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i was hanging out..dating this guy for about 2 months & we had so much fun together hangin out & he was so sweet to me.. we talked about not getting serious and everything since he was going pretty far away for college.. then he went on vacation with his friends for a week and came back & i went to a party at his house and he barely talked to me.. and now he never calls me and we havent hung out for like a month..was he using me or what ?.. i dunno what to do i really miss him!! ..it freaking sucks! (link)
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I guess that's his way of not getting serious. Maybe he thought you were getting to attached?
Since he'll be going away to school soon anyway, better to get over him now and move on to someone else. :)
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Okay, I made a new friend at the beginning of this previous school year and we are pretty close. Well, she can get very annoying sometimes and be really aggravating alot. Well, is it normal for me to want to spend time away for her? (link)
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Sure it is. Anybody can get on your last nerve if you are around them all the time. Even those we love! :)
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what are some good qualities you need to have in a friendship? for example ..loyalty. i need at least 3 of them. thanks i rate high for good answers
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Good communication
Trust
Always there for you good times and bad
Shoulder to lean/cry on
Loyalty
Honesty
In no particular order
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my dad is dumb... he doesn't know nothing and anytime i try to talk to him, he walks right by me and doesn't say anything. sometimes, i wish i wasn't a girl because i think he's sexist because he treats my mom's friends sons like best friends but yesterday, he didn't say ONE word to me at all... i just wish he would leave my mom because he treats her like crap and she treats him like a king and i love my mom and my sister and im sick of all of us having to go through all of this crap... im sick of not having a dad. he sits in front of the t.v all day and my best friends dad is divorced but he has a girlfriend and their all cool and stuff and why can my dad be that way... i even call her dad "daddy robertson" because i'm over there and im around her dad waaaaaay more than im around mine and im sick of mine... her dad treats me like a daughter and my dad treats me like a dirty old rag that he can just throw around anytime he wants but im sick of him! he doesn't love me. i try to get closer to him and he won't listen. i try to hug him and he tells me to go away because he's working... he's just rude! i can't say anything to my friends without him yelling @ me. Today, my best friend was telling her sister to stop being stupid and my dad yelled at ME because we sound alike!!! ugh!!! im just sick of my gay dad... he's not literally gay... or is he??? lol... well, what should i do to make him become a better dad... if my parents got divorced i would be happy because my mom would get custody
sorry this is so long...
signed,
kayla (link)
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Maybe he just doesn't know how to be a good dad. I know it sounds kind of silly but it may be true. You say he treats moms friends boys okay. Maybe he just doesn't know how to act around girls. He may not be the worlds best at the job but, hes your dad. Just keep trying is all you can do. The sad part is he will realize one of these days when you have moved out of the house what hes missed. :)
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I haven't seen my dad since i was like 6. I got his address and his phone number. I wanna call him but i dont know what i would say to him. My mom thinks that its a good idea i should talk with him. But like i said i dont know what i would say to him. My dad's girlfriend wont let my dad ever talk to me. or if i send him a letter she wont let him read it. She doesn't even have a picture of me because she doesn't want me in his life. What should i do and what should i say? please help (link)
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You can start off with just how have you been. Tell him about school etc. Once you build up a bit of a relationship with him you might mention that you have written etc. Let him know you have and let him deal with what might have become of all the things he didn't receive.
What kind of job does he have? If he works somewhere that you might call him at work, maybe you could do that. Then his girlfriend won't be intercepting your calls. If she does it at home...keep calling until she lets you talk to him.
Just call him. He will help out in the talking, it will go okay. It will get easier each time you talk to him. :)
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sry for the length...
yesterday i had my boyfriend over and my mom was watching us like a hawk she wouldnt leave us alone she was being a bitch..like we were just sitting there and she goes THAT WILL BE ENOGUH OF THAT! its terrible im not talking to her right now because she cant trust be she thinks im suck a whore and im not im just tired of her being like this..
What do u think i should i do?
thanks ill rate high
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You'll hate this...talk to her about it. Tell her you aren't going to do anything with her ANYWHERE in the house. I mean she could walk in anytime, right? Tell her you just would like some time alone with your guy. She doesn't want to make you go elsewhere does she? :)
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I am sick to death of my brothers!!! I have 3 brothers and no sisters. Since it's summer break, i have to put up with them all day every day. Most of my friends are on vacation. I can't invite anyone to my house because my mom just had surgery and can't handle it. I'm allowed to go to somebody else's house, but I can't just say "Hey, can I come over to your house?" So basically my question is: How can I put up with my brothers all summer?!?
HELP!
P.S.--- My family can't go anywhere cause my dad is in NC and my mom can't drive because of her surgery. (link)
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Brothers are always a pain. Look at it this way. Most of your friends will be back from vacations real soon. Mom will be up and around soon too. Probably in a week or so you will be able to get out and do something. Nothing wrong with calling a friend and saying moms sick and I need to get away from my lousy brothers, wanna do something?
Go to a park or somewhere if you have to until mom is feeling okay. :)
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I am datin this guy but he checks out all these other girls and today he was like (name) has a nice butt.Then he was like man look at them titties and it makes me so mad what should I do?
sign,
confused (link)
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I hate sounding mean to all the guys out there but, Its a guy thing. I assume so anyway! I've had mine for 30 years and he still makes those comments. Hes always asking can I have that one for my birthday? Or some equally silly comment.
Just tell him to pick his tongue up off the floor and lets get going. You get used to it after awhile. Think if he was serious he'd say it in front of you? Naw, I doubt it. Men. :)
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okay so there's this girl i've found myself quite infatuated with. and things seemed to be going jim dandy and the world seemed to be turning right for once. and then to my shock and dismay it comes out that she has an eating disorder. she refuses to eat, refuses to do anything but excersize and sip water. and she is slowly killing herself with this. i try to tell her that it's not good. i try to tell her of the damage it can do to her. and i try to tell her that it hurts me too (it can send me to tears.. and i never ever cry) and i try all that i can to let her know that it's terrible but nothing will ever work. i feel so useless and worthless and like she's gonna slip through my fingertips and i wont be able to save her. and well i really have no idea what to do or where to go. and i need some help from somewhere in order to help her. this is not good. yet she feels that it will make her feel better about herself. i just don't understand how slowly killing yourself makes you feel better. agh this is so saddening. someone please help me, somehow. (link)
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You need to talk to her parents about this. I know you don't want her mad at you but, I think once she has her act together she will realize you only did it because you care. Eating disorders like this are to much for anyone but a professional to help her with. The person with the disorder usually know its wrong and they may want to stop the behavior but it is almost impossible without help from someone who knows what they are doing. She really needs help because the results of her behavior can be devastating for her...and ultimately for you. Good luck with getting her the help she needs.
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I like this girl so much but she is practically dedicated to this guy but he doesn't love her the way I do but I can't tell her that I love her because we are likebest friends and I really wanna date this chick but she is to tight on this other guy what do I do? (link)
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You either tell her how you feel now and get it over with, or you wait until he dumps her and make your move. Either way, if you feel that deeply for her you need to tell her about it. She may feel the same. Look at all the time you will have wasted. Go for it, just a matter of how you want to time it. :)
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What do I do when I'm in love with this kid and he loves me back but he's so scared to love me because he's thinking he'll get hurt or something. But he and I are really close but know he's talking to his x-girlfriend when he told me he wanted a break and to be with me, but not know why is he talking to her and not me? I really really really love him and I know he loves me..what do I do? (link)
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Sounds like you need to do some serious talking about all this with him. He may be afraid of getting hurt but, if he already loves you anyway...well, may as well do it right! I don't know why he is talking to his ex. You'll have to ask him that one. Could be they are just good friends and she is easy to talk to about his confusion. Just ask him and get the answer. Don't be afraid to talk honestly about all that is bothering you. :)
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OK so the kid i like (who has a g/f) asked me the other day online if i still liked him..and i tried changin the subject but hes like "No don't shange the convo.." so i told him: idk because you have a gf... then he said ooo ok..now hes talking to me a lot more..should i have told him that i still liked him? should i tell him the next time i talk to him? help me! i rate 5s! (link)
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If you still like him then be honest about it. Tell him you weren't exactly telling the truth when you told him you didn't know. Make sure he is no longer dating someone else before you actually go out with him though. :)
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i am a 16yr old girl, and i havent been in a relationship recently bc i was raped/abused by my ex. and honestly im afraid of being in a relationship because of the past. i know i shouldnt let that effect anything in the future, because its done and over with... but i cant help to think what happens if someone hurts me again like my ex? and i no not every one on this planet is a sick minded freak like my ex was... but i cant help to wonder. there are numerous guys who like me, including 2 of my ex/bfs, who treated me with so much respect... but there is another guy who does like me, and i guess i like him too... but hes not really my type... hes sort of a dork, and yeahh. i know that doesnt matter, what im getting at is, if i do choose any of these, how do i make sure they wont hurt me like my other ex, and who do i pick?? (link)
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You will just have to use your best judgement. If you get to know the guy you are dating pretty well you may have to explain what happened. That way if you flash back on him one day he doesn't freak out about it. Are you getting help for the trauma you suffered? If not you really should because it may creep up on you when you least expect it. It is called Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. So, if you haven't gotten help already in dealing with the whole thing, please consider it. :)
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Basically this guy I know is ignoring me.
He used to like me, and I mean loads, and we got on really really well. He used to call me all the time and flirt with me like hell. It took me ages to find out he fancied me (even then with a little help from mutual friends). I started to like him too, then he called me up and asked me out. I said yeah, but then I didn't see him all week...which was both our faults, but then the first day that I saw him he ignored me and then sent one of his female friends to dump me.
He's been ignoring me now for about two months, and its getting really uncomfortable. I still like him, but I haven't got a clue whether he still likes me.
And I just found out one of my not-so-close friends likes him too...and apparently he likes her.
Why is this guy ignoring me? And what should I do?
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I think if he dumped you then you can safely assume that is why he is ignoring you. I don't know why he wasn't man enough to tell you himself instead of sending a friend to do it but. I think its over. Don't dwell on it, find someone new. Even though you still like the guy. :)
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theirs this boy and he wants to go out with me for the 28th time.i really like him but i jus know he is gonns dump me again for a dmumb reason. i dont know what to do.
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I guess it depends on how much you like him. A person can only be hurt by another for so long before they just give up. I think if you decide to go out with him you need to let him know that.
I really don't know why he thinks its going to work on the 29th try. Why don't you ask him that?
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Okay... So im 16 and theres this guy, he'll be 18 in September @ work that i sort of lie but i'm mad at him now. And this girl she's 16 i work with is hooking me up with anouther guy who is also 16, but i really dont know him. Should i go for it or not? I mean i use to really liek this other guy that i work with and i just think it would be strange. What do you think? (link)
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The guy who is 18 will have to wait a couple of years I'm afraid. He risks getting in big trouble if he dates a minor. Go for the one who's your age for now. :)
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what do you do if you broke up with ur bf because of family problems and u still really like him a lot and you want to go back out with him but hes afriad you'll break up with him again? ill rate high! (link)
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You'll have to do some talking. You need to explain your reason for breaking up (in detail), and then you'll have to explain how you'll go about making sure it won't happen a second time. Good luck with it! :)
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why dose it seem like my bf dont really like talking to me? he seems like hes mad.? (link)
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Some guys are just like that. You could try talking to him and see if he is upset about something. If he isn't then tell him to try smiling more. :)
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okay so in advance im sorry if this is long but please read and help anyways.
okay me and my boyfriend went out for 10 months and we had a good relationship but last weeekend was my birthday and my party .. it was a campout and well pretty much the whole time he was with one of my best friends, theyre friends too but shes a girl and they were cuddling, and all this stuff, well i guess she kissed him on the cheek and i got mad cuz like it was my bday and he was with her so we fought about it and he said i was jealous .. well then since we were fighting he would barely talk, so i left a message on his AIM away and said that if he wouldnt help and talk with me to work it all out then i was gunna give up cuz i was sick of trying to fix it by myself, well he took it as a breakup .. but i didnt..and i want him back but hes comfused he says and he says that its hard and everything and hes not sure if he wants me back or to be friends but he really cares about me still and loves me alot he said but he said alot more but i cant really type everything it would take a long time but i guess im really wondering is what do you think i should do..?
sorry its long but i cant do it on my own and i really love him.
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Sounds as if he wants to break up I'm sorry to say. Sounds like he may like your friend too.
What a miserable birthday you must have had.
If he wants to talk it out and try to work on it good. If he doesn't then you'll just have to let it go. Maybe some time apart will make him realize how much you mean to him.
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Well I'm currently seeing someone and things are good and all but I miss one of my ex's. I loved her and I think about her every waking moment of my life and sometimes it tears me apart. I dated her about 5 times first for 1 month then 2 weeks then a week then a few days then another few days then sadly only a day. Yes its quite pathetic. My cousin and best friend told me to forget about her because a relationship w/ her is (in his opinion) "unhealthy". This is due to the fact that Ive cut myself over her and thought of suicide. Should I move on? Should I talk to her? What the hell should I do? I am utterly confused - Mike (link)
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What keeps breaking you up? If that isn't fixed then I don't think I'd bother any more.
Your cousin is right about it being unhealthy to see her if its going to make you cut. Nobody is worth that believe it or not. No one should EVER have that kind of power over another.
If your current relationship is good, why not try concentrating on someone who is with you already and cares about you? If you could do that you may find someone better yet! :)
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