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Well my mom ALWAYS calls me a whore and a slut i dont know what to do about it. My dad wont talk so i dont know how he feels and it drives me crazy when she calls me that. I always wonder...well what if I really am...but no one at school thinks I am. Why is my mom doing this to me and do you have any ideas on what I can do to stop it??
thanks
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Sometimes parents can put their kids down because they are jealous of them. Believe it or not, it happens. Your mom could be calling you those things because she's jealous of how good of a kid you are. If you've done more good things and achieved more goals then your mom did when she was your age, she could be putting you down so she doesn't have to feel insecure or maybe even stupid. I know it sounds dumb, but it happened to my older brother and my dad. It's really sad, but there are ways to get through it. I'm going to mention counseling, cuz its the most effective thing i can think of right now. My advise isn't that hot on this one, and i'm not positive that what i said is right. But I hope I helped you at least a little bit. :-
Taylor <3
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I think you need to ask her why it is she insists on calling you those names. Tell her you aren't either and you'd really appreciate it if she would stop calling you that. You might add it doesn't say much for her parenting if she truly believes that. If she doesn't stop then ignore it. That's all you can do. I do think you should tell your dad how much it bothers you. Maybe he could do something about it. :)
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Holy shit... youR Mom seems like a complete ignoRant bitch, and I would have heR dealt with if she weRe *MY* Mom!!! TheRe's absolutely NOO excuse foR heR Rude behavioR. And why youR Dad just sits theRe and allows it is BEYOND me; but that's a diffeRent stoRy.
If I weRe in youR shoes I would get aRound this all by agReeing with heR. Like, she would make a nasty uncalled foR RemaRk, and I'd say something like, "Yeeeeeeeeeppppp!!!!!!" oR, "Sure AM!!", ya know?? But maybe that's just me???
You see, I think once she notices it's lost it's affect and it no longeR botheRs you, she won't see a Reason to do it anymoRe. Honestly, many times it's difficult to change someone's peRsonal opinion of you, so just don't sweat it. People aRe going to think what they want all day long REGARDLESS, ya know??? You REALLY shouldn't let it upset you; as long as YOU know who YOU aRe and YOU'RE okay, then that's ALLLLLLLL that matteRs!!!!
Hopefully I have been SOME soRt of help heRe. Know that I am always, always, always heRe if you'Re eveR in need of a second opinion. ♥
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well my mom is kinda like that... instead of callin me names she worries about where my pants fall and stuff. well anyway i would just talk to your mom and kind of comprimise. tell her at school everyone is fine, then she can tell you why she calls you that. then hopefully there will be peace with you and your mom. hope i helped!
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Look, I am a mom, I have two teenage boys. I would never talk to them, or daughters if I had them, or my son's girlfriends like that. Your mom needs her head examined. She is the one with the problem. YOu should know whether or not you are promiscuous. You don't need her to tell you. If she has a problem with your behavior, than she should find a much better way to tell you. I'll bet that is how her mother spoke to her. ALso I think your mom may have behaved badly when she was young, and thinks that doing this will prevent you from behaving that way. Of course, it does not work that way. It only drives a wedge between the two of you, and she should be the person that you should be going to with questions about sex. I know you are thinking "NO WAY", but that is because she raised you that way. Many girls and boys have a trusting realtionship with their parents and can go to them about anything. My boys came to me. I trust them completely. To be responsible. They know the consequences of getting involved in sex, or drugs or alcohol. We don't scream and yell at each other, we talk. I am sorry that you have to go through this. I wish all parents had to take lessons on how to show respect to their kids. So many of them don't understand, respect goes both ways. Parents usually violate it first, because they can.
Sorry for your troubles.
Michele
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i dont know you, but your probably not really a slut or a whore. Its a problem your mom is having and you might want to get her some kind of help, somehow. it might be hard for her to listen to you, but u have to talk to her and either work it out 2gether or take her to therapy or something -- thats just wrong -- hope this helps x0x
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well i guess the story might be diffent from you and your mom, but if you think you are dressed conservative and such...
then you should talk to her. why is she doing that? i mean even if you DO dress like that, she shouldnt call you that, i mean for being a mother is being RESPECTIVE and COMFORTATIVE towards her child... so you should talk to her ...
and if she just keeps doing that, and such, talk to a trustworthy adult and tell that person what's bothering you and stuff. they will be more than glad to help you
and KEEP YOUR HEADS UP!!!!
Mother or not! you shouldnt be called like THAT!
GIRL YOU DESERVE SO MUCH BETTER THAN THAT!!
so if you need some one to talk to, email me or what ever you want to to!
and hope it works out
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your mom should not be saying things like that for no reason...maybe she doesnt like when you wear a lot of make up or slutty clothes...my mom says it when i wear too much eyeliner and stuff liket that. tell her that you havent done anything...it could just be that she wants to prevent people thinking that of you or she has issues from when she was a teenager. dont take it to heart, im sure most of it comes from her own insecurities. <3
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