct one.
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Well a few years ago my mother passed away leaving a very expensive house to my bum sister. ( my name was taken off do to her scamming). Now all these years later her bum son lives with her . He has 2 kids from first girlfriend and the she left him and then he married had a baby with some one else and split up after 3 months and lives with his mom (my sister). He is 37. It burns me up. That I struggle. And the money I got from the inheritance I bought a house in a not so good. Neighborhood. Me and my husband have always lived on are own but struggle. I see people living with family members and getting away with it. I feel stupid. Maybe I should have taken the easy road.? Am I stupid? Burnt up (link)
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You are not stupid. Perhaps your mom realized that you are a survivor & that your sister perhaps was never gonna make it without help. There is no way of knowing so don't stress about it.
In my experience children coming back to the nest just don't work out very well. Your sister isn't going to have it easy. She will be expected to babysit kids, cook & clean up after the whole group, do the laundry...it gets old. Then its very hard to get them to leave. She just won't want to toss the grands out into the street. So maybe she doesn't really have it so good.
Your home with your husband probably means more to you than having one given to you. If you don't like the neighborhood, maybe you can sell your house & upgrade to something better. Your sis is stuck where she is.
You're not stupid. You are a hard worker & can do anything you set your mind to.
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Hi, why do friend invite you for a dinner and meet his girlfriend and kids if you feel like he had liked you? Been friends for a while. Teasing back and forth. Compliments me everytime we see each other. We're to go for a dinner as normal friends does but he had to cancel and instead invited me for a dinner at his place so that I can meet his family. What the heck?! Help please?! (link)
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Sounds like while he wants to be friends but is making it real clear he has a family.
It could be he was having feelings toward you that made him uncomfortable & he didn't want to take a risk of messing up his family. It happens.
It could also be that he felt you might take a dinner alone with him the wrong way.
Either way it seems he is trying to say his priority is his girlfriend & kids. He is being honest with you without coming right out and saying it.
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So, when I started my current job a year ago a much younger woman, E., was very friendly toward me- catching my eye, smiling, staying behind.
I had had a terrible experience from getting involved in work before so kept my distance from her. I knew that between the age difference (20y) and simply working in the same office nothing good could happen.
She seemed hurt but found a man from another office and they moved in together.
Eventually we got talking and I really enjoyed her company- she has a Visual Arts degree and we share similar tastes in TV and film, though she prefers Fantasy books and is quite a 'romantic' thinker.
She was the first person outside my team to ask about me after my hospital stay, which was nice, and we have some great chats.
Anyway, This Valentines Day we had an office theme and we're encouraged to send cards etc.
I thought it would be nice to send her a Secret Admirer card- nothing intense, just a 'have a happy day' type card, no hearts, declarations of love etc.
When she got it she seemed really happy which was nice to see. The usual "so embarassing" whilst showing it to every other woman. It felt good.
However a week later she suddenly became very distant from me. Avoiding eye contact, curt replies, no smiles. She even left work with a female friend without saying goodnight, neither of which she has done before. I have no idea how she worked out it was from me.
I have kept out of her way as I hate the idea of making her unhappy or uncomfortable in any way.
I tried to do something nice but it backfired. I get on well with everyone else from canteen staff to managers and even have a female work friend the same age as E. who keeps meeting me for lunch.
I don't want to get a reputation as a 'creeper' at work. Nor do I want E. To feel odd around me as in the circumstances I just thought it would make her feel special and happy.
Any advice?
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You may want to wait for some younger person to jump in here, but, I will give you my idea.
Maybe she was waiting for this secret admirer to say something. Tell her it was you. If she is avoiding you now you really have nothing to lose.
You don't make a girl happy by sending secret admirer message & then just leaving it hanging like nothing was said. THAT makes people uncomfortable. She might think she has a stalker. So I think you should seriously consider telling her it was you. If you have feelings for her let her no.
What about this other girl who keeps meeting you for lunch? Hey, she may be interested in you. Take a look at her too.
Good luck! :)
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We got a female pitbull puppy yesterday and i have 3 other dogs. Two sausage dogs and one husky. My one sausage dog cant stand her. He is very stiff and he used to be a very loving dog until we got the pitbull. He nibbles her ears but and keeps wanting to bite her. Hes bit her hard 3 or 4 times now therest are just snapping at her. How do we stop this and get him to be back to how he was? I dont want my dog to feel neglected or anything.
Also the puppy is teething socit bites everyone. How do we stop it from biting our dogs because they will bite her back? (link)
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Oh boy. I remember when my dogs were puppies. Those sharp little teeth hurt! They will also chew everything they get hold of. Including older dogs!
I wouldn't worry about the sausage dog biting her.
I think it is just letting the puppy know that he doesn't appreciate being a chew toy. The puppy will learn sooner or later not to mess with sausage! It takes puppies a little while sometimes to get the message. But, it will.
Unless someone is getting hurt bad just let them get used to each other. They will. :)
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Hello all, he asks a personal questions like, which college do you go to, which church do you go, such as birthday, says I might have seen you somewhere around here etc. So, is this normal for a bloke or is he just a another weirdo? Men point of view please?! Thank u all. (link)
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I'm not a man but will give you my opinion as well.
Sounds like he is just wanting to get to know you. Is he someone you know a little about or is he a stranger? Is he someone you are talking to online or in person? If you could add that info it might help you get some better answers.
That said, people ask all kinds of questions when they want to get to know you. If this is someone you go to school with, or work with, they may be reasonable questions after you've gotten to know them some. If you are a teen and are talking to someone online, I'm not sure I would give that kind of info. It may just be me but it seems like there is an ever increasing amount of weirdos in the world. :)
Come on men, let this lady know what you think.
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I started the trigestrel pill now I don't know when should I start and on what day should I start (link)
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Its been a while since I was on the pill but...
If all else fails call your doctors office and ask to speak to a nurse. She will give you the correct info.
Most pills come in 2 colors. When you get to the 7 pills that are actually just sugar pills, and a different color, you should start your period. Not always on that first day of taking them, but sometime during the taking of those pills.
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So I made a profile on this dating profile and I'm kind of insecure of how I look so my profile picture is just a random sunset I've found online. I met this guy on there and he messaged me and said he doesn't normally message people first but he just had to message me because we had so much in common based on my profile and apparently we went to the same unverisity (turns out he's not my type but I think I'm his type) anyways we talked all night and then all throughout this morning and then he finally asked me to send a pic of me, so I asked for his Instagram so I could just send him the pic there and guess what? he did have an Instagram but he only had one follower, and was following 53 people, he had no profile picture or posts either. Which is kind of strange so I started to feel uneasy because what if he's a pedophile posing as an 18 year old boy? So then I asked if he had a Twitter, he said no, I asked if he had a Facebook he said no and he said he only had whatsapp which is basically the same thing as what we were talking on, he said he had snapchat but he didn't give it to me and he said he had his number I could just send my pic to him there. So I decided to stop messaging him all together and I kid you not he's sent me about 5 messages back to back asking if I sent my pic to him yet and that he doesn't bite etc. So I got sick and tired of it and finally told him I don't feel safe showing him my pic because he might be a serial killer or whatever and he said that he can assure me he's actually 18 years old and innocent and that since I don't have a profile pic He could be talking to a gay guy for all he knows. So then I stopped messaging him again and he sent me about 4 messages again asking and saying he's sorry if he was pressuring me and that he doesn't judge blah blah. I would've sent him my pic but his Instagram account was just was a big red flag for me his excuse was "he doesn't like putting his life on the Internet" which is understandable and he said its his friend that made his Instagram and he just uses it to browse. I guess he had an answer to everything but honestly I still don't feel safe sending him my pic he now knows what school I go to its a pretty big university so the odds of us ever running into each other is small, I don't know if he's actually who he says he is, I get why he's asking me to send a pic but he's showing some red flags so I'm not going to. Anyways he's still messaging me now but I'm not replying and I'm debating on deleting the app the other guys that have asked for my pic after I said no moved on, idk if it's because he likes me that he won't move on or he's not who he says he is. If you have any advice on this situation please help! Also he just sent me a message saying "are you happy with your body?" Just cause I won't post a pic (link)
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Follow your instincts. Those feelings are right almost always. I would block his number and stop any communication with him.
If you must join a dating website, join a well known one. Do some research before you put your info out there. I have heard some of them charge you to join. I would make sure it is a legit site & join one of those. Yes, they cost you some money, but the majority of people who spend that money are probably going to be legitimately looking for a serious relationship. Still use caution even on those sites, but I think they are more trustworthy.
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Now long story short, I'm a 17 year old who managed to graduate early and is now paying my way through college myself. My parents helped me some, but everything else I pay for myself.
This is not the problem, the problem is that recently my best friend of my entire life lost everything. She had to move out of her parents house(and she moved in with me), her car is broken and has AWFUL gas mileage, her boyfriend dumped her for no reason, and to top it all off her job recently dropped all her clients but one so she has barely any income. Last night she was understandably very upset and while driving got a ticket. A 450$ ticket, and one she can't afford to pay.
I of course said I'd help her out and take care of it considering the circumstances, but now with that, and what's left of my college fees(590$), both need to be payed in full by Oct. 19th.(funny timing huh?) But anyway, she makes barely anything now, and I make 180$ a week at my part time job. I'd gladly work more or get another job, but with being a full time student as well I don't have time and the fact that I'm still a minor I really can't. I don't know what to do, I could pay for lot of it in time but there is still a few hundred I need and then both our expenses during this time on top of that, are there any ideas you could give to help us get money fast? Please keep in mind we live in a tiny town, and if you suggest ebay, what are some things we could sell on there?
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Lets see, there is a lot going on for you!
First, it is nice of you to help a friend. Do your best to help some but this debt is hers. She needs to grow up and deal with this herself. Be supportive but let her take responsibility for her own. You have enough to deal with.
You don't say why she had to move out of her parents house. Thats where she could turn for help paying her bill. Is she 18? If not her parents may have to pay it anyway. If she is 18, her best bet is going to be to go in on the court date & explain the situation & ask for a new court date. That will give her time to maybe earn the money herself.
http://www.drivinglaws.org/resources/traffic-tickets/speed-violations/what-do-if-speeding-ticket-fees-more-you-can-pay
If her car is broken & a gas guzzler, she may want to save for a new car, or sell the one she has & get a car she can afford to drive. Go for an older car if possible. The taxes & insurance on it will be more affordable if she gets an older car.
She needs to talk to her parents & fix whats wrong. Friends are great, but some of them can be hard to live with in the long run. If you want her as a room mate, don't start now with helping to much. I know, I know you want to, but trust me she needs to learn responsibility.
Boy friends are very replaceable. I understand the pain & heartache she feels but encourage her to get back out there & date other guys. Don't dwell on the bad guy, find a good one.
She needs to find another job. I like to recommend going online & seeing what your local hospital has to offer. Check in clerks & admissions clerks are great jobs & pay well & most have retirement plans.
I wish you luck. You are a good friend. :)
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Hello, I'm freaking out and don't know what to do. I'm completely out of money and overdrafted by -$10 in my account.
I'm a college student who just moved off to college less than a month ago and found a new job three weeks ago. It turned out though that in the first two weeks my job didn't give me very many hours as I was training so I only wound up with about $110 for the first week and haven't been paid yet for this last week and won't be paid for this week until next Thursday or later.
My issue is that I have a car payment and car insurance which totals about $425 together and my car insurance was taken out this morning, which is what overdrafted me.
I even sold a watch that I loved to make money ($80) but I sold it online and now I won't get paid for it until the buyer gets it and accepts it, but who knows when that will be when I just shipped it today.
My car payment ($316) is due on the 26th and though I have a grace period I have no idea how I'm going to be able to make this!!!
Fortunately, because I am a college student I at least have a meal plan so I can depend on that for food during the week. However, I have no money for food on the weekends or anything else I might need. I'm also 100 miles behind on an oil change in my car so I don't even feel safe driving it and it needs a synthetic change which is $60! I don't know what to do, I feel like everything is a giant disaster right now!
I can't ask my mom or dad for money because they don't have any to spare and I'm stuck on campus without any friends since I'm new here.
Please help me with some ideas!
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The bank will charge you for your overage. Most banks will give you 30 days to pay it back to them. I would call the bank and let them know what happened. They will work with you, it will just cost you a fine. They can tell you what that fine will be.
The oil change will have to wait another week. You should change the oil regularly, but getting behind once isn't going to hurt it any. Just make sure it isn't low on oil. If it is add some. Oh, and a money saving idea for future, learn to change your own oil. It isn't hard at all. :)
If you live on campus they won't feed you on weekends? The weekend is here. If you don't have any friends on campus who might feed you, I don't know what you might do. Maybe one of our students can help with some ideas on that.
Best of luck :)
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I've never had close friends since I was 8 years old. Thinking about this has always made me feel painfully sad but I don't know what to do anymore. I've never had a group of people to just hang out during the weekend, and I can't figure out what's wrong with me.
Some background:
My family moved country when I was 8. I was sent to very affluent girl only middle school and high schools where I was at the bottom of the social ladder and faced mean-girl style bullying. My mom was also pretty controlling and has OCD so she didn't let me go out much or always made me take along my older brother who has Aspergers to the few things I was invited to.
I thought college would be better but it wasn't. I was in hospital for a while so ended up going to college when I was 21. I made a few distant friends but generally felt out of place since I'm older. The few friends I do have I like a lot but I'm not that close to them and I only hang out with each one once a week just the two of us to have dinner/ run/ workout together.
I don't know how to become more normal with my social life. I know I'm quiet and shy. I look pretty average so I know it's not because I have a beard or bad b.o. or something.
I started going to church and the people there are friendly but I'm still very new there so don't know if I will make friends there. I just moved away from my mom into a place with 4 housemates who are friendly but I don't know how housemate friendships work.
How do you make close friends? I feel like theres a technique or something that I just never figured out.
My worst fear is that I will always spend my weekends alone or if I ever get married I will have about 3 people to invite.
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Being a shy person around people I don't know, I can feel your pain!
Give the people at church a chance. I have found a lot of people will see shyness as being stuck up, or a snob. WE know that isn't true, but that's the way its seen a lot of the time. So, as hard as it might be, you need to try to interact more with the people around you.
Do you see someone reading a book you liked? Start a conversation about it. Look for school groups or local things of interest with a facebook page. I know, it sounds silly, but maybe you could make a few friends via social media first, then meet them face to face. Do you have anything in common with your housemates? Just jump in an get involved with things.
Always be cautious of course when meeting in person. Stay public until you get to know them well, Male or female.
Maybe volunteer somewhere. Get more involved doing things with your workout friend too. See if she'd like to meet on another day & do something else. Just have to try to beat that shyness & talk to people. :)
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I'm in 7th grade, and my boyfriend and I are being seriously stalked. A girl (the stalker) has a major crush on my boyfriend and therefore stalks both of us. My bf's personal login information is her password for a website, she knows where we live, and she kniws all of my family. She confronted my bf and said she was "sorry about your dad", who had died two years ago. He NEVER told her. She also knows that I am distantly related to one of the teachers, whic I didn't even know. I thought she was lying at first, but then realized that the teacher and my uncle had the same last name (not my last name). She also knows our complete schedules and follows us in the halls. What should I do?? (link)
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Both of you need to tell her to back off. Make sure she understands you are NOT kidding. I would also make sure the boyfreind & you do this together so there is no confusion. Maybe he isn't making himself clear to her. I mean, it can be a boost to the ego to have someone think you are worth following around.
I'm going to suggest you talk to your parents about this, or a teacher. There is a difference between a "stalker" that means to do you harm, and a school girl with a crush. School kids just know things about each other. I don't know if that is anything to worry about. To be safe, talk to an adult you trust about this so they can help you.
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Hi there I would like to know if anything will happen if I take the Saturday and Sunday red pills in the new pack since my previous pack were triphasil. (link)
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Hi! The red pills are sugar pills. They won't do anything if you take them. The are simply there so you have something to take daily. We are all creatures of habit & taking a pill every day helps make sure you don't forget to take a pill.
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This has been going on for about a year now, I here a sound that's similar to scratching inside your ear when I listen to music or here somebody talking, basically noise in general. It doesn't happen all the time, only a few times a day. It only goes on in my right ear, and can measure in intensity. Sometimes it's soft, and other times it's like a buzzing. Any ideas on what thus means? (link)
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See your doctor. Theres no sense in having this bother you if it can be repaired. Tinnitus comes to mind, but we have no way of knowing. See your doctor.
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can xasten tablets make my dog
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Do not give your dog anything like that to gain weight unless a vet has prescribed it. It could kill the dog. If you feel your dog needs to gain some weight, talk to a vet. One of the main reasons dogs lose weight is worms, so, get your dog checked out.
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i went to the er for cellulitis of the face and hives on sat...the dr at the er said follow up with pcp in two -three days...u have no car...would u still go? (link)
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Yes. Follow-ups are important. Even if your condition has started to improve, your PCP can help you find what caused it & possibly help keep it from recurring. See if you can get a friend or relative to give you a ride & do the follow up.
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There is a guy at my college that i really like and have since before attending college together and he's just the most gorgeous guy i have ever come to know and we are nothing to each other at the moment but whenever he talks to a girl i freak out and get jealous and not because i feel intimidated because i know he doesn't like them and he's just such a friendly person but i can't help it, and i stalk him on social media trying to see the girls he associates with and i just can't deal with it and i want to express that i just don't want him to show attention to other girls because i feel that he's mine and he's no one else's and I've become so possessive but i can't say shit because he's not my man but then i think the girls should back off because he is?? i don't know how else to explain it because i am confused myself, but in simpler words he isn't mine but then again he is and i can't handle him talking to other girls. (link)
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Well, he isn't yours. There isn't any then again he is. He is going to talk to other girls & date other girls because that's what people do.
You need to try to get out with other people and not obsess over one guy. If you can't get your feelings under control then you need to speak to a mental health professional before your feelings get even more out of control. I think you already realize that it isn't normal. Get some help before you do something you'll regret.
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Hi! I'm 28/f.
So, my cat, Luna, is 8 years old, and spayed. It's been just the two of us (against the world - hah) since she was a kitten. She's skittish to the point that she sometimes gets jumpy and runs if a car sounds wrong. We've had some rough times, but she's adapted to everything, including dogs (not directly, but dogs in the home)... She's never had to adapt to another cat.
I've taken in a kitten - Siren is her name. She's a stray, can't be more than a few months old (still has kitten fuzz and a kitten mew) and the sweetest thing. I checked her for fleas and anything visible before I made the decision to bring her home (haven't taken her to the vet yet, money is tight) and gave her one heck of a bath after I clipped her claws. I've never caved to taking in a stray before (I will have a backup home for her, but not for another couple of weeks), but when I realized how thin she was, I knew I had to take her (guys, you could feel ALL of her ribs and her spine, and when she was given food, it was like she hadn't eaten for weeks)
Luna is not taking too well to this. Even though I sequestered Siren, Luna has holed herself up in the closet. I moved her food, water, AND litterbox into my bedroom because I wasn't sure she would come out to eat or relieve herself. The couple of times they have seen each other, there has been hissing (of course). A couple times Siren actually went after Luna - and Luna, being an indoor, pampered, skittish sweetheart, RAN. In fact, I think she ripped off one of her own claws trying to get away. I tossed Siren into a room with a swat on the butt a couple times.
I'm doing my best to play mediator and build Luna up to be the dominant cat, but I think because of our one-on-one dynamic, I might actually have taken the "alpha cat" position rather than Luna, so I've tried to take that into account. I don't stop Luna from hissing, but I do stop Siren. Today they managed to be within sight of one another for a few minutes before Luna started growling.
I keep Siren in the bathroom (with the necessities of course) when I'm not home so Luna has free reign of the apartment (not that Luna ever seems to leave the bedroom), but when I'm here, Siren LOVES to cuddle. I try to make a point to go cuddle Luna with Siren's scent on me; and Luna sleeps with me at night, but I've never done this before.
Any suggestions? Am I doing the right things? I want everyone to be comfy and happy, and I want my silly, purry, snuggly Luna back. (link)
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Actually, I would just leave them alone & let them figure it out. Luna may not be the alpha of the two. That's OK. Let them hiss & growl at each other. They usually stop after a while & go about their own business. Don't move Luna's stuff or separate them. If you want them to get along just ignore them & let them work it out. Don't play favorites. I think they will eventually either get along or stay out of each others way.
If for some reason they can't learn to get along, You will have to see about sending the stray to a new home. I think think they will learn to get along when left to work it out amongst themselves.
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Guys i am 17. Today i hav been mastubating 4 a week or two now. Me n my bf r waiting 4 me to turn 18 n hav sex. Now today while i was masturbating suddenly my vagina everythin inside strted hurting like hell. I almost felt like i might die. When i took my finger out i saw some blood on it. I am due on my period so i thought it might b d period blood. It bleeded for about a min or two n it stopped. My pelvoc area is still hurting. Is it possible for me to mess up wid my hymen?
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It is possible to break your own hymen. That may hurt for a minute or two when it happens. If it has been a while & you are still in pain, then something else may be going on. I suggest you see a doctor as soon as possible.
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My bf talks to girls sometimes and I get very jealous because I'm scared of losing him. He's stopped talking to a few because of this but I feel it's very unfair and selfish of me to let him do that. So how do I stop being jealous of these girls and trust him???? I've got major trust issues btw
I think it's because I think these girls are beautiful and I'm ugly. And they game (which is his favorite thing ever) and I cant stand it....,,,,,,, and they're close by and I'm all the way across the world long distanxe (link)
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I could tell you to just stop being jealous but that won't work. Everyone has a little twinge of jealousy now and then.
You are in a long distance relationship. I will be brutally honest and tell you that these relationships don't usually work out. They really don't, especially if you are a teen.
You both need to be going out to school functions and being a part of groups of friends of both sexes. Teens flirt. They like to hang out & do things.They need to date people.
I advise you to do what you don't want to do & find someone closer to where you are. He needs to do the same. You do not have to stop being friends. You may one day move closer together &
turn that friendship into something more. Right now though you need to be living your life, because it is short.
If you want to stay together via the internet that is your choice of course. I wish you luck. I'm just afraid jealousy is always going to interfere in this relationship. Its so easy to lie & make things up on the internet.
Sorry I didn't have an answer you will like.
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