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ok, let me introduce myself, nd put sum rules, first nobody answer telling me to stop drinking or anything, because im sick of it. I wont put my name on because its confidential, and here i go. I live in toulouse france and i have a best friend called bobby-joe (we shall say). Bobby is mrs popular, and i've known her for a year now. And bit by bit i have quite simply fallen in love with her, now again nobody tell me how im not 'in love' trust me, i know, i cannot do anything without thinking of this girl. I do not go places unless she is going. i dont go online unless she's there. I dont call anyone but her, i save all my credit for texting her. I fail exams because im looking at her. Its too much, and she doesnt know, she thinks we are friends. We go to parties and things together and we have a fucking amazing time. I love spending time with her, and sometimes just for the night, if we have too much to drink then sumtimes it becomes more than a friendship, and to her it means nothing, but to me it makes my month. She just blames it on alcohol and keeps on thinking we're friends. I am a jealous friend but i think i am a good one. I talk to her about everything and she talks to me about everything. Problem is she has got a lot of people who fancy her and a boyfriend who is a fucking model and 2 years older. I've known her for a year but i feel as if my whole life evolves around her. She can control how i feel for days with a single word. Right now she just had a go at me about the main problem we have with our friendship, im over-possesive. last time i was with her we went to a fair and she got with another guy just because he came up to her and called her sexy, she barely new the guy. i got so angry and she knew it, later i tried to talk to her about it and she told me to fuck off that she was 16 and could make her own decisions. I hate it, i love her so much, i dont have time to explain why, but its about more than her looks, or even her obvious personality. I dont know how to tell her how i feel or how to explain it once i do. I just know that i cant keep being her friend. Eventiually we're gonna fall out of even that because im so obsesed with her and cant let her out of my site. I feel left out if she talks to someone else. Last weekend we spent friday together in a restaurant, then the saturday at a lake with some friends, then went to a party, had a bit to drink, got together and lay on a field for hours looking at stars and talking about things. I know i would be so happy with her. please somebody help me, i need a real answer to a real problem.
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well umm.. sweetie you are kinda obessed..and she may not even like you..but you shouild tell her about your feelings and just tell her everything that you just told us on advicenators..well you need to give that girl some space..and she doesnt no that you like her so thats why she acts like that around you becssue she thinks that you dont care..which you do..so you need to tell her and get every thing straight with her..and maybe she will feel the same about you..you never no until you give it a try..well try to give bobby joe some space of her own..she doesnt no how you feel so its kinda weird for you to be acting like that..just tell her and try to give her some space.. good luck!!!TELL HER HOW YOU FEEL...!!!
hope i helped
love always,
ilovepink101
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DONT DRINK!....no im jus' playin....ok....does 'bobby-joe' no how you feel about her??...remind her of the times like the fair, and say "im sorry, i dont want you to get hurt" -BUT ONLy SAY IT IF U MEAN IT!-and tell her how you feel. dont say too much at one time, it would be too much for her to take in at one time. and have you ever thought of the possibility that its not the alcohol, that she really might care about you?
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I think your out of luck .Shes very young .Stop spending so much time with her,you seem like you are way too available for her .Back off ,see if she needs you as much as you think you need her .
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Just take your time and things will fall into place.I am not going to tell you to stop drinking but if she always blames it on the drinking then wait until she is sober and then tell her how u really feel and take it a step at a time.
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I think you are a little obsessed. Most girls don't like that so you need to tone it down a bit. No person should have that much power over another. You are letting this Feeling control your life and it isn't good.
I think you do need to talk to her about how you feel. Get it out in the open and see where it takes you. She either feels the same or she doesn't but you need to know once and for all. If she has no romantic feelings for you then you really need to move on before it drives you nuts.
If she feels the same then you need to control your jealousy and put some trust in her. If you can't then you'll be miserable.
Something for you to think about: We sometimes put people on pedestals when we like them. If you do finally get into a relationship with this girl you may find that she isn't all you think she is right now. Its kinda like being obsessed with a movie star, meeting them, and then discovering they aren't as big a deal as originally made out to be. Sometimes its better not knowing that. Good luck :)
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The first obvious question you need to answer is are you really willing to give up a friendship with her for a shot at a relationship? Then you basically have to tell her how you feel...and where you want it to go. It will be much easier to get things out in the open.
Good Luck!
Jersey
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I have the pefect solution because i've been in this situation before( exept my friend was in love with me and i didn't know so i might be able to give you your friends piont of view)Okay, you like her alot and so did my friend. He kept it inside for a very long time 1 1/2 years. During somewhere in between that time i felt the same way he felt about me, but we both were to chicken to tell so i made it seem as though we were only firends and nothing else, and liked guys and acted like i din't feel for him even the tiniest bit. Later he moved and confessed it to me and i knew it was too late because he was going away so i din't tell him, and now i am still in love(some what) with him and am wishing that one have us told each other sooner. My point is don't wait to tell her, don't end up regreting everything and wondering what could have been. If your really close friends she likes you too, because every solid relationship starts out as friends. So tell her , sit her down alone when everything is good, and explain to her how you feel,don't just say i like you,explain to her that you care about her and its making you completeley jelous that shes with some one else and not you. In time ( trust me) she will come to relize that you are the person that can truly make her happy. If not then some things weren't ment to be. Just say something to her or you'll end up like me and my friend, nowing we both care and love but we've waited to long, and just sitting around always wondering what could have been!
Sry it's so long!
***Bridgette***
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Okay. im going to give you quite honestly the best advice i know how. im not going to tell you dont love her, im not going to give you a shitty thing to follow. it is quite obvious you love her. but here is the thing. she doesnt know you feel that way - she thinks yorue only friends, so when you push all this on her, ( getting jelaous ect ) you know it as love, but she doesnt. she thinks youre just being an over protective asshole. so what you need to do is when youre having a moment, lke looking at the stars , you need to tell her " i need you to knwo something, i know i come off as over protective sometimes, and i just need you to know how i feel, i like you so much more then what you think. your personality, everything about you is just perfect" something alon those lines. but i warn you my friend DO NOT tell her you love her right away, tell your LIKE her alot. if you tell her you love her, it will scare her away. you need to wait until you guys have been dating for a while, for that one.
now - another thing you need to keep in mind is this. it sounds a little bit to me like youre jealous, and over bearing. if you start dating her. you CAN NOT. treat her like a prisoner. she is right, she IS 16 she CAN Make her own decisions. it sounds to me like if you were dating her she wouldnt be going off with other guys. so you need to trust her. because you sound liek the kind of guy who would get super fucking jealous if she hugged another guy friend, when thats bull. girls can NOT STAND that. i had a boyfriend who got mad at me for two weeks nas wouldnt speak to me because i said that a celebrity was hot. do you know how ridiculous that is? no offense but you sound so obsessed with her that you just may be like that. im just warning you, youcant be over jealous and un trusting or else it wont last very long between you two.
hope this helped.
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