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I have gone from younggrandma to just yg. Now,
I am using my real name.
I don't think anyone who knows me will have trouble figuring out who that is!


I have been gone a while dealing with things in my own life. I am back now to help once again. Do not expect answers from me that just tell you what you want to hear. Life is to short for nonsense. :)
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So I have the worst stomache in the history of man. Now, thinking back to elementary school, the Nurse always recommended a saltine cracker or two. QUESTION IS: WHY was that? Was is something SPECIFIC about the CRACKER? And is there any other food the average household stocks that can beat this intense pain? I will be soo thankful of helpful answers - this pain is sooo bad it could ultimately take my life. =/ gr. (link)
You are less likely to throw up something bland like crackers, yet it puts something on your stomach. Dry old toast works the same. I'm a little late with the answer, hope your still alive this morning. :)


Well I am pretty short for my age. My parents say that if I sleep a lot I will grow. I am a night person, meaning I will go to sleep at 3 or 4 and wake up around 12 or so, and that's on a light day. Now that it's summer I will be going to sleep a lot later, but I will be getting more sleep because I'm gonna be sleeping in and stuff. So, do you think I can grow if I continue to sleep an average of 12 hours most of the time? And if sleeping and growth have no relation, what else can I do? I eat healthy, by the way. (link)
Know what? I used to tell my kids that so they'd go to bed. You will grow regardless of how much you sleep, though I'm sure it helps a little. Eat right, get plenty of exercise. You will do fine my fellow night owl. :)


okay well i got my period on friday, and i'm going swimming like saturday or sunday probably. my period lasted a week last time i got it and that was the first time. so should i be worried? because i know if i use a tampon there probably wouldn't be enough blood or whatever.. and can't that cause tss? i'm just scared if it will happen in the pool or something

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No don't be worried. If your still having it, it will be pretty light by then. You get Toxic shock Syndrome from leaving a tampon in to long...Anything over 8 hrs is much to long. In all honesty, having worked in the medical field I can tell you that most cases of TSS happen to those who put in a tampon and then just totally forget its in there. I never could quite understand how a person could do that...but it happens more often than you would believe. So, tampons are perfectly safe so long as you remember they are in there! :)


I am an 18 year old girl who has been with the same boyfriend for 2 years and things haven't been great from the start.Now things are really boring and we do the same things week after week and we have no sex life at all.A couple of months ago I met a guy that works at the local pub and sing with him all the time and we get on really well.He is leaving the job now to free up his weekends and agreed to come out on a night out with me and swapped numbers.Now I can get him out of my head and don't know whether to make a go with my current boyfriend or try and get to know this other guy. What should I do? (link)
You know I hate to say it but if your relationship hasn't been earth shattering from the beginning you are basically wasting your time with the current boyfriend. I think its time for a change. I think the current relationship is more of a habit than anything else. Break the habit and try the new guy out. But, you knew that already didn't you. :)


my gf Sandy and I are close..in her point of veiw. I dont like Sandy at all. But Sandy REALLY likes me. People want me to kiss her..but i dont want to.I just want to be friends. Besides..my friend Jack likes Sandy i think..so Jack gets mad at me. and if i break up with Sandy people might get mad at me. But i really want to break up with Sandy. Its hard to break up with her to.. because we talk on the phone all day and stuff. I really dont like her. (link)
You need to break up. I think you just tell her that you like her as a friend but you see her as more like a sister than a girlfriend. It will hurt her feelings but there is no way to avoid that. Have Jack ask her out soon and it will help her get over you and all that.

People shouldn't get mad at you if you break up. If they do then they aren't very good friends anyway. You have to do what is best for you not what pleases everyone else. :)


Ok I have a problem I'm currently going out with this guy *lets call him bob* and I really like him, but the thing is that he has dumped me many times before but this time he says that he really likes me. Now there is this other guy *jeff* and hes pretty hott but I haven't ever gone out with him before and It's the summer so I could go to the beach with Bob and i don't know what I would do with Jeff but I don't know who to choose!


PLease help me I'll rate you a 5 for a good answer please (link)
I think either or maybe even both. I'd have to wonder if Bob really trusts you though since rumors have broke you up not just once but many times before. If he doesn't trust you...won't work this time either.

You do the same things with Jeff as you do with Bob. IF you choose him. :)


this might sound really bad but how do you get a boy to break up with his girlfriend. i like this boy a lot and i really think he would like me if he broke up with this other girl. what can i do to make him break and get him with me? please help!!!!! i rate high for anything! (link)
Since you don't know how hes going to react to that kind of thing I don't think it is a wise move. Much better to just get to know how the way things are. If things don't work out for him and his current girlfriend THEN you can move in on him, but not until then. He may not like you at all if he found you were sabotaging his current relationship so try for a friendship instead. :)


this guy i recently broke up with wont leave me alone. he is making me feel really bad for him like saying without me he feels like there is no point to living. also he is constantly asking me out but i keep saying no. why wont this guy give up. someone please help me get this boy to leave me alone!!! (link)
You may just have to get nasty with him. It can be difficult to do if you aren't nasty by nature but I think its the only way hes gonna get the message. Sounds kind of dense. :)


I got a call from my ex-boyfriend last week and he wanted me to meet up with him at a local coffee shop. I told my boyfriend about it and he told me to go. So, I went and met him. When I got there he had a dozen roses waiting for me and as I sat down he got on his knee and told me that he loves me still and never stoped loving me. I told him that I had a boyfriend and all. I don't know what to do. My boyfriend has been acting like he doesn't know me, because my ex called and asked for my answer and asked me to move in with him when my boyfriend was with me because I still haven't answered him and he's getting a new apartment. What should I do? (link)
Sounds like you have some heavy thinking to do.
Your going to have to decide which guy is best for you. Why did you and the ex break up? Has there been any major changes that make you feel it will work this time around? If not then no sense starting it all up again. The roses and all that were a nice touch but will they continue once he has your undivided attention?

Sounds like the guy you are dating now trusted you enough to let you meet with the ex. Give him a few points for that. I think all this may have blind sided the poor guy.

I guess you need to get out pencil and paper and do the old reasons it would be good and reasons it would be bad columns. Do it on both guys and then you will have something to work with. You are the one who will have to make this decision. Take some time to do some real soul searching and you will come up with the right answer. :)


I'm having a really hard time looking for a job. I applied to all the really good jobs that I like. And they said they would call, but they don't. Then my cousin got a job and said that she called them back. And she got an interview and got a job. Now I'm job-less. I did what she did, and they said that either their manager was on vacation or they're not hiring right now. Why can't I get an interview? I'm still applying and I made sure that my handwriting and answers on the application was acceptable. Does anybody have any tips on how I could get a good job? (link)
It is really tough to find a job at this time of year. Every teen and college student is out there looking. If you don't find anything you might want to try volunteer work. It will help you to meet people who can help you get a job in the future. Looks great on a resume. And if it is something you enjoy it may give you heads up on a future career. A great place to look for a job is a hospital. They have everything from cafeteria work, transporting people to and from places in wheelchairs... just about anything you can think of. Most have volunteer programs to if you should be interested. :)


ok im 15 and sometimes i feel like my boyfriend wants me to do more than just making out. But i dont think im ready and i dont want to yet. We've been together for 6 months and some people say thats a long time. But what should i do? is it bad for me to be 15 and not wanna do anything yet? is 6 months along time?

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There is no time limit on when you will feel ready. You take as much time as you want. It may not even be with this particular guy...even if you date him for years. You will know when you are ready. Don't be pushed to do something you aren't ready for. :)


ok i don't know why i feel so angry my x b f who was very rich had a party! Something my friend called a health party i personally think he had it to show off. I am really angry because he never invited me i really don't know why i am angry!! I think its because he once told me i was his bestfriend.He invited my friend because he goes to her school and i heard he invited 4 boys who are also rich and my friend said the 4 boys don't like him.Am i correct to feel angry i now think i hate him because i was always there for him and he was never there for me.What shall i do now? (link)
Being angry won't do you much good. I think if you want to be just friends with your ex then you need to talk to him about it and see what he thinks of the idea. :)


OK this might sound a little strange but i think my boyfriend is bi. I want to dump him but i don't know if i should or not though. I think he's bi because he acts gay and when we started going out he said he was really glad we're going out because before he thought he was gay. And he just acts like a girl. PLZ help me i don't know if i should dump him or not. What do you think i should do? (link)
If you like being with him then you stay his girlfriend. If you have a problem with the way he acts then break up and find someone else. :)


This week, I'm going to the movie with a bunch of my friends. It'll be 2 of my friends & their boyfriends & me & my guyfriend. We haven't known eachother that long & everyone says we're a relationship in the making. When all my friends are making out, people say that we'll just end up doing it too because we won't be able to help ourselves. Is that true? If so, what should I do? Go along with it?

xO* fAith (link)
You simply don't do anything you don't want to do. Just go and have fun. :)


im having major problems.. cuz like i cant really tell what i feel for this one gu. ive known him for a long time and ive always kinda had a thing for him but were realllllly great friends so i cant tell whether i just love him as a brother or like more than that.. usually this wouldnt be a problem only then yesterday he asked me out and i said yea. so now i feel like, what the heck what if i dont really like him? and then theres another problem. i also like this other guy, ryan but he is friends w. my ex so then that would never happen.. so i just need to know. what should i do about the guy that asked me out ((nolan)) and what should i do about ryan? i rate high if u give good advice :)





----Jen (link)
If you like Nolan then go out with him and see what its like. Don't worry about it. If you don't feel like its more than friendship then at the end of the date just tell him that you feel like he is more like a brother than a boyfriend and just remain friends.

Just because Ryan is a friend of your ex doesn't mean you can't date him. They may have some things in common but they are two different people. You shouldn't care weather or not your ex likes it either. If he wanted you he should have kept you. Don't let all that stop you from going out with someone you like. :)


okay well... i really like this kid.. and he owns a campsite right next to me.. he sold it.. but i got down there right in time.. and wrote my number on a piece of paper and stuck it on the door... was that a good move? or is it kind of obsessing.. and i told him to call right away.. and i dont' know if he's gonna call or not.. he was supposed to call last saturday.. and he didin't.. and im really bummed...

so i guess my question is.. did i do the right thing.. by putting my number on his door.. and how do i try to get over him if he doesn't call.. because i really incredibly like him.. like i never liked someone like this in my whole life.. (link)
It is possible that he didn't get the note. One of his parents or someone could have got it and thrown it away. I don't think it was a wrong thing to do but, you ran the risk of him not getting it.

If he doesn't call then you will just have to find someone else to like. It will be hard but you will get over him one day when you find someone else. :)


what do guys like better: a hard to get kind of girl... or like one that leads them on? thanks.. (link)
I think most guys just want someone honest and nice. I don't know why they would like someone who lead them on OR one who played hard to get.
Most people just don't want to play games like that. BUT, I'm not a guy so I could be wrong. :)


I work part time at a Baptist church and like, and am liked by, all the members and pastor. I do babysitting and custodial. They have not pressured me to become a member, but they often invite me to sit in on their bible study and church service, if there are no children. I have sat in on only one service and frequently must sit in on the bible studies, which fly in the face of my own beliefs. I just sit there and smile politely. Recently, I was babysitting in the nursery and they brought around their Baptist Lord's Supper for me to partake. I said 'No thank you,' because I am Catholic. To me, their 'communion' is a farce. I think the pastor, although friendly, suggested the 'communion' be brought to me; he is a former Catholic, now a Baptist minister, and I think it secretly perturbs him that I do not wish to follow in his footsteps. How can I politely but firmly discourage such practice? Saying no thank you seems to have no effect!
I am 57 and female. (link)
I think I might talk to the minister and let him know what you are feeling. It is possible that they are just being friendly since they seem to like you. :)


i just wantded to try liquid eyeliner cuz ppl said it doesnt run or smear like pencil.. can someone explain how to use it? (link)
You use it just the same as you would the pencil kind. You just have a little brush instead of a pencil. It is darker and goes on a lot easier too. :)


Is it normal for sunburns to itch? I was just wondering because I got burnt on my lower back, my upper arms, and my chest, and lately they've been itchin a whole lot. Last night I had to take benadryl (sp?) just to fall asleep, also I think I burnt my thighs too because they itch like mad.

Do you think the sunburn in the reason that I'm so friggin itchy? If not, what do you think is? And either way, how can I stop the itching???? Or is benadryl (sp?) the only way.
I know this is a weird question, but the itching just won't go away. Thanks in advance. (link)
It sure can. I don't know why it does but it can make you itch like crazy. Benadryl will work or you can use any body lotion and that will help for a while too. :)




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