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okay so in advance im sorry if this is long but please read and help anyways.
okay me and my boyfriend went out for 10 months and we had a good relationship but last weeekend was my birthday and my party .. it was a campout and well pretty much the whole time he was with one of my best friends, theyre friends too but shes a girl and they were cuddling, and all this stuff, well i guess she kissed him on the cheek and i got mad cuz like it was my bday and he was with her so we fought about it and he said i was jealous .. well then since we were fighting he would barely talk, so i left a message on his AIM away and said that if he wouldnt help and talk with me to work it all out then i was gunna give up cuz i was sick of trying to fix it by myself, well he took it as a breakup .. but i didnt..and i want him back but hes comfused he says and he says that its hard and everything and hes not sure if he wants me back or to be friends but he really cares about me still and loves me alot he said but he said alot more but i cant really type everything it would take a long time but i guess im really wondering is what do you think i should do..?
sorry its long but i cant do it on my own and i really love him.
btw im 15/f
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Sounds as if he wants to break up I'm sorry to say. Sounds like he may like your friend too.
What a miserable birthday you must have had.
If he wants to talk it out and try to work on it good. If he doesn't then you'll just have to let it go. Maybe some time apart will make him realize how much you mean to him.
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lol umm I think Siren Cytherea covered everything i was going to say.. soo good luck!
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The first thing you need to do is talk to your friend and find out why she did that, when she obviously knew you were with him.
Then ask yourself if your boyfriend was right. Were you jealous? I would've been, I think. Ask y ourself if you were really sick of trying, or just trying to get him to talk to you. I think you know the answer to that one.
Once you've answered all your own questions of yourself and spoken to your friend, finding out her intentions (if she had any), talk to your boyfriend. Talk to him in person, at a coffee shop, or something. Not on his turf, and don't try to make him come to you. Give him a call and even if he doesn't answer, tell him you'd like to talk to him about what happened last weekend in a civil manner (in your own words, obviously). Then set a time and ask him to meet you somewhere. Make it clear that you don't want to be on bad terms, and that you think there was a miscommunication, not to mention that you would like to help him figure out what it is that he really wants, as he seems confused.
There was, since he took it as a breakup and you didn't.
Basically, I think what you should do is talk to him for however long it takes.
I got into a nasty fight with my guy over something REALLY stupid, and we spent four and a half hours or so in Starbucks talking and cry-testing my makeup. But after that, we're still together and happier than ever.
Different situation, I know, but basic concept - talk it out and figure out what to do. Whatever you do, don't walk away, and don't let him walk away.
If he still loves you, there's no reason for you to be apart.
But before you talk to him, it's incredibly important that you talk to your friend and find out what the hell she was doing. Ask her to be utterly honest with you, and to be upfront about it.
Then go talk to him and be upfront and honest with him.
I hope this helps, and good luck!
-Siren =)
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wow! sounds like you need to have a face 2 face talk with your boi.(and your friend) tell your bf that u don't want to break up and that you were just jelouse (always tell him the truth) and ask if he'll forgive you. (real simple) right?................hope i helped ya out good luck!!
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Green-eyed monsta taken over you, huh?
Maybe he was just cuddling that other chick becuz he was her friend and friends cuddle sumtimes and maybe she likes him since she kissed him on the cheek (I can see why u r pissed about THAT), and maybe you took it a little too seriously.
That could also be a sign (hate to break it to you) that he's onto a new girl and he doesn't know how to say it to you, or feels guilty breaking up with you for another girl
Pull him aside and talk to him where you have privacy. You could reuinite. Or not.
Just keep your eyes open. If he still bobs around that other girl and won't talk 2 u, break up. If not, you can go from there.
hope i helped
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well it's up to him. tell him how you feel...and tell him that it was a misunderstanding...and admit that you were jealous because it was YOUR birthday..and he cuddled with another girl.
take it from me baby
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