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Initiating Sex.
I'm 17/f. My boyfriend of 2 years and I are going to a concert this summer and I really want to lose my virginity to him soon, so I figured why not that night? After the concert, I was wondering how I could somehow initiate it or give him a sign that I want to have sex with him THEN? I dont want to kill the moment by discussing it beforehand because I know it'd make him AND me feel uncomfortable knowing. I want to let it happen on it's own without making it seem awkward. How do I initiate the moment?
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If you cannot discuss sex before you have it, you're not mature enough to be having it in the first place. Sorry.
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Just so we're clear, even if you go talk to him, you're still not really ready for it. If you go through with it anyway, don't be a child, talk to him first.
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And Laura brings up an excellent point. While most guys aren't going to turn down opportunities, you should respect him enough that if he wants or needs to, he can without a problem. That means talking first for sure.
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You talk to him first. I know, you said you don't want to, but you need to. You need to make sure that you're BOTH ready, and that you're on the same page.
Talking to him will show not only that you value his views on the subject, but that your relationship is strong enough and you're comfortable enough with one another to talk openly about sex.
-Laura (17-f)
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First of all, initiating the moment... well when you get to the moment where you start kissing, start kissing more fervently, and do the things that most turn him on, and kiss him on the neck, maybe get on top of him, or grab his penis, or start kissing him everywhere on his body, and just show him that you don't want to take it easy, you don't want him to stop, that you want to continue till you actually have sex, and this usually comes with feeling, its not something mostly to say or do. And if he asks you what are you trying to do, tell him, make love to me, but at that moment, it won't be uncomfortable, cause you'll already be in the spur of the moment.
Second of all, if your not planning to get pregnant, then use protection, maybe you could get some protection with you, but honestly, its gonna be kind of weird, that you planned all this on your own, to have sex and lose your virginity and you even got protection, maybe it would be a bit freaky to him, but if you think it'd be cool with him, then go for it, other than that, maybe you should tell him right after the concert,if you don't want to tell him too early beforehand, but just so he'd go get some protection or something.
And hey, if you love each other, it will happen on its own, and it won't be awkward, and that's what we call, making love not having sex, you don't plan for it, it just happens.
Hope i helped, if you need anything else, please be free to contact me. Best of luck!
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first off i am going to say use protection if you feel you are ready.. you can start kissing and touching each other and itll just happen.
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Sorry, but if you can't talk about it, you shouldn't be doing it. You need to be able to discuss birth control and what you'd do if something happens. If you can't handle that, you're not ready. It's not going to "kill the moment". It's being mature and responsible.
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You could either make it really sweet and passionet by like looking him in the eyes and being like i want you to take my virginity now
or you could do like wild and you could hop on top of him and start making out and taking his shirt off and helping him take off yours but dont let him stop where he normally would
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Not to sure you can but your virginity is very important so do not rush it.I have not had sex yet im 16 but i think there is no planned day just see and it will happen on its own.Make sure you love him alot first.
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flirt with him the whole night...and like rub on him a bit... kiss him and stuff. after the concert just start making out with him...and then start unzipping his pants and then let it go from there. if he backs off...then wait a little longer
take it from me baby
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I hate to say it, but you really NEED to discuss it with him beforehand. Although, I'm sure he won't have any qualms about doing it with you. If you don't talk to him, I also want you to make sure you have birth control, which is something that, again, should be discussed with him. If you aren't comfortable discussing sex with him, I don't think you should be having it. Your first time is kind of a big deal and I think he should be aware that you are a virgin and how it's going to affect you before he goes jabbing his man parts into you.
As far as letting him know you're ready to do it, I suggest.. well.. undressing. He'll get the picture. Take off your shirt, take off his pants... whatever getting naked entails. Your intentions should be pretty obvious.
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Why dont you just make the move that you want too..? thats what i did with my boyfriend like i just started kissing him and putting his hands where i wanted them then he went from there.. im sure if you do something like that he'll get the hint and do it from there.. me and my boyfriend didnt feel awkward or funny.. but if you think you will then maybe try somebody else's advice.. ♥ Dez
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you should just like sit down the two of you and talk about ur relationship (preferrably in a romantic place) and about a few days before the concert. i mean hes def not gonna say no because 1) hes a guy and 2) you guys have been together for 2 whole years ...but like kiss him a bit while u talk about it and it wont be weird!
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First of all, i tink you should first consier the fact that you should both get checked together for std's just in case. (you never know, some ARE deadly) and that you should definatly use condoms. i think you should just flirt until your a legal adult of 22
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Well its really hared to just tell someone. But if hes 17 im sure hes thinking about it daily. So I think all you have to sayy is Im ready tonight after the concert. Im sure he'll know what you mean! I hope I helped you and good luck! plz stay safe!!
Bianca
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well if talking about sex with eachother makes u uncomfortable then maybe you guys arent ready to do it
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Do you really want your first time to be somewhere like that?
Since you're a virgin, more than likely the sex will hurt some and won't be fun.
But whatever, yeah good luck. Use condoms.
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i think you should just start making out with him after the concert and when he wants to go to sleep be like " i have been thinking about this for awhile and i really want to lose my virginity to you" if he doesnt take the hint you want to then, be like and i want to lose it tonight, and if he still doesnt get the hint the dude might be gay lol.
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During the concert you could be real close to him (not suffocating him lol.) And be more intimate than you usually are towards him, if he doesn't get it yet, then give him a few seductive looks .
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bring condoms, because if hes not thinkinga bout it, then he wont have them, and thinking about how to get htem will fuck it all up for you. and you dont want to NOT use them. anyway - while youre there, be intimate, be kissing, and then just be in the moment, take some clothes off, and bring them out and say " weve been together for a while, and youre the one i want to lose it to" im pretty sure if his dick isnt hard already itll go "SH-UH-WOING" and youll be all good....lol. thats just how id do it.
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