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okay so there is this guy, yes very cliche and everyone asks these types of questions..but anyways. I dated this guy for about 7 months. A couple months ago we broke up and ive kind of been attracted to his best friend. Ive liked his best friend for a while, even while we were dating. The problem is he doesnt want to hurt his friends feelings by dating me he tells me im hot and flirts with me a lot and i just dont know what to do. Could someone help me pleasee. ILL RATE YOU HIGHH!
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If he wants to go out with you he is going to have to talk about it with the ex boyfriend. If the ex has no feelings for you left then I don't see how he would have a problem with you dating his friend. If he likes you well enough then that really shouldn't matter anyway. :)
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i'm having trouble getting my parents used to the fact that me and my boyfriend have a 3 years difference in age. he's 16 and i'm 13. my mom likes him but my dad gets a little to protective about it and they won't let me drive around anywhere with him. he's a really sweet guy and i trust him with my life but my parents don't see my side to this. what could i do to get them to trust me and him together in a car and get them used to the age difference? (link)
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You know what? Dads going to be overprotective regardless of the guys age. I didn't let mine date until they were 16, so I think 13 is a little young for dating myself. I let them go out with a group of friends but I think the one on one dating is to intense for 13. But, since your parents allow it then I think maybe if you have him over to your house often enough for them to get to know him a little better they might feel a little better about it. You could also consider going out together with some of your other friends as a group. That could help too. :)
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What exactly does it mean when a guy gives a girl his jacket? Does it have any significance because you see it alot in movies & stuff. Is it "guy code" for anything? (link)
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It used to be part of the whole "going steady" routine, along with getting the class ring.
Seems like these days kids go "steady" at the drop of a hat. No more dating around until you find the special person you want to go stady with. So, I really doubt it means much these days...but, I could be wrong. :)
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All right.. I'm 17 and a girl
So there's this boy.. we've been hangin out a lot lately and it's been a lot of fun like he comes over late at night sometimes and we just hang out in my backyard and talk.. I think I might like him..but I just got in trouble and I'm not sure how long I'm gonna be grounded for or anything..but I still wanna see him..and I don't want him to like someone else.. what do I do? (link)
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I guess if he is allowed into your backyard then that will have to do until you're ungrounded (is that even a word?). Talking is the best way for him to get the gist of what you're feeling. When you're no longer grounded maybe he will ask you out. I don't think he will go off and find someone else in the mean time. If so, then he must not have feelings for you. :)
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(im 15/f)ok so im starting a band. and 2 of them are guys, 19. And one of them started comming earlyer last week... and he sang all these love songs.. it kinda creeped me out.. and then when the other guy showed up he was all normal again. But then when he was trying to show my something on the drums he put his hands over mine while holding the sticks. (like they do in movies you know? when a guy likes a girl..) it felt ocward too.. but hes also been like really nice to my parents too.. like trying to impress them. Its really freaking me out and i dont know if i even want to be in the band with them anymore.. and we just go together too.
sorry its so long.. thank you to those who help though :D i really appreciate it (link)
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Maybe he's just being friendly...you're only 15 to his 19. Maybe he's being brotherly. BUT, if you feel it is something more then go with your feeling. Keep your distance because he is way to old for you. Since you don't like him anyway that shouldn't be a problem, just avoid being alone with him whenever possible. Couldn't hurt to discuss it with mom either if you'd be comfortable with that. :)
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Okay, my best friend in the whole wide world is moving. And I have no idea what to say to him. He's only going like 30 minutes away, but he's my best friend! And I don't know how to deal with this anymore. I'll miss him to much. How can I get over this? (link)
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30 minutes isn't far. Close enough to date should you decide to one day. And once a guy gets a car...well, he'll be wanting someplace to drive it to. So, write, email, call on the phone.
Remain friends and I think it will be just fine. :)
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My boyfriend's mom is such a BITCH. I know that sounds mean, but its the truth. He broke up w/ me and we got back together. We are together now but I haven't talked to him in 2 weeks because everytime I call she is like he's out side mowing the grass. I called 2 days ago and she said he's outside mowing the grass. I call back 3 hrs. later and she starts yelling I TOLD YOU HE'S OUTSIDE! I am very sensitive and I was like like ok. (I almost cried because she keeps yelling at me) I called back today and she said HE'S MOWING THE GRASS! Is there a way he can find out his mom is being mean to me without me telling him? If I tell him he'll tell his mom. (link)
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I don't know anyone who mows the grass that often. If you have another way of of contacting him I would use it. Then I would definitely ask him about it. It could be he doesn't want to talk to you and has mom running interference. I hope for your sake that isn't the case...but it could be. :)
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ok so ive had a crush on this guy since my freshmen year (Kyle). And then i find out from a friend (Jason) that Kyle's intrested in me too, and he thinks i am cute, has a good personality.. blah blah blah. But as i'm asking Jason about all this he says Kyle is confused and he doesn't know if he wants a relationship! what am i suppose to do? This guy doesn't really know how crazy i am about him. But i mean, how do i get him to think of me as more then a friend? PLEASE SEND WHATEVER ADVICE U GOT! haha thanks! (link)
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Beware the guy who doesn't want a relationship.
Other than that, you need to get in there and talk to him yourself. You don't necessarily have to come right out and tell him you're nuts about him...just talk about everything and anything. Since he doesn't know if he wants a relationship let him be the one to make the first move. If he doesn't after awhile, you may just have to settle for friendship. :)
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i have lived in my current house for almost two years. the place that i moved from i had lived there for 8 years. i have just recently gone back to where i came from and i visited my friends and met some new ones.
the question i have is: is it possible to fall for someone that you have just met and are almost completely alike in every way (we have the same interest, tastes, etc.)?
i like him and he seems to like me, if we pursue this possoble relationship, would it be smart to do it at long distance? (i live in montana, he lives in kansas).
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Well almost anything is possible. It might be best for you to be friends for awhile first. I mean write each other and email etc.. I don't think you have to be real serious about it for awhile. You would have to give up all the school dances etc. if you were exclusive to a long distance guy at your age. If you BOTH are serious enough to do that then you can, but that is missing a lot that you might regret later. You can always get serious about a long distance relationship with him later on. You'll be excellent friends by then if you keep up the communication. :)
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ok.. so i have a pretty good guy friend and like a few months ago.. we started to like each other and stuff you know.. all that. and then he like wanted to wait cuz he was still getting over his ex and stuff and so i waited on him for a while and i got tired of it so it didnt work out.. and i still like him.. i cant help it.. but his friends all tell me that they think he does and stuff but now hes going out with this girl thats a year younger than us and shes like really ditsy and stuff and he just barely met her and asked her out.. and it was never like that for us.. like he just liked her so easily so yeah i was pretty upset about it but i didnt wanna show it cuz he thinks i dont like him anymore but i just wish we could actually go out and stuff.. what should i do? should i tell him that i like him again or.. what? help! (( ill rate )) (link)
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I think you should tell him how you feel. I don't think you should say I like you "again". I think you just need to say that you never really stopped liking him you were just tired of waiting for him to get over the ex. Be honest about it. :)
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I hope I'm just being nervous and paranoid. I pray to God that I am.
But me and my boyfriend were having sex last night, and when he pulled out, the condom came off in me.
How..I don't know.
But he had already busted..so...u get my drift. I'm pretty much done for..aren't I? (link)
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If you mean could you be pregnant...Yes. Hopefully you aren't but it is certainly possible. You need to remember that stress can cause you not to have your period too. So if you miss your period by say...2-3 weeks, get a home test and check it out. That is worst case scenario. :)
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I am a 17 year old girl and I just made a huge mistake. I have a boyfriend, but this other guy has been hitting on me, flirting like crazy... and last night I gave in. It was only a few kisses, nothing at all really. But I feel really guilty. He said he won't tell my boyfriend because he knows I still love him. But what do I do? I really do love my boyfriend, this was just a one night slipup... if I tell my boyfriend I'll probably get dumped, if I don't I feel guilty... but I'll still be with him which is the desired outcome. What do I do?
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This is going to sound mean and believe me it is not my intention to be mean to you. I think kissing another guy was wrong...but, not the end of the world either.
You did a wrong thing and you deserve to feel some guilt. If you tell your boyfriend, you feel better but he feels bad. I don't think you need to deliberately hurt your boyfriend so keep it to yourself. Feel the guilt and keep away from the other guy. If you feel he is going to say something to your boyfriend then confess, otherwise this is one case where I think you being honest will only hurt your boyfriend unnecessarily. :)
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Ok i had a boyfriend..but we never talked one bit..sometimes online but not a very lightening conversation. So i dumped him on feild day. Then he says he has a different girl friend on that same day. He wont tell people who..but i still kind of liked him. The only real reason i dumped him is because we didnt talk..and it was weird when we did. Do you think i made the right choice? Should i just give up on him and fall for another?
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I think you did the right thing. If two people can't talk then they just don't have much of a relationship. Most likely he's making up the other girlfriend story, but who really cares? He isn't the one for you. Now, you know you want one that will talk to you next time. Don't settle for one that won't talk. :)
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Okay, well i started dating this gurl about 2 weeks ago and she is my 1st gurlfriend. We were at her house and she wanted to make out but i have never done it before and hse has amny times before. I did it anyways but then she kept on wanting to make out and i just went with it but i didnt "feel" anyhthing. I dont know if I just have to get used to it or i just dont like her anymore.... but today i took her to my aunts house for a graduation party for my cousin and i didnt feel comfortable around her AT ALL and i kinda avioded her and didnt talk much to her and i think she notcied i was acting strange but i dont know weather i should break up with her or not..... and now i get these stomach aches when ever i think about us making out and it makes me "sick" kinda and i dont want to hang out with her that much anymore cause i think all she wants to do is make out and I dont want to btu its hard to avoid her much cause we talk on the phone every night(since we were realyl good friends before the dating) and i ahve a lot of calsses with her and now our graduation dance is coming up and i dont really want to dance with her anymore..... what shoudl i do cause i dont want ot break up with her reight before the dance....=( ill feel too bad (link)
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Never do anything you don't want to do. You just aren't ready for all that making out yet. You haven't been dating all that long either and you really should get to know someone a little better first.
I do think that you should break up with her as soon as possible. Don't wait until after the dance. If you go to the dance with her you will be uncomfortable all night and have a really miserable time. She will too. I think you can remain friends with her if you just be honest with her. Tell her you aren't comfortable dating her because you think of her as just a friend. :)
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i know this is really dumb, but i REALLY need advice. okay well recently on myspace i got a message from this guy who was really hot and he thought i was hot, so we exchanged AIM screen names and were talking like all the time. then eventually we started calling each other and now i talk to him online & on the phone every single day. i'm starting to develop feelings for him and i don't want to. there is no chance or future for us, he lives across the country from me! i don't want to stop talking to him though because he is really sweet and funny. is there something wrong with me for liking him? is there any way i can continue talking to him without liking him like THAT ?? please help im going crazy (link)
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You really can't just stop a feeling. It would be nice to do sometimes but it can't be done! I don't think you need to just stop talking to him. He may become a very good friend. Sounds like he already is. You keep up the friendship but go on with the rest of your life. You never know what might happen in the future and you could very well meet one day. You will be pretty good friends by then! So, there is nothing wrong with liking him. :)
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I used to be a really bad kid, like Id sneak out with guys and get drunk and do sexual things. Around New Years Eve (04) I got caught from this and had to go through a drug class. Then in Febuary (05) I got drunk with some guys and got rapped. People have been saying stuff about me because of this. My friends boyfriends tell them not to hang out with me because "I attract niggers, drugs, and alcohol." And my friends parents will say "if you keep hanging out with her youre going to get rapped by black guys." Im not a bad kid anymore, I have moved on from this and do not do drugs or sneak out with guys anymore. I have started being nicer to my mom and decided not to keep anything from her *so everyday I tell her everything that happens even stuff I do with guys.* Is there anyway I can make people stop saying this and realize I am not the same person I was? (link)
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I think it's going to just take some time. It will be tough going but if you keep showing people that you've changed sooner or later they will take notice.
You don't mention your age, young people can unfortunately be cruel sometimes. Don't let their opinions get you down. If they are that shallow then you really don't want their friendship anyway. You don't need a bunch of of friends, one really good one will do. Find one and ignore everybody else.
Even though you have done some "bad" things in your life, you have also done something to be proud of. It wasn't easy for you to change but you did. Remember that when the knot heads start saying things about you. Keep being open and honest with your mom too. Sometimes they can be pretty good friends too! :)
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ok well i like alot of guys and stuff but the guy that i really want...well hes mad at me cuz i said i found another guy. but see the other gu was him and i think he took it the wrong way so now hes mad at me and wont talk to me when i call. I really like him and i know he likes me alot beucase he tells me that he does and i tell him to. But i dont know how to get him back to me. I really like him! what do i do? thanks (link)
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I have been away...sorry I took so long to get back to you!
I think you need to do some confessing! Tell him how you made up the other guy and why you did it.
You'd have been upset if he'd said the same thing to you...right? Gotta fix it if you want a good relationship with this guy! If you haven't already go call him and get it out in the open. Good luck, hope it goes well! :)
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im 16 years old and 8 months pregnant..my boyfriend ..which is the father and is 19..wont have anything to do with me..he wont even touch me anymore yea he comes over every now and then but he doesnt stay long..it breaks my heart because i love him so much..he says he loves me but it definately doesnt feel like it..what can i do? (link)
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I'm so sorry I didn't get back to you sooner! I was gone for 5 days and came back to find my ISP's server was down for another 2 days.
Have you asked your boyfriend why he is acting the way he is? You need to explain to him that his support is really needed by you right now. He may be scared...But, so are you. Try to encourage him to tell you what he's feeling, you will both feel so much better getting your feelings out in the open.
Tell him exactly what you told me...that you aren't feeling very loved right now. Part of it could be hormones but if he isn't spending much time with you a lot of it is probably him.
The main thing you guys need right now is some communication. Be honest with each other. You need to know if you can count on this guy or not in the future. If you are keeping the baby and he doesn't want the responsibility, it would be kind of nice for you to know this...even if it hurts. If he wants a future with you and his child then he needs to be more attentive to you both.
Again, sorry it took so long to get back with you. Let me know if there is anything more I can do to help you out. :)
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Well I have a biig problem! I like my best friend's brother. He's a year younger than me and he's reeeeally cute! I think he likes me cause everytime I'm over her house he flirts with me and gets all close to me and stuff. I want to go out with him but I'm afraid that my best friend would be sooo mad! Cause she like hates her brother and stuff and so yea. I really need some help! I rate high! (link)
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All girls claim to hate their brothers. I think you should talk to her about it. I don't know why you shouldn't date him if you both like each other. She could get a little jealous though. :)
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Okay in my last question I asked about how I should ask this guy out and it ended up being that he asked me like 2 weeks ago. Now theres this girl in our class, big boobs, yeah I know grade 7? but anyways she's like sugar and the guys in our class are wasps. If she's standing alone anywhere they'll rush up to her, annoying. For the past little while she's been holding hands with the guy who asked me out. She likes to hug him in front of me and she acts like their together. She has a boyfriend but I still don't get. I haven'y blown up in her face yet but I will soon. His friends name is Derek and he asked them to like lay off on what their doing cause it's annoying me but they haven't. I want him to just say no to her but I don't think he can. What should I do? (link)
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Why are you putting all the blame on the girl? Takes two. You say you want him to say no but you don't think he can...Bulls***. He is doing exactly what he wants and he doesn't care a bit about your feelings. Discuss it with him if you really want the jerk. If things don't change get rid of him. Life's to short to play stupid little games. :)
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