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My good friend is having a pool party tomorrow and she invited many people to go. One of the people going is her boyfriend. I don't think I have ever hated anyone more than I hate her boyfriend. He treats me like shit, he treats HER like shit and they honestly make me sick when I see them together. I originally wasn't going to go because of the fact that he was going to be there, but then my friend Cara convinced me to go as well as my boyfriend. I made the decision not to go because I don't want to start anything with them. I know everyone is going to be there to have a good time, and I want to have fun but I CANNOT have fun if he is near me. I can't even begin to describe how much I loathe her boyfriend. I sort of feel bad that I'm not going but I know I'm making the right choice in staying home because I don't want to ruine it for anyone else just because I'm going to be misterable. But my question is, do you think I should go anyway? She really wanted me to go but I seriously will not be able to keep my anger inside if I see them together. (link)
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If you will wind up making all around you miserable then you did right by deciding to stay home. You will only make people mad at you if you go the party and start in on her boyfriend. :)
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OMG! I don't have any friends anymore all the guys at my school hate me and my "friends" don't even talk to me. No one talks to me. and no i'm not a "loser". I had "friends" but they keep discludeing me! HELP?! (link)
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I think you need to go to them and see what the deal is. Why would everyone just suddenly not like you? Maybe you are doing something you don't realize you are doing. You need to ask one of them. :)
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Okay, I'm 14 years old, a male, and I am a homosexual FYI. I lived with my mom until her drug problems escaladed and I had to move with my grandparents. During that time, I became friends with this guy who I am friends with but am totally not attracted to whatsoever. I stayed there for a few months and we signed up for summer P.E. together and everything was going good. Then, I moved with my mom again and I became friends with this other guy who I am totally attracted to and I guess that kinda boosts his personality. I ended up blowing my other friend off and dropped out of summer P.E. to be with the guy I like/love or whatever. Is it bad I kinda ditched my best friend even though its my life and I should be able to do what I want and if this other guy makes me happy that should be the only thing that matters right? Anyways, my summer P.E. friend calls and says I blew him off to be with Ronnie and smoke drugs which isn't entirely false and he hangs up on me. Is it bad that I did this and what should I do now. Also, remember its too late to sign back up for summer P.E. and its also nice to know my summer P.E. friend is a republican and doesn't know I'm gay or anything like that. Please help me out of this bind. (link)
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Yes , I think its kinda bad. Just because you found a guy you are attracted to doesn't mean you don't need other friends too. Not every male in your life is going to be homosexual nor all your relationships. I think you should apologize to the young republican and be friends with him. Friendship is based on having a good time together and not attraction sexually. So, if you found him to be a good friend then I think you need to try and renew the friendship. If you think he will have a problem with your being gay then keep it to yourself until you feel you can trust him with the info. :)
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i have two friends and one of these friends i like much more than the other. the friend i like more is called "rosie" and the friend that im not fond of is called "mary". so mary is really boring and not very social, im only friends with her through rosie. when im with both rosie and mary mary kind of shuts down and it looks as if she is very uncomfortable. i dont want to her to feel uncomfortable anymore. we dont really have a lot of stuff in common. what are some things that i can do to make mary feel more comfortable around rosie and me? thanks so much. i rate. (link)
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Ask her about it. Tell her you have noticed that she doesn't seem to enjoy herself when all 3 of you hang out. Ask her what you can do to make her more comfortable. Its the only way you'll know for sure! :)
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Well my friend invited me to her party shes having, and I told her I could go but now I really don't want too. There like renting the Excercist and I REALLY REALLY do not wanna watch that. I told my parents and they said just tell her you don't want to watch it...well my friend Carina would make me watch it and everyone else wants to and her dad would make me watch it too. And I like hate the one girl she invited and the other one is okay and the girl who I'm actually friends with can't go. And if I tell her honestly why I don't want to go she'll get mad at me(yes stupid i know). I don't know what I should tell her sooo could someone please tell me what to say? (link)
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Just tell her you can't go because you really don't like horror movies. You don't have to tell her it gives you the creeps or anything, just that you don't like them. Then stay home and watch a good movie that you like. I remember seeing that one when I was in school. It is pretty intense if you scare easily. :)
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Well my mom ALWAYS calls me a whore and a slut i dont know what to do about it. My dad wont talk so i dont know how he feels and it drives me crazy when she calls me that. I always wonder...well what if I really am...but no one at school thinks I am. Why is my mom doing this to me and do you have any ideas on what I can do to stop it??
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I think you need to ask her why it is she insists on calling you those names. Tell her you aren't either and you'd really appreciate it if she would stop calling you that. You might add it doesn't say much for her parenting if she truly believes that. If she doesn't stop then ignore it. That's all you can do. I do think you should tell your dad how much it bothers you. Maybe he could do something about it. :)
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OKay, well this might be quite odd, but you see I been with this guy for about 4 years, then we broke up b/c our parents starting talking and eventually dating, NOW their getting married. Both of our parents know we dated before, but they think its over, but...its been over, but we still "fool around" if you know what i mean once and a while. I mean, this is the guy that taught me like everything and what i know today is because of him.So anyway, he's coming up aoon for the wedding next week and he wants to ...you no before we are "offically" brother and sister..So should i do some things and have a bit of fun or would it be wrong? (link)
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Personally, I don't think you should simply because I think the whole friends with benefits things is a stupid thing to do. If you don't care enough about each other to date then I don't think anything should happen beyond talking. You can do what you want of course, since no matter what happens you are not really related to each other. Plus you did have a relationship before your parents started dating.
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ive been talking with a guy for a little over 5 months. im definilty ready to date him but he says he won't date me becuase a few of his friends would diaprove because of the 2 years age difference. i think if he really likes me then hell date me anyway. i know i should probably give up on him but i like him a lot and we've gotten really close overtime. it would be hard to get over him because some of his friends are mine also. what should i do? (link)
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I think that his not dating you because of something his friends say is just an excuse. He is probably trying not to hurt your feelings. I think you should remain friends and find someone else to date. Maybe things will be different in the future. For now he is either making up excuses or is just to immature to do his own thinking. :)
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Ok well my boyfriends sister is like doing alot of things and starting to become famous and he has to do alot of traveling with her i dont know if anyones ever heard of her but her name is Ansley Carter shes so amazing at singing country music anyways i hate it when my boyfriends away and We dont get to see or call each other and i really dont like relationship like that are long distants so do you think things will get better between us or should i just end our relationship now because i dont want it to be long distance
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If you don't want to have a long distance romance then it may be best to end it now and remain friends. You will want to attend school dances and all that and he won't be able to take you if he is not there. You can always get back together in the future if he comes back to stay. :)
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im 14 and i go to a highschool in plano texas ,
my case is a little bit different i suppose
my shrink diagnosed me with a mild-severe social paranoia meening i afriad everyone is always judgeing me and watching me , like im some zoo animal, even if sum1 isnt around.
iv also got mild social axiety bah like i know what that means for sure
i have "hyper-hydrosis" wich is a condition i was born with where my hands are always moist wich makes it wierd to hold hands with girls
iv liked this girl since she moved to the school, shes always been reay nice to me and iv always been nice to her, just recently iv been realy wanting to be in a relationship with this girl but i cant bring myself to ask her out in fear that she would say no in fear that i might make an attempt on my life (this is i guess social anxiety?) , i dont think she even knos i like her and she doesnt seem to even realy i know i exist sometimes
she tells me about all the guys that she likes and that realy hurts my feelings becuas im not the tallest (at 5'1" im far from it) im not the fit-est or the most handsome , i have acne and a steryotypical "Jewish Nose" wich many predjudists remind me often about.
i just cant help but feel that she wont accept my offer to start a relationship
this girl is truely beutiful in every sense of the word ,in class since i sit behind her i just stare at the back of her head and go off into "lala land"
on several times iv tried inviting her to movies or something but she always seems to have something else to do
any and all help wud be most appreciated
if u want to talk to me just chilling and stuff y AIM is forty5calpsyco
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Its just a fact that some of the girls you ask out in your lifetime are going to say no. Some will say yes though. If you want to ask her out you just have to take that chance. Since you seem to be pretty good friends why don't you just ask? If she says no then at least you still have a good friend. Tell her how you feel about her too instead of just simply asking her to a movie.
Have you asked your shrink how to approach the situation? Since you are seeing one I think it would be a good question to ask him/her about. Good luck! :)
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13/f i broke up with my bf for numerous reason. one being that i like someone else ((still do)). well 2 days after i broke up with him he asked me out again. i said i would get back to him since i still like him and all but theres this other guy! he kept asking me! last night he asked me again and he forced me to give him an answer so i said yes but i REALLY REALLY dont want to go out with him. i thought of all the pros and cons nd there are MUCH MUCH MUCH more cons! im in deep crap! plus its the summer, so i want to brake up w/ him for that too. HELP ME!!!! IM IN DESPRITE NEED!!!!! :( (link)
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If you don't want to go out with him again then you have to say NO and stick to it. If it means getting nasty with him about it to get the message across then that is what you have to do.
You really need to learn to say NO. What are you going to do when some guy wants to pressure you into having sex if you can't say no to badgering about going on a date? Get tough girl! :)
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I have a best friend, and we have always had each backs..But, she got this boyfriend, that she had a crush on for a long time. I didnt like him, when she was crushing on him, but now that i really know him...i really really like him. I've been flirting alot with him..and kidding around with him. I wanna know, if there is anyway i can tell him? OR at least tell my bff, without her over-reacting.HELP! (link)
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I think if you say anything to her about it she is gonna really go off on you about it. I don't think you should say anything to him either. If you have your heart set on this guy you will have to wait until they are no longer an item. Even then I think you need to let a little time pass first. If you say anything right now I think you will lose your friend. Is a guy really worth all that? You probably just like him right now because he is around so much. Maybe you should find yourself a guy to go after other than him. :)
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Hey~
me and my boyfriend been dateing 1 year and 2mouths and every thing is going good i love about him but he talk abut geting marryed 1 day and i am a teenager i am not ready to talk about that yet what should i do thank you
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Just tell him you aren't ready to think that far ahead yet. He will probably understand. Sounds like you have been together a long time. I think he is just comfortable enough around you that he feels like talking about those things. But, you just tell you aren't ready for that yet. :)
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ok well last year in 7th grade was the most roughest time ever i could think of!! i was so liked at the begining of the year and people started making rumors up about me and i lost almost every friend....i also got beat up once well i didnt get beat up thats what everybody says i just got in a fight ok and i am just having such a miserable summer bc thats all i ever think about is next year how im not going to have any friends to be with and where im going to sit for lunch and all that ughh i dont know what to do and all my mom says is "i dont know what to tell you" all im really worried about it one person bc she was friends with all the 8th graders and all the 6th graders and shes mean to me and hates me and she could prolly get everybody else to hate me and shes tall and is friends with all the popular people and shes not afriad to come in my face and say crap to me [ITS HAPPEND BEFORE] =[ it just started out i was hanging out with the popular people at the beegining of the year [ i guess thats what i wanteed the most ] and i dont know what happend but they all started hearing roomers and crap and yeah i started to get bad grades and i almost failed 7th grade and all this crap ughhh im not sure if god made all them hate me for a reason? im just so confused=/ somebody please help me ive been going through this forever and i really really need some help please =(
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You need to find someone to be friends with just because you have common interests and can have fun together. Forget trying to fit in with the "popular" crowd. It rarely works. By the time summer is over and you go back to school, a lot of what happened this past year will be forgotten. Just make some new friends over the summer and you will have friends in the new school year. Try looking at the person and not who else they hang out with. I think you will find yourself being a lot happier. :)
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I really like this guy and he likes me to considering that he's like always kissing me(I try to block them but can't) and hugging me(Hugging is okay) and grabbing my boobs(That I hate!). But he likes my best friend too and he wont chooses. see my friend is not living at home so He and I never get too see her but we talk on msn the odd time to her and This guy wont choose between us...like I don't know how this guy can like my friend she is a really BIG TIME SLUT/HORE!!!!!She's already screwed a guy and he still likes her. He really needs to choose cuz I am dieing her and Not Talking To Him Is Like Not Breathing.....It's Impossible Not To Talk To Him...I Have Known him since i was 5 and liked him since I was 7....He has nown her 9 mouths what the heck should I do:')Plz help i am really sad
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If you don't like the way you are being groped by this clown then stay away from him. Sounds like a slut/whore is just what hes looking for. Let him look somewhere else. :)
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My husband cheated on me and left me for 4 weeks, now he has come back and I'm trying to get past this, but I feel so betrayed and cant stop thinking about them together. I think I still love him and want us to work out, he tells me he loves me and he made a mistake. I thought we were close. The sex has been great since he came back, but I just dont think I can move on. Any advice would be greatfully received. (link)
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If you really want your relationship to work you have to get past it. He cheated you were hurt but he did come back. That can only mean that he has realized how very much he loves you and wasn't willing to give that up. It is a start over point. He loves you and you know he does or he would have stayed away. Right? Your relationship can now be stronger than ever because you had a MAJOR setback and you survived it with your marriage intact. Work on being honest with each other. Do not bring it up in fights, do not make mention of it at all. Look to the future not at the past. You can move on. It isn't going to happen over night but you can do it. Work on getting the "think" out of the I think I still love him sentence. Know it and treat him accordingly. Good luck :)
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my bf and i have been going out for almost 2 yrs and i luv him to death. i cant wait to be w/ him n im never going to dump him so dont suggest that. but lately hes been sayin he'll hang out w/ me but then he ditches me for his otha friends n they're mad far away so i never get to talk to him at all. i hate it when he does it but he makes it seem like its no biggie. he doesnt know how i feel n when i talk to him he never understands. plus he does drugs when hes there, or atleast he did. n he wonders y i hate him goin there. i dunno what to do. i want to stop gettin all upset when he does this but i cant n i dunno what to do if theres anythin i can do. wheneva he says hes goin there i get all quiet n je just started noticin that i get upset. n he gets mad at me cuz of it. i dunno what to say so he gets how i feel and how i dont like him goin there but i want him to be happy at the same time so i neva say nothin. please help. i really need it. thanks. (link)
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Of course you get upset! Every time he hangs out with those friends who use drugs he is jeapordizing your future with him. He could get thrown in jail if caught. He could get in an accident if he uses. He is making you take a back seat to all those things. That isn't good. I know you want to save your relationship but, unless you are willing to sit and wait while he goes and hangs out with those who could help get him in trouble I don't know what to say. You need to make him see that you should be more important than that to him. If he is using drugs he may not be able to see that. I wish you luck with it and hope that if you can't make him see, you are strong enough to look for one more deserving of your love. :)
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Please don't judge me on this, I'm not nearly as materialistic as I sound here.
Here's the short version:
Last Valentine's day, my guy gave me this really pretty antique ring. This past August, he basically proposed, but didn't have enough money for a real engagement ring or promise ring, etc. He's been working like crazy in general, earning like seven bucks an hour, so I know he has some amount of money.
Is there a way to hint to him that I want a "real" ring before we go to college? I want to be able to flash it in case any guys get any ideas...
He knows my ring size now, and I know his, so theoretically we could buy each other rings.
But how do I suggest this without seeming...I dunno...like "Buy me things!"
'Cause I mean maybe as stupid as it is, I do want a real promise ring. The ring he gave me is starting to tarnish, and it doesn't quite fit on my finger.
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Guys don't traditionally wear promise rings but, if hes willing I don't see why not. Have you seen the necklace with the heart in 2 halves...each wears a half? Those are nice too, though probably not as "flashy" as a ring!
I think you need to express your concerns about being away at college to him. Get his thoughts on the whole thing. I think if you agree on a ring it would be affordable if you just got something real simple. Just tell him you want other guys to have no doubts that you are spoken for already and I doubt he'll have a problem with it. :)
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Yeah, so my guy and I have been together for almost 20 months, and he proposed awhile back.
The thing is, about a month ago we had a big fight over something INCREDIBLY stupid and almost broke up before realizing that it was completely fixable, and that we'd both be miserable without each other. So really, we never broke up...but I want to know if we're still engaged. It's getting close to a year since he proposed. Should I just randomly do something like "You remember what you asked me a year ago today?"
I mean, he still talks about our relationship as if it'll never end, so I think he still feels the same way. I know he still loves me (if anything, he seems to love me more, and I love him)
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I think it would be okay for you to ask. Just a simple are we engaged or were you just kidding about that would probably work! You can ask any way you like but, you should ask. Maybe you could start talking about what the future has in store for you both...it should naturally come up in that conversation don't you think?
Everyone has bad spots in their relationship at times. I think the fact that you overcame a possible break up says a lot for the strength of your relationship. I wish you both well for the future. :)
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okay.. Im 15 years old. I gave head to my boyfriend about a week ago. As far as I know nothing is wrong with him as far STDs go or anything. He totally didnt pressure this upon me.. but.. i just have to ask..
I woke up kinda quivery from taking a nap in the afternoon just yesterday. It went away after I got some rest and hasnt came back... but Im adding this just in case its a symptom of some sort.
I have no soars in my mouth.. and as far as I know no pains down around my genitals, but for the past few days.. whenever I try to masturbate it feels like it STARTS to work.. but it doesnt end up feeling well at all. I mean it doesnt hurt AT ALL.. it just doesnt pleasure me. Is this normal?
It just is scaring me. Like I have no clue if anything is wrong with me. Im really scared too, can somebody just please help? We didnt use a condom even though it wasnt sex.. I know I should have but like.. nothing is wrong with him hes supposedly healthy but is there anything I should look out for?
please help.. any help especially if you have had experience will be greatly appreciated. (link)
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That isn't an STD symptom you just aren't relaxed or something.
FYI there are STDs that have absolutely NO symptoms until they are very advanced. So that is the reason for condoms. Not saying you have any at all just giving you some info you must not know already. :)
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