about

I'm not your typical young naive girl who doesn't know anything about the world and expects what she wants to be handed to her on a gold platter. I'm not a girl who has unrealistic goals. I'm not a girl who acts like she's someone else. I'm comfortable in my own skin. I'm not a girl who's weak and doesn't stand up for herself. I don't take a beating. I'm not a moron. I'm quite intelligent. I'm not a douche bag like most girls who think it's just a guys physical appearance and his bank account. I'm not a girl who is going to walk all over her friends just to get her way. I'm a damn good girl. Maybe not in every sense. I've done the whole drugs, booze, sex thing, but I didn't let it get to my head. I'm far from arrogant. I'm level headed. Anyway. Stephanie. I'm fifteen, sixteen on August 18. I'm around 5'3, 96 pounds. Yes I'm very little (not anorexic). In all honesty, I'm a girl who is quite unlike most. I'm not a virgin, nor do I regret what I did. I'm not an addict to any substance other than life. I'm not very picky with who I let in my life, but I am with who I let stay in my life. Once you screw me over, there is no second chance. I'm seldomly rude or mean unless I feel the need to be. So, if you get chewed out, it's for a good reason. I'm one of the guys. I'll wrestle you to the ground and pin you down. I am a tough girl, but I don't flaunt it unlike some girls who think they're so hardcore because they claim to be tougher than everyone else. I really get bothered when boys assume that because I'm a girl I know nothing about gaming & music (amongst other things), when in reality I probably know more than they do. So, this is rather long and I doubt many if any will read all of it. Oh, well. I'm pretty mature for my age so ask whatever is on your mind.


advice

Okay well recently i started dating my brothers best friend. We're in the mountains right now. Well earlier today, we were snow boarding, and we both fell because well were like that. So anyway the people we were with, [my brother, his girlfriend, his friend, and his friends friend] told us to go to the cabin. so we did, and we fell asleep. so later everyone woke us up when they came back. so we were just sitting there, bored. he asked what i wanted to watch, cuz we decided to watch a DVD. so i was just joking around, and i said the notebook. so he told me to put it in. that surprised me and i told him it was a chick flick. he told me that was okay because he loved me and its what i wanted to watch. So i kissed him and he got me some hott chocolate. So we watched the movie, and at the end he cried. I mean, i did too, but i just thought it was so cute that he cried! i mean, he wasnt bawling or anything, just a tear rolling down his cheek. the girls thought that that was just stupid. And then another time, at his basketball game, we were fighting at half time, for some stupid reason, i cant remember why. And i left and walked out into the parking lot and when he was supposed to be practicing he was talking to me. Anyway, i think he really loves me, and i kmow i love him. But whenever i say this my brother says that its just a spur of the moment thing. Why do you think hes saying this and how can i get him to stop saying it?

He's your brother, he's gonna be a little jealous ;] I have two brothers who are a bit protective, and that's just how they are. Don't take it too seriously, he's probably just watching out for you. But it sounds like you have something good going with your bf now, so just enjoy it with no worries!

[view]

well, well, well...how can i put this is simple terms...okay, my love life sucks ass!...lol..i just turned 16(female) and i have never had a real honest to God boyfriend, which means, i have never had sex..this is very frustrating because all my other friends that i can think of have had numerous boyfriends and have sex regularly..i think they think i have had some but i havent..its like im not attractive and no one wants me..or if i do catch someone's eye, i'm just too shy to approach them..that's probably my biggest problem, being too shy and approaching people and the fact that i'm ready for a boyfriend but i'm always looked at as "just a friend", which is the worst..so, my question is, what can i do to get a boyfriend and get "some"?..

Well considering you've just turned 16, I wouldn't worry too much on not "getting any" ya know. Some girls actually don't have sex 'til they're 17 or 18. The boyfriend situation might be different though. If you have alot of guy friends or are interested in someone already, then focus on being a little more flirty with them so they are exposed to having a more than "just friends" relationship. Instead of talking to guys like you're their best friend, try bringing up "you and me" kind of thing. That way it'll get them more focused on you and you only ;] And if you have no one in mind yet, just go out with some girl friends or whatever and meet new people. Be more open and confident (it's sexy! haha.) Guys will love it when you hit on them first, but don't rush into anything. You don't want to scare them off. Just act very casual with everything but really flirty too. And if you do get a little close to guy then be somewhat intimate and open with him. Well I hope that gives you a start :]

[view]

Okay, Well there is this guy let's bane him Billy I went out witih him 3 times already. And He has a girlfriend let's name her Mary. Well I hung out with Billy and I am best friends with him, he is also my ex-boyfriend of numerous times (3 or 4) We started to hangout out of school agian. I never truely got over him. Well He recently told me, that he is starting to have feelings for me agian. And He is going to break up with his girlfriend. I feel really bad But I love him. What should I do? Should I go with him? Should we tell her?

If you both have strong feelings for eachother then go for it! And since he's starting to have feelings for you again then it's best he tell his girlfriend, it's better than lying to her. But it might depend on who he wants to be with more. Talk it over with eachother and then come to a conclusion on what you guys want for eachother. If you both want eachother back then he should tell his girlfriend.

[view]

okay my best friend always tell sme im her best friend but shes also friend with poular ppl i dont think i am her bf but i talked it over with her and hse still says i am! well i dont no what to do!! please help me! xoxoxox jamie

Well you can still be her best friend even though she has other friends too. You don't want to be too clingy with her or you might scare her away. Sharing is nice :]

[view]

I'm 17/f. My boyfriend of 2 years and I are going to a concert this summer and I really want to lose my virginity to him soon, so I figured why not that night? After the concert, I was wondering how I could somehow initiate it or give him a sign that I want to have sex with him THEN? I dont want to kill the moment by discussing it beforehand because I know it'd make him AND me feel uncomfortable knowing. I want to let it happen on it's own without making it seem awkward. How do I initiate the moment?

During the concert you could be real close to him (not suffocating him lol.) And be more intimate than you usually are towards him, if he doesn't get it yet, then give him a few seductive looks .

[view]

ok well, i'm 5'5 and 103. i feel skinny, but at the same time i want to lose weight! it's very frustrating. my friends tell me i'm so skinny and stuff, but i really just want to lose weigh- not much, just like a few pounds. another concern is being anorexic. i'm not and i definitely dont want to be! basically iam wondering if i should try to lose weight.. like would it be unhealthy? and how should i go about doing this? thank you

I'm 15 and I weigh 96 pounds, also not anorexic (thyroid). But I'm trying to gain weight, not lose it haha. Instead of concentrating on losing weight, maybe you should just focus on eating healthier and exercising... I'm pretty sure that's not unhealthy. Just don't force yourself to throw up! And no diet-pills, they're usually not very good for you especially if you have a small frame already.

[view]

hey i need help!I really dislike this guy my sister is wild about. he just got home from a trip and he stealing her away from me. while he was gone i thought we had so much fun but now its a mess. i can't confront her because she has a.d.d and she goes crazy and leaves so i need advice

You don't want to come off as selfish, so maybe you should share her just a little bit. Then pick a good moment to talk to her, and tell her you want to spend a more time together. I have A.D.D too so I'm pretty sure she won't go crazy and leave ;]

[view]

theirs this boy in my school adn i really really like him and i ahve 3 days to talk to him before school ends and i really wana but i dont kno how to go bout it so can someone help me as to what to do and say thanx if you can help as soon as possible thanx

xO`tha one and only me

Well since you might not see him as much during summer break, you could try and ask him for his number (in a friendly manner.) And bring up the topic of hanging out or something over break. Be really cool about it and it'll get his attention. Since girls aren't usually the ones to ask first, he might like the confidence in you which is an added plus ;]

[view]

ok so ive had a crush on this guy since my freshmen year (Kyle). And then i find out from a friend (Jason) that Kyle's intrested in me too, and he thinks i am cute, has a good personality.. blah blah blah. But as i'm asking Jason about all this he says Kyle is confused and he doesn't know if he wants a relationship! what am i suppose to do? This guy doesn't really know how crazy i am about him. But i mean, how do i get him to think of me as more then a friend? PLEASE SEND WHATEVER ADVICE U GOT! haha thanks!

Well lucky for you he is interested also. But as much as you've been waiting for this, you probably don't want to rush things. Start talking to him more, maybe do things as friends first. If you try and jump into something he is not sure about, it might scare him away (which I'm sure you don't want to happen!) Just be patient, I know how hard it is ;] But hopefully it'll be worth it.

[view]

<<< Previous Advice Column
Next Advice Column >>>
eXTReMe Tracker