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Gimme a ring...
Please don't judge me on this, I'm not nearly as materialistic as I sound here.
Here's the short version:
Last Valentine's day, my guy gave me this really pretty antique ring. This past August, he basically proposed, but didn't have enough money for a real engagement ring or promise ring, etc. He's been working like crazy in general, earning like seven bucks an hour, so I know he has some amount of money.
Is there a way to hint to him that I want a "real" ring before we go to college? I want to be able to flash it in case any guys get any ideas...
He knows my ring size now, and I know his, so theoretically we could buy each other rings.
But how do I suggest this without seeming...I dunno...like "Buy me things!"
'Cause I mean maybe as stupid as it is, I do want a real promise ring. The ring he gave me is starting to tarnish, and it doesn't quite fit on my finger.
Thanks in advance =)
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I sooo think you should be like "Baby, I want to get you a promise ring & I thought it'd be kinda coll if we went together & bought matching ones." Or something of that nature. Just explain to him the situation like you did here. Just be like, "Well, it's not that i dont trust you & I dont want other guys hitting on me because I love you & you're the only one for me." Or something but I think you should tell him & if he loves you, he'll understand & buy you the ring.
Best wishes,
Stephanie
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well as it sounds, hes working really really hard trying to earn you the ring. Hes obviously doing the best he can. maybe by hinting you can just say i think we should both get rings. so then people will think we are married and will not get any ideas. its not that i dont trust you, but i dont trust everyone ELSE .. i hope i helped your situation
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The funny thing is after i sat hwere and ready your question you should just like me.. My boyfriend gave me a promise ring though and i was thinking about going out and getting him one to because like you said its not that we dont trust them its just that we dont trust other girls and i feel the same way you do. If you guys ever go to like the ring store or the mall were they sell rings be like "oh i like this ring or this would be a pretty engagment ring" just drop little hints .. So it doesnt sound like your saying buy me this buy me that.Or you can go out and buy him a ring and tell him the one he got you is falling apart.. Hope things work out.. Rate me
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Guys don't traditionally wear promise rings but, if hes willing I don't see why not. Have you seen the necklace with the heart in 2 halves...each wears a half? Those are nice too, though probably not as "flashy" as a ring!
I think you need to express your concerns about being away at college to him. Get his thoughts on the whole thing. I think if you agree on a ring it would be affordable if you just got something real simple. Just tell him you want other guys to have no doubts that you are spoken for already and I doubt he'll have a problem with it. :)
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You never know. He might be saving up money for a ring. ;)
I'm not sure about you wanting it to flash it to guys 'In case they get any ideas.' It seems you could just show them your antique ring. Infact, in his mind, your antique ring probably 'is' a promise ring (assuming ya'll are promised. We guys often don't understand the whole ring and wedding buisness.
I great way to bring it up would be to say, "We ought to start looking for promise rings for each other." This will tell him you are looking for one for him and you are wanting another ring as well.
Hope this helps.
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