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benifits
what are the benefits of waiting for marriage? for those of you that are, whats your reason? it could go either way so let me know what you think.
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well i think they are not having to get married after you know you are having a baby and my reseon is that i know that god would not be pleased with me and i would also feel really bad and not look at that person for a while and even IF i did then i might get married to that person but still it is wrong.
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um... i am waiting for marriage... so far. I don't really think you can buy the car without test driving it. But um... benefits are that you know you are in love and you won;t be abused. And even if you get an STD, you're married. (that might sound babd but i hope you catch my drift.) Plus if you get pregnant you know he;ll stick it out.
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benefits of waiting until marriage are knowing that you havent had sex with anyone else. thinking that the sex w/ your partner is the best because, youve only been with that person. KNOWING that the person youre with loves you for you and not just because you have sex with them. idk.. i didnt wait.. but i wish i would have.
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it is definetly better to wait till yur married. i am waiting because i am a strong catholic, and god intended it to be for married people only. yu are giving of yourself to your husband, and he knows that you are clean and pure, and you don't carry any diseases. And that quack who said you shoodnt wait cus yull get a divorce, well that kid is dead wrong. studies show that people who have sex and are not married are most likely to break up. sex between a married couple is a good thing, it will only strenghten your relationship with your husband, not destroy it. Hope i helped !!
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Yes becuase well first and most importantly im a Christian and its right and its the way God made it...but also because you have something for you husband...and i dont even like thinking a.b girls my bf has gone out with or hugged...and so if hed have given his virginity i know id be deffinetly weirded by those girls and well its just more special waiting!!!
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Well for starters you don't go too emtionally involved with someone, it makes it easier if you were to "break- up". Decreases risk of getting sick or PREGNANT! I think that's one of the major reasons, i would never want to be pregnant at 16. My boyfriend and I don't have sex because too many things can go wrong. And it's just more special when you finally get married.
Good Luck!
Jersey/Jersey's boyfriend!
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one benifit is that your relationship isn't based on sex, it is based on what you feel for each other.
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I would say there are some major benefits. You dont have to worry about stupid breakups or regreting that you did it with that certain person. If you wait until your married its much more special. Hope this helps.
CrzyLatinaChc
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its more special, no worries for HIV aids ect, only one person! its just like, you get to share something so special, and so precious, that you have waited your whole life for, and now you get to share it with this one person, who you know wont leave you or "break-up" with you!! no worries! :)
and that you are in love!!!
-KeLlSzs-
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Yes, I'm waiting till after marriage.
- You get to avoid all the risks of pregnancy and diseases of sex. There is NO 100% guarantee that you are safe from any risks other than by not having sex. You may know this already, but if you get HIV/AIDS you can NOT be cured from it. Many people with it suffer horribly and die young. You can't exactly "cure" yourself of being pregnant either. If you have a baby before you are stable and have someone dependable by your side, the baby will be your responsibility for LIFE, which will ruin your education, your future, and you won't get to have sex once you're too occupied with a baby. And even if you got an abortion, you will still always have the memory of killing your baby just because you were irresponsible.
- If you save it for marriage, you wouldn't have to take birth controls in the meantime. Birth controls are definitely not natural.
- If you save it for marriage, it shows you have respect for yourself and self discipline.
- Also, you are saving it for your spouse...so it's special. Wouldn't you like to give your virginity to the sweetie you're going to marry?
- Just because people think you're in love now doesn't mean it will last forever. I don't think you'd want to have lost your virginity to your ex when you think about it.
- And even if you're not having sex because you "love" someone, but because you just have crazy hormones, is this really what you want to do? Just have sex with anyone because you're horny?
- It's kind of nasty to know the person you're going to marry has already banged other people...
- When you marry someone, it should be the person you really LOVE, right? So that would be the perfect person to have sex with.
- In response to the answer below me, it's true you may gain more sexual knowledge by sleeping around with others, but why can't you and your spouse learn together? If sex in a marriage sucks, you can always learn how to get better together. And if a marriage falls apart just because of sex, it wasn't all that great to begin with.
No one said you had to listen to me, I'm just hoping my advice will help guide you. And even if it doesn't, at least you will be able to see different perspectives of things.
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When you wait...
~You're giving your body to the person you truly love.
~There's no risk of getting STDs or AIDS.
~Birth control and condoms don't have to be used.
~A baby is an exciting thing in your life and you are able to take care of one.
~There will be no regrets about who you had sex with.
~It's a lot more special because it is your first time with someone you love with all your heart.
When you don't...
~Your partner might break up with you. That can seriously stress a person out when they've had sex with them.
~You're risking STDs that could kill you and cause trouble the rest of your life.
~Birth control and condoms are necessary.
~Some people think sex is like taking the next level in a relationship. Often times, this means quite the opposite. It can really hurt you emotionally.
I'm waiting because I don't think the consequences are worth it. There's nothing special about having sex and then doing it when you're married. You could have a hidden STD--you never know. Some STD's do not have symptoms. Some STD's, heck, you can't even have babies. The fallopian tubes can become scarred. Think about it. How will your spouse react when you tell them this isn't your first time? The first time is one of the great things about being married. You share yourself with the person you will always love, not your ex who you thought was forever but left you. I've had so many speakers come to my school. All the people who had sex before marriage regretted it and wished they could take it back. But once you lose your virginity, it's gone. It's like dropping a tear in the ocean. It's never coming back. Saving sex until marriage is biblically correct. If you are religious, it would be good to follow the bible. If you still don't want to wait, hey that's your decision. If you regret it later in life..I hope you remember what everyone here said.
♥ lAuRa
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To me it doesn't matter.
I chose not to wait. Yes, I could suffer some major consequences, but Its my descision.
The only benefits I see to waiting are:
The only person you ever sleep with will be there for the rest of your life
You know you won't get pregnant before your ready
Theres less of a risk of STDs
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That one person will always have a special part of you
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Benefits:
- It's that much more special for your first time when you're with the man (or woman) you're going to spend the rest of your adult life with.
- You're not going to give or get an STD, HIV, or AIDs nor will you be ashamed of getting pregnant - that's what happens to married couples.
- It's very emotionally damaging for a girl if you have sex with a boy and he breaks up with you.
- You don't have to worry about using a condom or birth control. (it's an option, but not required as a safty hazard.)
- It's Biblically correct to wait until marriage
- You don't have to worry about your parents flipping out because you're pregnant or have an STI, STD, HIV or AIDs.
I'm waiting. There are many things that I'm waiting for. There are somethings that I'm just doing because it will make it that much more special, such as I'm not wearing rings until I get an engagement ring. I'm not going to have sex until I'm married and I can make that commitment. Right now, I can't. I'm not old enough to get married, I can't make that physically intimate commitment. When I get married, the first man that I will be physically committed to will be my husband. I will not get an STD, an STI, HIV or AIDS because I will be a whole virgin. There is only one way that I could lose my virginity before marriage - and that's if someone rapes me. And I will fight that until ... well, as long as I can.
I think that it is an extremely good idea to wait for marriage because of the emotional aspects as well as the physical and moral aspects. It's just not as special if you've done it many times, and think about the effects it can cause on your body, mind and spirit. It's soo much more special if you wait - think about it, you know that you've given your whole self to one person, rather than giving a small part of yourself to him. That's like saying, " <b> I'll give part of me to him, and part of me to him, and part of me to him, and you can have whatever is left. </b> " I don't think that's very comforting.
Now you know how I feel. Please consider all of this.
-FunnyCide
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WEll the benefits of waiting for marriage are mostly for the children. If you get pregnant, and you are already married, then you KNOW that your husband will be there for you and the child. Hopefully before marriage, you have discussed whether or not you want children, and when, and you are able to afford them, or will wait until you are.
If you are having sex before marriage, and you end up pregnant, a number of things could happen, and they are all sad.
The father could abandon you.
You could end up raising the child by yourself.
You could end up having a divorce
THe first step towards poverty is to have a child out of wedlock.
If you get married, you will always wonder if he married you because he loved you or because you were pregnant. (don't laugh, ask someone who has been there - first argument and he thows it in their face!)
Waiting until you are married one assumes that you are marrying some one who will love you and support you and be supportive of you and any children for the rest of your lives. This is important. And a relief. There are too many women out there who have had to raise kids on their own, and while they are proud and have accomplished much in their stuggles. ANy one of them will tell you that it would have been better to have a partner, a husband, a father for the children who was there, lived there, and shared in all the responsbility. Children grow up better that way too.
NOw having children is not the only reason, although it is the best, for waiting. Because you can take birth control to be sure that you don't get pregnant until you are ready. (very good idea by the way, no matter whether you wait or not)
Sexually transmitted disease is another. Assuming that the person you are to marry, that you have been with them for a few years, getting to know each other, and falling in love, and you know that you can trust each other, and would not do anything to hurt each other or be disrespectfuly.
THe other reason is your reputation, or your...well I don't know what else to call it. Your self love, maybe. While they say, in all the magazines that things have changed, and women can be sexually active and free and have sex just like men with no strings attached, and it is their right.
But in reality this is not true. Assuming that you would be "in love" with the man that you would be intimate with. Let me say this women are hurt when a guy dumps them, or falls out of love with them. And I don't know why, but it seems to happen faster, after you have been intimate with them. It hurts, it hurts a lot. You feel used and embarassed. But there is nothing you can do about it. You can;t make anyone stay in love with you. You can't make anyone stay with you.
You may still love them, and your mind will be screaming at him: " But I gave myself to you", you said you loved me. I thought you wanted to marry me some day?"
Only time will tell you if someone is really the right person. Because that is what dating is about. Getting to know that person, and whether or not this is the person that you want to spend the rest of your life with. And it is the guys time too, to get to know you. So waiting until you get to know each other, and knowing that you want to spend the rest of your lives together is important. AT that point, it could be a mutual decision between the two of you to wait for the marriage night or not.
The reason that this is sooo important, is that women are special, only women can have babies. Women and babies need a strong, (emotionally) responsible, and reliable man who puts them first above all else. BEcause going it alone, it one of the hardest things that you will ever do.
I hope this helps
MIchele
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Pro's: the guy will also feel very special that you wait for him, for the one, and most guys respect that a lot. go for your values.
Con's: there's nothing wrong with sleeping with a guy before marriage, if you're in love at that moment and he means a lot to you, I don't think it matters what will happen afterwards as long as in that moment your feelings are just as intense for eachother and he doesnt just want sex. (ie: threatening to leave you for someone else)
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Well, you wont be ridiculed by religious fanatics. You will be "pure" so your mother in law wont want to cut your throat when she finds out. And you won't have to do a lot of explaining further down the line, about either "all the people you slept with" or "oh, haha, funny story, I got this child in high school, yeah i'd say about a year after the other one."
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