Hey Y'all, i'm 16, from Indiana, pretty cool place....i'm a pretty normal girl...lol should have good advice?
Gender: Female
Location: Fishers, Indiana
Occupation: Student
Age: 16
AIM: idontcarebear46
Member Since: June 12, 2005
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Hi im a 17/f. Im not that out going but my best friend is a very social person. She introduced me to her Older brother who is in collage. My best friend invited me to stay the night at her house. while i was there it turned out that her older brother was throwing a crazy frat party at there house whle there parents were away. Later that night after partying for awhile my friends older borther came up to me and asked if i wanted to dance. after a while he said he needed to talk to me in private. Wwe went up to his room and started talking for a while. he said how he really liked me and how he didnt care how i was 17 and he is 21. by that point i could tell he was drunk. i said "i'll be right bak" not meaning to return. i walked out of the room and went down stairs and started dancng again. about 15 minutes later he came down and said we needed to talk again. so i went along with it. when i walked in first he locked the door pushed me down on the bed and started rapeing me. now im 5 months pregnant and im supposed to be heading off to collage ona full scholorship. i really want to keep my child but it will be hard to go to school and keep a child. my parents dont want anything to do ith me so they wont help out. what should i do. keep my baby and skip out on Yale or give the baby up for adoption and go to Yale? im so confused please help!!!!!!!! (link)
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If you really think the father is a good guy after raping you, then do not hesitate to ask for his help in raising the child. It's not fair to you or the child if he is not in your life. Talk to him and work it out, if you really want to keep the child, i'm sure between the two of you, you can find a way to keep the child and go to college.
Good Luck!
Jersey
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what are the benefits of waiting for marriage? for those of you that are, whats your reason? it could go either way so let me know what you think. (link)
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Well for starters you don't go too emtionally involved with someone, it makes it easier if you were to "break- up". Decreases risk of getting sick or PREGNANT! I think that's one of the major reasons, i would never want to be pregnant at 16. My boyfriend and I don't have sex because too many things can go wrong. And it's just more special when you finally get married.
Good Luck!
Jersey/Jersey's boyfriend!
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ok, let me introduce myself, nd put sum rules, first nobody answer telling me to stop drinking or anything, because im sick of it. I wont put my name on because its confidential, and here i go. I live in toulouse france and i have a best friend called bobby-joe (we shall say). Bobby is mrs popular, and i've known her for a year now. And bit by bit i have quite simply fallen in love with her, now again nobody tell me how im not 'in love' trust me, i know, i cannot do anything without thinking of this girl. I do not go places unless she is going. i dont go online unless she's there. I dont call anyone but her, i save all my credit for texting her. I fail exams because im looking at her. Its too much, and she doesnt know, she thinks we are friends. We go to parties and things together and we have a fucking amazing time. I love spending time with her, and sometimes just for the night, if we have too much to drink then sumtimes it becomes more than a friendship, and to her it means nothing, but to me it makes my month. She just blames it on alcohol and keeps on thinking we're friends. I am a jealous friend but i think i am a good one. I talk to her about everything and she talks to me about everything. Problem is she has got a lot of people who fancy her and a boyfriend who is a fucking model and 2 years older. I've known her for a year but i feel as if my whole life evolves around her. She can control how i feel for days with a single word. Right now she just had a go at me about the main problem we have with our friendship, im over-possesive. last time i was with her we went to a fair and she got with another guy just because he came up to her and called her sexy, she barely new the guy. i got so angry and she knew it, later i tried to talk to her about it and she told me to fuck off that she was 16 and could make her own decisions. I hate it, i love her so much, i dont have time to explain why, but its about more than her looks, or even her obvious personality. I dont know how to tell her how i feel or how to explain it once i do. I just know that i cant keep being her friend. Eventiually we're gonna fall out of even that because im so obsesed with her and cant let her out of my site. I feel left out if she talks to someone else. Last weekend we spent friday together in a restaurant, then the saturday at a lake with some friends, then went to a party, had a bit to drink, got together and lay on a field for hours looking at stars and talking about things. I know i would be so happy with her. please somebody help me, i need a real answer to a real problem. (link)
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The first obvious question you need to answer is are you really willing to give up a friendship with her for a shot at a relationship? Then you basically have to tell her how you feel...and where you want it to go. It will be much easier to get things out in the open.
Good Luck!
Jersey
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ok, so i went to my friends pool party, and it was 4 hours long, so i got soooo sunburnt that i look like a giant tomato!! and it really hurts!!! but that's not what i'm concerned about. i got like sooooo tan!!!! is their anything that'll make me get whiter again? WITHOUT surgery?!! i rate high!!! (link)
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So you...don't want to be tan??? Alright...well basically you just gotta wait, if the sunburn was bad enough you'll start to peel, and that will peel the tan off...other than that there really isn't a way..don't worry though, the tan isn't permanent...
Good Luck!
Jersey
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What are some good acne-removal treatments that work??? Please help me because I have acne all over my nose really bad! I will rate well to anyone who tells me a working-treatment. Please don't make it prescription treatment, as I can't get that yet. (link)
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The best thing to do here is to double it up. Basically, get a face scrub, maybe a gauze pad and then creme and do all of them every night, using one might not work enough. Any acne clearing face scrub with work, try using stridex pads and clean and clear creme (comes in a little white tube) it should start clearing you up.
Good Luck!
Jersey
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I will attempt to void being cliche' in this question. More often then not I know most of you are tired ( I know I am) of people asking "ok so theirs this boy, and im this gurl, ummmm ok soo ". Most of the time the question asker cant even spell the most simple of words as in the example above. However this is certinly not meant to be an attack on the question askers, more to just make you aware I am not the typical demographic. All said here is the question that seems so trivial.- I ask, What is the legall age of consent in most states. I grew concerned about this recently due to the fact that a considerably younger female approached myself Via internet, and lied about her age.(stated she was 17, later I found out she was 15). Also it might prove helpfull to know that I am a 19 yr old male, about to turn 20. Im a model so this kind of thing has happened before however for some reason it hasnt bothered me until now. So in recap, if anyone knows the legall age of consent, or the law stating adults and minors please add your advice. Gratfully yours. (link)
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Uh-Oh! In most states, anyone under 16 is illegal to do anything with another person over 18 (i.e. kiss, sex, whatever) once they turn 16 they are legal i THINK to do anything but have sex (once again, this probably varies from state to state)You should be cautious here for a couple reasons...if the girl's parents do not know, they could potentially file a lawsuit, or if you WERE to do something with her and then break up she could potentially file for statutory rape. My best advice here would be to stay away from that kind of situation...
Good Luck!
Jersey
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im 14 almost 15 and im a girl alrite well im going out with this guy and i've never really kissed anyone well little pecks with an ex bf and those weren't great but when he went to kiss me he had his mouth wide open and just went for it not a french kiss but ya know wut i mean..anyways i didnt kiss him back cuz i have no idea how to kiss..i need major help cuz i really like this guy and im embaressed to tell him why i didnt kiss him back and i really dont wanna lose him but i do need to know how to kiss..so in that situation how am i suppose to kiss (link)
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Scary stuff huh?¿ haha, really, as odd as it sounds, it just comes naturally. Chances are, the guy you are with is either A. not experience either and won't know what a "good" kisser is or B. Experienced and willing to show you the ropes but thw wide open mouth thing is a bit intimidating...not to mention a total turn-off! Just go for it and let it come naturally, there are bad kissers that are boys, but there is no such thing as a bad kisser that's a girl!
Good Luck!
Jersey
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Ok,i have this friend Lilly. I really like lilly..she was there when i first moved and stuff. We had a group -- Me Lilly Sarah Ali and Chelsea. We all split up. I tore away from the group,because although lilly was nice for a while,she became mean and rude,and she ignored me.Well we were okay/good friends for a while. But we got into a fight..and it all went down hill. i feel like now that im not her friend,theres something missing in my heart. she used to be a true and nice friend..but we fought about something so stupid..Ex of what she dose-- Ali called me and i think Lilly was over. Ali asked me if she could call me back in 30 min,and i heard lilly say "more like 5 hrs" in the back round. It was kinda rude. and Lilly has done a lot more mean things. So i dont no why i feel missing inside!! Should i say sorry to Lilly? or should i just leave her?I dont know why i feel this way
*i rate to 5*
*sorry this is so long*
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Wow! Same thing happened to me! I know it feels like something is missing, but wait for HER to come to YOU! you don't need these people! you never did anything wrong! you should branch out and try to make some new friends who actually care about you, you feel like part of you is missing because you feel safe with someone who has known you so long, but eventually, you'll be forced into environments without her anyways, so it'd better to learn to stand by yourself now than wait. If she apologizes to you, there's no reason to be mad, but honestly consider what kind of friends these people are...
Good Luck!
Jersey
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I just got new liquid eye liner. I thought it would be easier than the other stuff, but it isn't. When I put it on it looks weird and I can normally fix it but it still doesn't look right. Are there any tips I can use to make this stuff not look so gross? I'm pretty good with make-up, but when it comes to this stuff, I can't get it to look right. (link)
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Pencil would work better, but liquid is way more dramatic! So, if it doesn't dry too fast, i would suggest putting a dotted line under and over your eye and then using a Q-tip to smudge is out even. Then fill in with pencil anything that might look weird.
Good Luck!
Jersey
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i know this is really dumb, but i REALLY need advice. okay well recently on myspace i got a message from this guy who was really hot and he thought i was hot, so we exchanged AIM screen names and were talking like all the time. then eventually we started calling each other and now i talk to him online & on the phone every single day. i'm starting to develop feelings for him and i don't want to. there is no chance or future for us, he lives across the country from me! i don't want to stop talking to him though because he is really sweet and funny. is there something wrong with me for liking him? is there any way i can continue talking to him without liking him like THAT ?? please help im going crazy (link)
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Ah, the age old question of internet relationships...i have a friend who is VERY into this and actually ended up roping me into one...i understand how you feel, only this guy lived in IRELAND (the accent on the phone was what got me!)anyways, while there may not be a future love life here, you should stay friends, my friend has people all over the country who she has become very close with, and who knows? maybe if you stay friends long enough you'll meet one day!
Good Luck!
Jersey
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ok, i'm dating a boy that's 15 and i'm 13. i asked my parents repetedly if they minded that he was older and they said no and that they trust me and him. well i don't think they do bc all my other friend are allowed to stay out till 11 or later and i have to be home before dark! i totally can't stand it anymore! me and my mom get in fights all the time and i can't handle it! i wish she'd just let me be a normal teen like everybody else! and my boyfriend is totally understanding too. so that is a plus! but what can i do to let my mom know that she can trust me to hang out down the street at my best friend's house after dark? and i mean it's not like her parents aren't there. they actually hang out with us. they're pretty kool. but i really need help with this! (link)
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The only answer to this is to invite your friends over to YOUR house to hang out more. I'm sure your parents trust you, but they might not know these other kids as well, invite them over once in awhile so your parents can see that they can trust all of you as a group. And hey, be happy, i wasn't aloud to date at ALL when i was 13! haha!
Good Luck!
Jersey
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I hope I'm just being nervous and paranoid. I pray to God that I am.
But me and my boyfriend were having sex last night, and when he pulled out, the condom came off in me.
How..I don't know.
But he had already busted..so...u get my drift. I'm pretty much done for..aren't I? (link)
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Well, it all depends on how close you are to your period. Contrary to popular belief, you can only get pregnant a few days out of the month, only a day or two before your period. If you were close, I would get a test, if not, then you should be fine.
Good Luck!
Jersey
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My boyfriend's mom is such a BITCH. I know that sounds mean, but its the truth. He broke up w/ me and we got back together. We are together now but I haven't talked to him in 2 weeks because everytime I call she is like he's out side mowing the grass. I called 2 days ago and she said he's outside mowing the grass. I call back 3 hrs. later and she starts yelling I TOLD YOU HE'S OUTSIDE! I am very sensitive and I was like like ok. (I almost cried because she keeps yelling at me) I called back today and she said HE'S MOWING THE GRASS! Is there a way he can find out his mom is being mean to me without me telling him? If I tell him he'll tell his mom. (link)
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Well, you don't want to seem like you are over reacting so i would suggest maybe hanging out at his house (ahh! scary, i know!) while his mom is there to see how she acts and hopefully it will begin to show the way she treats you in front of him!
Good Luck!
Jersey
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I am 13 and I have never kissed anyone. I know that I want too, but I want it to be sweet and romantic. I have thought about this for a LONG time (ever since I turned 11) I want a romantic first kiss, like a walk in the park or something and then we just kiss. I need to know about 5 things though. (1) I have braces, will our lips get hung together or something? (2) I ALSO have a herpz appliance in my mouth!!! Will THAT get our lips caught together? (3) How do you kiss? I mean whats the most sweetest way to kiss without making out? (4) Where is a romantic date? I can go to the movies or somewhere like that? I don't have any parks where I live. (5) Whats a good type of clothing, earrings, etc. to where? I REALLY NEED A GIRL'S ADVICE! (link)
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(1)/(2) neither will get in the way as long as you aren't like knocking teeth... (3)without getting too technical..there are just a few key points..close your eyes! either focus on putting your partner's either top or bottom lip in between yours (4) hmmm toughie...fourth of july is coming up! any fireworks show would be great...if not, anytime outdoors at night, with stars (5) try wearing your hair down...and wear whatever makes you feel beautiful and makes you confident, guys like confident girls
Good Luck!
Jersey
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