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Q: I've recently put on some weight, maybe like ten pounds (which puts my weight at like 130.) Most of this new weight seems to have turned into stomach fat.
My friend Khalil,saw me recently (we don't live very close to eachother so it was a longer visit) and really liked the extra pounds, he said it made me look softer,and my new belly (which is kinda rounded) was 'adoreable'.

So I was wondering do more guys think like my friend, or are they mostly in for skinny girls?

k yes its very true a guy likes a girl in shape
but we dont want all skin and bones. you havent provided us with enough info. i mean if your 5'2 and 130lbs then no its not a good thing haha. Like the last person said, heigth, and ur whole body definately means something in determining this.
www.myspace.com/AnotherDayGone
is my myspace, if ya wana go into more detail and get an honest answer, thats where u can find be. 18/m
hope ta hear from ya!

Q: Everytime I go on my computer, about 10 minutes later my computer drive gets really loud..I can't explain it but it's like an echo or vibrating really loud sound and it's annoying the heck outta me!

Any ideas? I sticked my pillow on the side and it seemed to help butthen my head hurt when I slept on the pillow afterwards =S

ok computers have a fan in them, just like cars have radiator fans
it makes sure the engine stays cool and doesnt overheat
chances are, thats the sound ur hearing. You could have a virus that causes ur computer to do more work then needed, or you are runnin too many programs at once for your computers system. Yes blocking off the sound would make it quiter. As for the pillow making your head hurt, depending on the type of material it is made out of, certain pillows can absorb radiowaves like internet, and when you lay down on it you'll have radioactive waves traveling through the pillow.
So try scanning for viruses, and cut down on the programs being used

Q: what are some songs that have good lyrics about saying goodbye, moving on, or being confused?
thanks

basically all of chris daughtrys CD

Q: 15/f
Lastnight I was at a movie with my boyfriend and he fingered me and stuff and I was rubbing his penis but it was just through his pants. And when it was time to leave he was like "oh shit", and I asked what was wrong and he said that he "let himself go". He cummed all over his boxers & he said he was really suprised because that much had never came out without him having a full on orgasm. Now my question is, is this a normal thing for guys to ejaculate without a real orgasm? Was he just really turned on?

thanks.

im a guy take it from me. unless hes NEVER gotten any.. he didnt completely ejaculate. i mean from the moment it gets hard and theres motion down there, cum starts to come out slowly, and if it goes on for a while, in a closed area(in his boxers) after a while it will seem like alot. thats called pre-cum. or your health teacher would say pre-ejaculatory heh. but yeah its normal and he liked it. i just know first hand it sucks when that happens because i mean it is in ur boxers and that shit gets eeeeeeeverywhere heh.

Q: i've had my license two months.
today, i turned left on RED.
:(
i have trouble telling left and right sometimes
i know, i'm 16. i dont know whyyyy.
so i wasn't thinking. all i did was look for cars. no cars were coming.
i made the turn.
when the turn was finished, i realized that i had just turned LEFT. :(
do you think im going to get a ticket in the mail?
IM SOOO WORRIED.
unbelieveably worried.
please help.

sweetheart clam down lol.
im 18/m and ive been drivin like a physcho for 2 years. i got cameras up in my area on stop lights and i cant tell u how many red lights ive ran, how many intersections ive sped through, how many non yeilding right on reds ive done, or how many lefts on red ive done. never get a ticket in the mail. you have nothing to worry about i promise you.

Q: ok so i see like a hot guy on tv and ill be like "oh he's hot i wanna have sex with him". Like ryan seacrest for example...or simon cowell....or a couple guys at my school....is this normal?

just means ur a horny lil girl lol
and if you live in the dallas texas area my myspace is www.myspace.com/anotherdaygone
drop me a line sometime ;-)

Q: alright i'm 17 years old i've bin with my boyfriend for almost 2 years now and i was wondering if anyone could give me suggestions on how to do something really sexy for him this valentine's day like i'm going to have my house to myself and i want to make his jaw drop. hurry with your answers please and thank you.

ok u can do what my gf did for me. house to urself... perfect. have him comeover and have a note on the door with balloons. send him on a scavenger hunt. make the first one like "the place u asked me out, go there!" and there have balloons with another note that leads him to another place, like your first kiss or something like that. make sure its stuff he remembers. and have the last place be something about your room, and when he walks in, be on the leg in like lingere and have it candle lit, rose pedals everywhere, all that good stuff. want details and some help, my myspace is www.myspace.com/anotherdaygone. feel free

Q: What are you supposed to do after a guy kisses you? Do you just sit there and don't say anything?

really depends where you are.
1)smile and kiss him back
2)make sure his arm is around you, and lean into him and cuddle up with him.
3)put ur hand on his upper thigh

Q: 15/f
okay..well there's this guy that i like..and he likes me back..
we talk to eachother on the phone sometimes..and when we do we talk for hours at a time..its the same when i see him in person.. i guess we're getting pretty close..
i havn't been kissed before. but i know he has before.. So i'm kind of afraid that if we ever do kiss..i'll turn out to be a wicked bad kisser.. and then he'll like..dump me or something.
i guess where this question is going.. is what do i do when i do kiss?

damn getaway01 almost got me a hardon
lol
well they are right on the perfect kiss
but for a first timer, you might be tryin that and mess up, and end up goin crazy and pullin his hair and stuff.
so for the first time
keep in simple
yall arent on a honeymoon or something
like the other person said
just keep your face very relaxed.
hardcore-making out is out of style so u dont have to worry about that. its just like dancing. when you dance, you follow your partners body/hips. follow their lips. softly.
basically
if you worry about it and TRY to do something, ull mess up.
if you stop worryiin about it, and let it just happen, you will be fine. i promise.

Q: f/21. OK, so I have this friend (m/34) I met on a forum. He was fun and all in the beginning, so we started IMing. What started to bug me about him is that he started posting really stupid things on the forum. There is this girl there that he likes, and they were IMing too, and decided to meet each other. She wasn't really impressed with him, but she was very polite, and even on the forum she said that last Friday she had a great company. Of course, that was meant only for him to understand (OK, I understood too because he told me that they met.) But he also told me that she was not talkative and she looked bored. And later when he called her she kept telling him how busy she is, she can't IM him, she can't meet him and so on. You get the picture. Now he started posting sexual innuendos about the two of them on Friday, and now everyone knows that they met! I think she'll be pissed off, and she has right too! I mean, why post such stuff if you already think that she was disappointed by your appearance?! Oh yes, and he's not provoking her or something, he actually wants her to like him. He told me he hopes things will work out for them eventually! Does he think his comments are funny?! And another problem is that he makes himself look really unattractive, he's always moaning about what a loser he is, how long it's been since he was in a relationship, he posts some really pathetic comments (worse than you would expect from a girl!) and so on. I can't break contact with him because he is so depressed because of this girl's reaction, and he was totally broken when another e-friend he had stopped talking to him. But his behavior really annoys me so much that I would gladly never talk to him again! (And his IMs aren't any better, he actually uses babytalk?!!! I mean, come on!)I'd really like to stay on that forum, but every time I'm there he IMs me, it's so frustrating! What should I do?

Sorry I made you read my rant, but at least that gave you a picture how pissed off I am!

um
no offense
but its a damn chat room war
click the "sign off" button
go outside
and get some real friends?
maybe that will stop the "frustration" of ur internet "friends"

Q: What should I get for my 19 year old boyfriend?? I got him a $25 dollar gift card to Best Buy cause I know he likes electronics... i'm 17 by the way. Anyway, yeah what should I get him?? Or haha not to sound like a whore, but I would go to even farther lengths if you know what I mean *wink wink* haha. We haven't had sex with each other yet and we're both not virgins so idk you help me to decide ^_^

um yeah
sex is good
get him like a shirt
or collonge to go with it or something though

Q: me and my bf have a good relationship. i want to have sex.i love him. i think he loves me. how would i tell him. or make it happen

dont listen to all those dorks. They were teens once two lol. And by the sounds of it, they evidently didnt get any action and that was their excuses haha. Well males have this thing called testostrome, which causes us to want to have sex somewhere around every minute of every day haha. Therefore i highly bet he wants to have sex with you. So just one day when yall are messing around, make sure your along and just start taking clothes off and go with it, i promise you he isnt going to say stop lol. head is always a good starter also... www.myspace.com/determined1297

Q: Hey everyone, first off if your answerign this, dont give me some stupid answer or some unhelpful information cuz i really need some help. I have a really big problem with cussing. I really cant help it sometimes, its really hard and i cannot stop cursing. It feels real bad when i do it but sometimes it feels like it comes natural. wat can i do? i really dont know how to stop

Put a jar in your room. And every time you cuz you have to put 1$ in it. And you cannont take it out until your like 19 or something. best way is to get a piggy bank, so you cant just reach your hand in a take money out. may sound stupid but it might actually work. IUnform all your frineds about it so when they heard you cus they will make u put money in it.

Q: A new friend of mine (been my friend for about 3 months) who I've had a crush on for a bit IMed me the other day. He told me wanted me to fill something out. He sent me one of those "would you do this with me? how do you feel about me? etc" surveys that I'm sure we've all seen. I laughed and tried to dodge filling it out. Then he finally said "Listen, I'll fill it out at the same time and we can send it on the count of three." So we did. Both of results were pretty much the same... we like each other as way more than a friend.

Things got ackward. He told me he was seriously blushing to break the silence... we both tried to change the subject and talk for a while, but I guess we both felt weird. Out of nowhere, he shifts the conversation to "I wanted to stay single for a while, so I'm mad because I have a new girlfriend." and I'm like "WHAT?!" and he told me about his new girlfriend, but didn't explain why after he asked someone out THAT DAY he would tell me he likes me THAT NIGHT. I can't figure this out. I'd understand if we were friends for a while, but we haven't been friends that long and we're not that close. I'm sad and don't know what to do. Why would he do this? Can anyone make any sense of him?

Yes. Evidently he has had feelings for you for a couple weeks now. Guys are shy when it comes to admiting to a friend that they like them, noramally because in most cases the girl says "we are too good of friends blah blah blah ect." Therefore he thought he didnt have a chance in the world with you. He almost must like the be in a relationship. So he asked out that girl, then for the hell of it he wanted to know if you felt the same way about him. So now hes the one stuck in a pickle looking for advice. Threfore i say he break up with that girl and date you :-)

Q: Hi!

I would like to know having sex how many times a day, is healthy...

Thanks.

With warm regards,

Udhay.

Well i think every second of every day would be nice. Lol well there again i have been in about a 2month relationship with a girl who is faaaaaar to pretty for me... and yes she likes sex. So lol my answer could be TOTALLY different from the average person

Q: Ok I need help. I have a boyfriend that i really like alot but my ex boyfriend that i loved like alot. and i got over that yet i still love him so i still think back sometimes. well he called me and it just brought back memories cuz i hadn't talked to him in a long time and i just need to know how to get over him bc im so happy..but i still get sad when i look at a picture of us or think about it..help..advice please

your worring me. beCuz i have a girlfriend who ive been dating for about 6 weeks now, and she had a boyfriend before me for 9 months. So reading this makes me think your my girlfriend talkina bout her X. Your names not heather by any chance? haha. Well coming from my position.. GET OVER HIM haha. Think about the break up, and all the fights, and realize how much happier you are now.

Q: okay well, im well, sorta prude? i guess. i feel fine kissing, getting felt up, hangjob, you know that. but ive never been fingurd, aten out and im a virgin.i feel that i am sort of missing out? on something. and since i am attracted to older guys they will except all that from me. and i just get scared. im not very confident in myself down there and i dont know what a vagina is suppposed to look like and what if mine is gross? i dont know. i want to be in a relationship, and this stuff in the long run is goig to affect itt.

Well i dont think "yours" could possibly be that different from any other virgins. Females, unlike males, dont really have "size" to compare to other females. So i guess the only advice you could get outa this is.. um... shave? good? lol.

Q: k well I am a 14/f and i have been thinking about sex i am a virgin but i have not kissed anyone any guy i mean but i want to it is just i am scared that i will mess up i think a bout sex all the time is this normal

yea its normal to think about sex, just dont become a tramp. And its kinda funny that your thinkin about sex yet you havent even kissed someone yet. i suggest you start out slow.. maybe hold a guys hand first?

Q: i just downloaded iTunes, and i need to transfer all of my songs to iTunes from limewire. how can i do this so that it saves into the iTunes library from limewire?
thanks, all fives.

create a new folder on your desktop called "transfer" (to do that just go to ur desktop, right click, go to 'new' 'folder') and after you download a song on limewire, make limewire only take up half your screen, select the song, keep holding the mouse, and drag it to the "transfer" folder on your desktop. Then open the transfer folder and double click the song. It will come up in your itunes.

Q: ok so i spilled snaple on my ipod and i have some more questions...i am getting a werid message about the fire wire conncetion and how it is not supported...does that connect with the spill? and also now my comp will not let me download songs because it does not recidnize the ipod.HAVE I TOTALLY RUINED MY NEW IPOD? plz help me!

eh go to apple.com and re download itunes, or just an upgrade of it. Reset your ipod (if its a mini hold down the menu key and the center button for like 5 seconds) if its a larger ipod youi hold down like.. menu and play or something. Then after you re intal itunes plug in the rebooted ipod