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Looking up
Ok well im a 13/f and my mom gets someone to babysit my brother whom is 8 just because im always out havin fun and doing stuff and i dont want to watch him. but anyways the point is lately his babysitter and me are like good friends. So well anyways she is 18 and I really i guess i could say i look up to her. I really do i love her like a sister and right now i know she is going thought a hard time and she started smoking and she said im gonna quit im just having a hard time well i dont think shes gonna quit because smoking is addicting and she might not be able to quit and im scared for her and myself because i look up to her so whats happens if i start to and i also dont think shes getting paid enought a week i added up all the time she worked this week and the money she got and dived it and she got like $2.78 an hour thats not fair she needs more money because she is gonna have to start paying for bills and stuff and shes not getting paid enought and now shes smoking and im lookin up to her and i just dont know what to do she is like a sister to me we are good friends and i really look up to her and i dont want her life to get screwed up plese help sorry this is so long
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Hi,
I under stand what your going threw because I have a asister thatis 23 years old, I also look up to her. Will before she went to the army at age 20.I use to think it was kind of weird because she had alot of boy friends.After a while I did under stand why.
Mrs.Cena
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Hey,
Wow, im 15 and i think im starting to look up to you for caring so much for some like that. How about you talkin to both your mom and her. Talk to you mom about givin her a raise. Tell her that she puts up with a lot of your brothers nonsence. And talk to the babysitter and tell her that you look up to her and you dont want her to screw up her life. That will make her feel really nice. And tell her that your only 13 but if that you will try to help her in any way possible. I hope i have helped.
*Gorda*
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the best thing would probably be to talk to her and tell her how you feel! if she sees how concerned you are about her she might be more motivated to stop... you can also set up a way to help her quit like if you see her smoking just say something to her about it. as for the pay... let your mom know that you did the math and you don`t think she`s getting enough money to stay on her feet and that you think it would be a good idea for her to get a raise...
best of luck!!
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Dear Looking Up,
Talk to your mom, about the babysitter. Talk to your babysitter to tell her the same thing you told me that you look up to her and that you feel like you will start smoking, with her around. maybe she's not a good babysitter for your family? I'm not here to give negativity, Tell your mom you don't feel comfortable with this. About her smoking. Also your mom has a budget to and if your mom has enough to pay for you your brother the bills, ect. Think about your parents lifestyle to, you shouldn't be worrying about your babysitter and stuff like her bills. Your mom and the babysitter should work this out, you know? Talk to them!
Sincerly,
hightopgrl
(I hope my advice helps)
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Well if you think she needs paid more take it up with your mom. Maybe if she knew she was having troubles she'd slip her a little extra money.
As for her smoking, you'll just have to leave that to her. You can still look up to her and not take up smoking yourself. Everyone handles stress differently. Smoking isn't good for you but there are worse things she could be doing, right? Sounds like you have a good friend in her! :)
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Babysitting really isnt a job my friend.
2.78 is pretty good.
Its not a job. Its something you do to make money on the side.
Just a question,while you happen to be down to earth with whats going on here, for instance you see you smoking in the future due to the fact your rolemodel does it.
Why do you make a rolemodel out of that person? If they're that unstable look up to someone else. Its only bad for you.
You're also right, she wont quite. She'll get lung cancer and die in her late 30's early 40's.
Possibly sooner if shes a chain smoker.
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