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Made a mistake.
I used to be a really bad kid, like Id sneak out with guys and get drunk and do sexual things. Around New Years Eve (04) I got caught from this and had to go through a drug class. Then in Febuary (05) I got drunk with some guys and got rapped. People have been saying stuff about me because of this. My friends boyfriends tell them not to hang out with me because "I attract niggers, drugs, and alcohol." And my friends parents will say "if you keep hanging out with her youre going to get rapped by black guys." Im not a bad kid anymore, I have moved on from this and do not do drugs or sneak out with guys anymore. I have started being nicer to my mom and decided not to keep anything from her *so everyday I tell her everything that happens even stuff I do with guys.* Is there anyway I can make people stop saying this and realize I am not the same person I was?
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if your boyfriend dumps you because of this he's not worth you time if my gf had something like the attached to her name i'd just talk to her about it and think nothing of it because i love her not her past
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wow thats pretty sad..and in feel really bad for you...and i no how you feel...i had a best firnd named chelsea..she got raped from my bestfriends brother...and chelsea got pregneat...and people called her a whore and every one stopped hanging out with her and my friends pulled me away from here..she had to get an bortion and every one called her a murder and she had to quite school and she was only in 7th grade..and it made me feel so bad inside..well i dont no what to tell you.. shouild tell your friends and their boyfriends that you changed and thta you got help..and you shouild ask them for one more chance..but you did a great thing by going to get help..and good job on doing better..as for my friend she is geting home schooled... but about you.. you shouild just sit them all down in a room and talk to them all and ask them what they think about you and you correct them if they are wrong about you..and you make sure you tell them that you are not the person you use to be and you are a much better person now..and if they still dont get convinced, then honey they aint worth it..dont waste your time of day to try to convince them..just give t 1 more try and make sure you do it well... wel you can e-mail me anytime..keep i touch with me and tell me what you did to solve your problem..
hope i helped..
love always,
ilovepink101
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You keep doing what youre doing prove them wrong and they'll come to see that you arent the person you use to be..its not something they'll figure out over night it will take time but youre doing good. They'll come to respect you for cleaning up and changing...b/c most people cant do that. Just keep the good things up and they'll see
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Well if your mature enough i would say, if you really care about your friends and what people think about you, then just call them and ask if you can come over and talk to them. And tell them exactly what they told me. And if they have a heart the would acept it and give you another chance, and if they dont then they are a pathedic human being.
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I think it's going to just take some time. It will be tough going but if you keep showing people that you've changed sooner or later they will take notice.
You don't mention your age, young people can unfortunately be cruel sometimes. Don't let their opinions get you down. If they are that shallow then you really don't want their friendship anyway. You don't need a bunch of of friends, one really good one will do. Find one and ignore everybody else.
Even though you have done some "bad" things in your life, you have also done something to be proud of. It wasn't easy for you to change but you did. Remember that when the knot heads start saying things about you. Keep being open and honest with your mom too. Sometimes they can be pretty good friends too! :)
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Hey i'm so proud to hear that you stopped from all those things. Okay let them know that it wasn't you fault that you got raped and if you could have done something you would definitly would have stopped it. and tell that just one mistake doesnt make you horrible for life. go up to them and tell them even if they dont believe because you have nothing to lose. and i'm glad you've gotten closer to your mom. i'm very proud of you even though i dont know you. keep up the good work! hope i helped. Take Care x3 SweetStar.
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im glad you stopped. a lot of people told you everything i was going to say to you but i have one thing to add. maybe change your apperence. i know someone who is known for being a whore so she started to dress like a nun and it worked for her. you could change schools and start over with people that will accept you for who you are now. <3
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Its a good thing that you've decided to change. You just have to keep doing what you're doing and soon enough, people will realize "Hey, she's not out doing drugs anymore...maybe she's changed...". As for your friends parents, if you feel comfortable you can always go up to them personally and explain to them that you've changed. Admit to them your mistakes in the past and explain how you're trying to stay clean. If you usually hang out with your friends outside of your house or their house, or somewhere where their parents can't see you, maybe start going around their house while their parents are home so that they know that you're here, their child is here, and both of you aren't out getting drunk and you're not being a bad influence around their kid. I'm not saying, "always have a parent around when hanging out with friends", you're at an age when you're old enough to go out with friends alone and thats fine. Just go around their parents often so that they know what kind of kid their son/daughter is hanging out with and so they'll be able to trust their son/daughter when they're hanging out alone with you. Just make sure you keep your clean image and don't screw up. You got yourself out of the hole you were once in... just make sure you don't fall into another one. If you have any questions, feel free to leave me one in my box.
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Just keep doing what your doing and they'll come around. It's none of their business what you do or don't do anyway. They are obviously not the kind of people you want around anyways.
It will get better. Don't give up!
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Well,
I'm truly sorry about all that has happened to you and I'm really glad you have decided to change your ways. I think that maybe since it hasn't been too long that everyone dosen't fully believe that you have changed. It will take time and adventually people will come around and see that you have changed for the better. With your friends parents, for me i know that once you lose my trust its gone forever, your friends parents are just looking out for their kids. They don't want the same thing that happened to you to happen to them. They are just being protective. You could try going over to your friends house and talking with their parents or doing something that makes their parents see you have changed.
Adventually it will all work out.
Good Luck.
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You still had your bad behavior this new year, 2005. Which is why your parents can't believe you yet. You stopped your behavior about 4 months ago, thats definetly not a lot of time yet. Its too akward for a girl to get drunk, sneak out and do sexual things with guys and then suddenly change. You getting raped was probably the biggest change in your life. And who knows, if it weren't for that, you'd be still out having sex. I'm not saying that its a good thing that you got raped, nobody in the world deserves it. But, now you probably realize what can really happen if you disrespect yourself and your parents. You can't push trust on yourself from other people. Its too early, you did this for about a year. But, sometimes talking to your parents about how much you realize how bad something that feels good, really can be.
-TheTeenGirl
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i think over time as they see that youve changed they will stop sayin stuff. but there are always goin to have those few bitchez that say stuff all the tyme.
~jenn~
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