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Ok,i have this friend Lilly. I really like lilly..she was there when i first moved and stuff. We had a group -- Me Lilly Sarah Ali and Chelsea. We all split up. I tore away from the group,because although lilly was nice for a while,she became mean and rude,and she ignored me.Well we were okay/good friends for a while. But we got into a fight..and it all went down hill. i feel like now that im not her friend,theres something missing in my heart. she used to be a true and nice friend..but we fought about something so stupid..Ex of what she dose-- Ali called me and i think Lilly was over. Ali asked me if she could call me back in 30 min,and i heard lilly say "more like 5 hrs" in the back round. It was kinda rude. and Lilly has done a lot more mean things. So i dont no why i feel missing inside!! Should i say sorry to Lilly? or should i just leave her?I dont know why i feel this way
*i rate to 5*
*sorry this is so long*
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I think you should talk with her before you write her off completely. Ask her straight out why she has had a change of attitude towards you.
If she can't come up with a good enough answer...then don't worry about her any more. I don't know what your fight was about. If you were in the wrong, then of course you apologize. If you were not then don't apologize for speaking the truth. There are plenty of people in this world, if one doesn't like you I think you will be okay without the headache, don't you?
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Me and my best friend have been best friends for ages.but now i feel she is going off with another girl.If i talk to her about it she goes your my best friend not her,but yet she still goes off with her.
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Why not make other friends yourself? You can still be best friends and like others too. I know it can make you feel a little jealous at times...that's natural. What about this other girl? Do you not like her much? If you get along with her why not do something all 3 of you can do together? :)
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Sorry its a little standard but i will try to make it quick, My mate likes a guy, who only likes her as a friend. She acted like she didnt mind but i think it hurt a bit. Anyway, today i found out he likes me, but i only like him as a friend, plus he is a year younger than me. so 3 questions, do i tell her? If so how do i tell her? and how do i let him down gently? (link)
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If he doesn't like her there just isn't a whole lot can be done to make him change his mind. She may as well look for a new guy to like.
If you don't want to go out with him simply tell him you aren't interested in more than friendship right now.
I don't think I would mention his liking you right now, unless you plan on dating him yourself. No since in making her feel worse. :)
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I'm moving schools this summer. I went to visit my new school, and very few ppl were nice to me. Everyone else knows that i just came from a privite school, so they hate me and treat me like garbage. I no that all privite school students are different, and i know that i am! I really don't care what other ppl think, but i really want to make friends at my new school. How can i show them that i'm a normal person and not a snobby rich student they think i am? I really want to make friends their, but it's so hard when they don't know the real me. How can i show them?
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Be nice to everyone...even if they are rotten to you. Sooner or later they will realize you are not snobby and are really quite a nice person. Smile and be friendly, you'll soon have plenty of new friends! :)
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15/F ok..Well I have a few girls that I used to be friends with that like to call me a slut because they hear about stuff from people that I have supposedly done with guys (they got the whole idea from when they found out I had sex with 2 guys),..And they tell people at school about it then it gets around to everyone eventually..so now my name at school is "slut girl"..How do I get people to stop talking crap on me about that?
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Sounds like they are jealous and out to make you look bad. I don't think people that you know are going to care much about what they say. Everyone else you'll just have to ignore as best you can. That's the problem with rumors and gossip. Its really hard to get rid of because not everyone knows you. Don't let them know they are bothering you...blow it off the best you can, it will eventually die down. :)
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theres this girl and her mom died like in november and i live right down the street from her and she is seriosly every where i turn: my house, school, swim team, bus,my brain, i mean seriously she ia everywhere. she is so weird and annoying but when she was at my house once she said that i am her very best friend so now i cant do anything about that because my mom would kill me, id feel guilty, and id practically be the meanest person on the planet. i really do not want to be her friend anymore but i cant get away from her. any suggestions? ill rate you (link)
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What a dilemma! I suppose your best bet is to just try and keep away from her as much as possible. Ask your moms advice. Tell her you feel bad for the girl and all that but you really just don't want to hang around with her all the time. Maybe she can help out. Maybe you could find someone else for her to hang out with. Know anyone who might like her? Other than just plain telling her you really don't want to hang out anymore that's the best I can come up with. Good luck :)
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man i've been pretty much hanging out with the same people from a long time. the way its set up at our school, we pretty much have the same classes with the same people every year. and people kinda just hang out with the same people over time. what are soem good ways to make new friends, to break out of my same old same old circle of people, or meet some new friends or girls. thanks alot (link)
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You just need to start talking with different people. You can meet them anywhere really, at school...at other schools. Anywhere young people hang out and get together. Meet them through friends and relatives. Girls just like attention, so any that you like just smile at them and give them your attention and they're all yours. Swimming pools and beaches are good places to meet new people too. Kind of depends on what you're interested in. If you like to read you might just find a friend at the library.
Just get out there and start talking to new people! Most people respond well to kindness and smiles :)
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Ok, i'm going to a soccer camp, and it allows u an hour ansd a half for free time. since were not allowed to bring electronicts, i'm going to be so bored. I'm new on the soccer team that's hosting the camp, so what should i bring or do that can include some of the girls at the camp?
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Take a good book or write a letter to someone. You could take a notebook and keep a journal...any number of things. :)
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hello yall uhh i recently just foudn out that this saturday there is a cheerleading stunt clinic thing it helps you with your stunt groups and everything and it suppose to be really good my coaches daughter does it and she is like a really good cheerleader from it but my friends party is on the same day and at the same time and there is no way i could go to both and the cheerleading clinic is only one day and so isnt my friends party l;ike its not a sleepover or anything so i couldnt go after or the morning everyone wakes up i dont know what to do i love my friend but i love cheerleading and my friend will get mad please help i will rate 5 (link)
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Go to your friend and explain it all. See if she will understand if you go to the clinic instead. It probably won't be repeated and you do see your friend all the time. Be sure you tell her that you are sad to have to miss the party though. You probably are aren't you? :)
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Ok well im a 13/f and my mom gets someone to babysit my brother whom is 8 just because im always out havin fun and doing stuff and i dont want to watch him. but anyways the point is lately his babysitter and me are like good friends. So well anyways she is 18 and I really i guess i could say i look up to her. I really do i love her like a sister and right now i know she is going thought a hard time and she started smoking and she said im gonna quit im just having a hard time well i dont think shes gonna quit because smoking is addicting and she might not be able to quit and im scared for her and myself because i look up to her so whats happens if i start to and i also dont think shes getting paid enought a week i added up all the time she worked this week and the money she got and dived it and she got like $2.78 an hour thats not fair she needs more money because she is gonna have to start paying for bills and stuff and shes not getting paid enought and now shes smoking and im lookin up to her and i just dont know what to do she is like a sister to me we are good friends and i really look up to her and i dont want her life to get screwed up plese help sorry this is so long
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Well if you think she needs paid more take it up with your mom. Maybe if she knew she was having troubles she'd slip her a little extra money.
As for her smoking, you'll just have to leave that to her. You can still look up to her and not take up smoking yourself. Everyone handles stress differently. Smoking isn't good for you but there are worse things she could be doing, right? Sounds like you have a good friend in her! :)
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AHH ..Im sick =/ because i get dehydrated and water isnt working!! What do i do?! i have my period so i cant take a bath right now and im home alone and thrwoing up..im afraid if i pass out no one wil know and no one is available to help me..what do i do?! I dont have Air conditioning. (link)
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Just because you're having your period doesn't mean you can't take a bath. Go ahead and jump in. Make it cool since you have no AC.
Drink some Gatorade or one of those sports drinks. Or maybe some 7-up and crackers.
Feel better soon! :)
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alright well yesterday i was at my baby cousins birthday party yesterday and me and my older cousin whos my age were sitting there talking to my mom and my aunt jackie, and my aunt comes storming out of the house and my moms like, who are you looking for? and shes like, YOUR FUCKING HUSBAND and she like screamed it and ran over and started yelling at him. so me and my cousin who were on the deck go over and jump in the pool and go over to listen to whats going on. well my aunt gets pissed off and walks away so me and my cousin go over to my dad. so hes telling us whats going on and this is what happened::
well my aunt whos daughter the party was
for was crying because her daughters
father was being an asshole and saying
shit, so my other aunt goes into the
house shooting her mouth off and my dads
name comes up.. so my dad goes in and
tells her to stop bringing him into
everything and that his name shouldnt
have been brought up at all.. so he went
and sat with my cousin who i was hanging
out with's brother, and thats when my
aunt came out freaking out on him.
now, this pissed me off. ALOT. because my dad does nothing but help them and they treat him like shit.. and well, my dad had every right to do what he did didnt he? and i have every right to be mad dont i? (link)
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Yes on both counts. :)
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okay well i was at my grandparents for a little get together and my aunt took a picture of me and my friend outta my purse and went around tellin everyone that he was my boyfriend, and when i found out what she was doing i freaked out and ran over and took it out of her hand and i was like, what the hell were you doing in my purse anyway.. and she was like i need your dads car keys, and im like, first of all..my dad doesnt want you in his fucking car, and you had no right going into my purse and taking out my picture and telling these people a bunch of lies, and shes like, calm down, and im like, lay off the beers and fuck offf. and she got all pissed off. but thats not wrong of me is it? i was right, right? (link)
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Well she certainly had no right getting into your purse. She could have just asked you if she wanted something you might keep there. She was also wrong to parade your pictures around without your permission. So as far as that goes you were right.
I do think you might have handled it a little differently. I realize you were mad but by yelling at her as you did and using the language that you used you may have come off as being the bad guy. Next time I think you should quietly tell her what you think. Tell everyone that what she said was untrue and leave it at that. :)
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ok, i'm dating a boy that's 15 and i'm 13. i asked my parents repetedly if they minded that he was older and they said no and that they trust me and him. well i don't think they do bc all my other friend are allowed to stay out till 11 or later and i have to be home before dark! i totally can't stand it anymore! me and my mom get in fights all the time and i can't handle it! i wish she'd just let me be a normal teen like everybody else! and my boyfriend is totally understanding too. so that is a plus! but what can i do to let my mom know that she can trust me to hang out down the street at my best friend's house after dark? and i mean it's not like her parents aren't there. they actually hang out with us. they're pretty kool. but i really need help with this! (link)
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I'm sorry but I have to agree with your parents. 13 is a bit young yet. Why not have him at your house instead of your friend down the street? Go out for awhile then come back to your house and hang out after dark. Should make everyone happy! :)
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Dear advicenators,
Age:13
grade:7th going into 8th
I have a father that abuses me but i really don't know what to do i've tried being sucidal but it didn't help at all i also know if i consult the police he will deny it and he will abuse me even more so what should i do? (link)
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You do consult the police. Your word means something to them. Don't just assume that dad will be believed and you won't be. Call them and get it over with, you will feel much better. :)
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My guy gets mad when I'm with or talk to any other guy who I'm just friends with. What do I do? (link)
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All you can do is talk to him. Explain that the others are just friends and don't mean as much to you as he does. The rest is then up to him. You really can't control what he feels but, if he doesn't let up you'll have to decide just how much of the behavior you are willing to live with. :)
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How can someone say they love you they are sorry for hurting you and yet tell you they are leaveing you all in the same sentence. I am 42 years old female. Some friends of ours at the time told me he was sleeping with our friends wife. he denies everything and says they are liying.. but he continues to work for them everyday.. he has gotten where he acts as if he don't care about anything anymore.. (link)
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Sounds to me as if he could be depressed. You should know if his word is good or not. If he is trustworthy then take him at his word. As far as getting him back goes, give him some time. I think you should encourage him to go to a doctor and get checked out for depression. Hopefully if he still loves you he will realize leaving is the wrong thing to do. Write him a letter and tell him everything you are thinking. Maybe he will see things differently. Good luck. :)
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Hey,
My friend *Chrissy* and has been lying to her parents about her boyfriend *Jack*. See Chrissy is 12 and gonna be 13 in December. So when i was at Chrissy's house she told her cousin that she had a boyfriend and they were making out. Chrissy trusted her cousin so she didnt feel like her cousin was gonna tell. Of course her cousin told her parents and her parents had a fit, not because she was seeing someone, but because she's been making out with Jack. So they told her to stop kissing or she cant go out with Jack. I just recently talked to Chrissy and she said that she's gonna complain to her shrink about it cause kissing is a normal thing in life, it's just her parents think she's too young to date. She's fed up on being called little and young so she has been lying to her parents and making out with Jack all she wants. Should i stop Chrissy? or should i encourage Chrissy to tell her shrink to tell her parents that she needs to learn her own lessons in life? But the hard part is Chrissy wont listen if people tell her no in this situation cause she REALLY loves Jack- nothing could keep them apart. What should i do for Chrissy?! help!!
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Her parents shouldn't even be letting her see Jack if they think she's to young to date. Her lying to them just proves her immaturity. So long as kissing is the only thing I don't know that you should say anything. Its up to you though. It would be a good thing to do but, she is gonna be really mad at you when she finds out about it. If you can handle that then go for it. :)
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ok, let me introduce myself, nd put sum rules, first nobody answer telling me to stop drinking or anything, because im sick of it. I wont put my name on because its confidential, and here i go. I live in toulouse france and i have a best friend called bobby-joe (we shall say). Bobby is mrs popular, and i've known her for a year now. And bit by bit i have quite simply fallen in love with her, now again nobody tell me how im not 'in love' trust me, i know, i cannot do anything without thinking of this girl. I do not go places unless she is going. i dont go online unless she's there. I dont call anyone but her, i save all my credit for texting her. I fail exams because im looking at her. Its too much, and she doesnt know, she thinks we are friends. We go to parties and things together and we have a fucking amazing time. I love spending time with her, and sometimes just for the night, if we have too much to drink then sumtimes it becomes more than a friendship, and to her it means nothing, but to me it makes my month. She just blames it on alcohol and keeps on thinking we're friends. I am a jealous friend but i think i am a good one. I talk to her about everything and she talks to me about everything. Problem is she has got a lot of people who fancy her and a boyfriend who is a fucking model and 2 years older. I've known her for a year but i feel as if my whole life evolves around her. She can control how i feel for days with a single word. Right now she just had a go at me about the main problem we have with our friendship, im over-possesive. last time i was with her we went to a fair and she got with another guy just because he came up to her and called her sexy, she barely new the guy. i got so angry and she knew it, later i tried to talk to her about it and she told me to fuck off that she was 16 and could make her own decisions. I hate it, i love her so much, i dont have time to explain why, but its about more than her looks, or even her obvious personality. I dont know how to tell her how i feel or how to explain it once i do. I just know that i cant keep being her friend. Eventiually we're gonna fall out of even that because im so obsesed with her and cant let her out of my site. I feel left out if she talks to someone else. Last weekend we spent friday together in a restaurant, then the saturday at a lake with some friends, then went to a party, had a bit to drink, got together and lay on a field for hours looking at stars and talking about things. I know i would be so happy with her. please somebody help me, i need a real answer to a real problem. (link)
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I think you are a little obsessed. Most girls don't like that so you need to tone it down a bit. No person should have that much power over another. You are letting this Feeling control your life and it isn't good.
I think you do need to talk to her about how you feel. Get it out in the open and see where it takes you. She either feels the same or she doesn't but you need to know once and for all. If she has no romantic feelings for you then you really need to move on before it drives you nuts.
If she feels the same then you need to control your jealousy and put some trust in her. If you can't then you'll be miserable.
Something for you to think about: We sometimes put people on pedestals when we like them. If you do finally get into a relationship with this girl you may find that she isn't all you think she is right now. Its kinda like being obsessed with a movie star, meeting them, and then discovering they aren't as big a deal as originally made out to be. Sometimes its better not knowing that. Good luck :)
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Okay, there is this guy (his name is Gage Tyler) that I am like crazy for. He always tells his friends that he doesn't like me, but yet when one of my friends asks him if he does like me he doesn't answer them. Or like if I come around him, he always leaves, but sometimes comes back around me. It's really weird and all of my friends say that I am too good for him, or he isn't good enough for me. And one of my friend's thinks that he is mentally abusing me?!?!?! Well, please help!! lol. (link)
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In order to mentally abuse you you'd have to at least be having a relationship. I think if he says he doesn't like you then he doesn't. The more you bug him (or have friends ask) about it, the more he is going to dislike you. My advice is leave him alone for awhile and see what happens. You'll probably be better off looking for someone else. :(
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