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My friend is lying.. should i stop her?
Hey,
My friend *Chrissy* and has been lying to her parents about her boyfriend *Jack*. See Chrissy is 12 and gonna be 13 in December. So when i was at Chrissy's house she told her cousin that she had a boyfriend and they were making out. Chrissy trusted her cousin so she didnt feel like her cousin was gonna tell. Of course her cousin told her parents and her parents had a fit, not because she was seeing someone, but because she's been making out with Jack. So they told her to stop kissing or she cant go out with Jack. I just recently talked to Chrissy and she said that she's gonna complain to her shrink about it cause kissing is a normal thing in life, it's just her parents think she's too young to date. She's fed up on being called little and young so she has been lying to her parents and making out with Jack all she wants. Should i stop Chrissy? or should i encourage Chrissy to tell her shrink to tell her parents that she needs to learn her own lessons in life? But the hard part is Chrissy wont listen if people tell her no in this situation cause she REALLY loves Jack- nothing could keep them apart. What should i do for Chrissy?! help!!
*Jill*
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Dear jill
Just tell her to stop mak out with him
kim
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wow this is hard... for you and her and for jack and for crissy's parents.
well if she keeps on doing that, it will spread eventually. that she lied. i dont know how but it always does. so tell her to go talk to her ELECTORORALLY not having a childish fit about she can do whatever she wants. just calmly tell her what position she's in and such. and WHAT posision YOU are in! and if she needs you , then go with her while she's tellin them the truth.
and jack too...
hope this helped =)
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Her parents shouldn't even be letting her see Jack if they think she's to young to date. Her lying to them just proves her immaturity. So long as kissing is the only thing I don't know that you should say anything. Its up to you though. It would be a good thing to do but, she is gonna be really mad at you when she finds out about it. If you can handle that then go for it. :)
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well, i will side with her parents about one thing, making out at age 12 is too young. keep in mind, that is my opinion.
i don't think she should be lying to her parents, though. i tried that, and they usually end up finding out, and you get into more trouble than your started out to be in.
i think that you should definently encourage Chrissy to talk to her parents about the restrictions of going out with Jack. everyone needs to learn their own lessons but sometimes the parentals know what they are talking about (believe it or not).
just talk to her and ask her why she wants to go against her parents so much. ask her if he is really worth all the trouble she is in and will be in if her parents find out. remind her that boyfriends come and go, but true friends and family stay forever.
hope i helped.
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You have a right to be worried about your friend. I think you should stop her. Twelve is way too young to start kissing, ESPECIALLY making out. In most situations, making out leads to other things, like sex. Tell her that her parents aren't trying to pick on her because of her age; they're trying to help her and prevent her from making wrong choices and doing something that she'll regret. Tell her that she shouldn't lie to her parents because they'll most likely find out about what she's doing anyway, then they'll (most likely) MAKE SURE that she won't see Jack.
You can tell her that it would be better if her and Jack didn't make out because if her parents find out, the relationship is OVER.
EVERYONE goes through the whole "I hate being called little!" stage. It's a part of life. Let her know this.
If she complains to her shrink, he/she will most likely say the same thing I just did. But, it might be good if she talks to her shrink. It might make her come to her senses.
Wait a minute... she says she wants to learn her own lessons in life? If she says this, it means that she knows that what she's doing is wrong. Tell her that, too. Ask her why she would make out with him behind her parent's back if she knew it was wrong. Ask her if she knew that she would be risking the whole relationship when she lies and does those things behind her parents' backs.
And she LOVES him? Nah. I think she likes him a lot, but I don't think she loves him. Love is a strong word, too strong to be felt or said by a preteen/young teen. If she says she loves him, I don't think it's true love. She's only 12.
I hope I helped, and if you have any more questions, feel free to leave one in my inbox!
♥ Manders
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Shes twelve, just tell her that she can get a pony if she stops.
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You can't make your friend stop. But, you can encourage her to not make out with guys, shes way too young to be making out. And, I think maybe talking to your parents about what you should do is probably a good thing to do because they might talk to her parents about it. I'm pretty sure her shrink will tell her differently then what shes said. Kissing is a normal part of life, but not when you're 12. But, most likely, shes just going to have to make 1 life changing mistake and she'll get it. But, I think talking to your parents about how you should handle this would be a good thing to try.
-TheTeenGirl
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Dear *Jill*
i know you must fell awkward that Chrissy is lying just talk to her and tell her thatwhat her parents say might be hard to understand but thats the way it should go but if she really loves him she would step back and think about what his parents might say to him and her it might be tough but its worth her keeping her love or not having one at all
~**MISSHELP**~
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You should encourage Chrissy to talk to her shrink, its a normal thing for girls to date and kiss. I used to have the same problem with my parents until I talked to my shrink about it and she explained to them that its normal blah blah blah and now Im allowed to do these things. Most definatly tell her to tell her shrink.
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