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Relatives that live with relatives
Well a few years ago my mother passed away leaving a very expensive house to my bum sister. ( my name was taken off do to her scamming). Now all these years later her bum son lives with her . He has 2 kids from first girlfriend and the she left him and then he married had a baby with some one else and split up after 3 months and lives with his mom (my sister). He is 37. It burns me up. That I struggle. And the money I got from the inheritance I bought a house in a not so good. Neighborhood. Me and my husband have always lived on are own but struggle. I see people living with family members and getting away with it. I feel stupid. Maybe I should have taken the easy road.? Am I stupid? Burnt up
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You are not stupid. Perhaps your mom realized that you are a survivor & that your sister perhaps was never gonna make it without help. There is no way of knowing so don't stress about it.
In my experience children coming back to the nest just don't work out very well. Your sister isn't going to have it easy. She will be expected to babysit kids, cook & clean up after the whole group, do the laundry...it gets old. Then its very hard to get them to leave. She just won't want to toss the grands out into the street. So maybe she doesn't really have it so good.
Your home with your husband probably means more to you than having one given to you. If you don't like the neighborhood, maybe you can sell your house & upgrade to something better. Your sis is stuck where she is.
You're not stupid. You are a hard worker & can do anything you set your mind to.
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Are you stupid; NO. Are you being taken advantage of, probably.
You and your husband have worked hard for what you have and know the value of a dollar. While you may not say actually voice this to your children they are learning the value of a dollar through you and your husbands hard work. I know this because that is how I grew up. I knew we were not rich. I never knew just how poor we were at times. What I did see is how hard my parents worked to make sure there was good food on the table. That my sister and I had clean serviceable clothes to wear to school and we had a clean home with comfortable beds to sleep in.
Of course this is all hindsight now but it is that hindsight that built my work ethic, that has allowed me to build a better life for my family.
I realize struggling is hard and can wear you down especially when you see your sister just skating by through deception and cheating. Your are also seeing the results of her way of life. Her son has fathered 3 children only married to the mother of 1 child. He is living with his mother most likely because he can't support himself and the 3 children he fathered. This is the result of your sisters chosen way of lie.
IF you have children I do not foresee your children returning to the nest for mom and dad to support them because they do not have the proper ethics to sustain themselves. This is what your struggles are all about. This is what parenting is all about the ability to show your children how to make a better life for themselves.
No your not stupid if anyone is stupid I would say it is your sister.
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