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My husband cheated
My husband cheated on me and left me for 4 weeks, now he has come back and I'm trying to get past this, but I feel so betrayed and cant stop thinking about them together. I think I still love him and want us to work out, he tells me he loves me and he made a mistake. I thought we were close. The sex has been great since he came back, but I just dont think I can move on. Any advice would be greatfully received.
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well you should talk to him and put all feelings down on the table.he hurt you and its never going to be the same between yall and keep in mind once a cheater always a cheater. also remember love is blind.
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like my mother always told me and her mother before her. men dont change. if he thinks he can get away with it once he will do it again. he thinks that you will let if go by and pretend it didnt happen but thats the thing it did happen. i think that you should just seperate, not divorse. you think about what i am saying. think about what he said. think about whatever just promise that you will try to understand what i am saying and try to realize what i meant. this will be hard but you have good friends and they always got your back. so go with waht you think you should do be it listen to me or listen to some other person who gives you advice fallow what you tink should happen and if you realize you dont love him the same thenn thats that and if you realize you love him just as much then thats fine too. do what you think you should do..
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If you really want your relationship to work you have to get past it. He cheated you were hurt but he did come back. That can only mean that he has realized how very much he loves you and wasn't willing to give that up. It is a start over point. He loves you and you know he does or he would have stayed away. Right? Your relationship can now be stronger than ever because you had a MAJOR setback and you survived it with your marriage intact. Work on being honest with each other. Do not bring it up in fights, do not make mention of it at all. Look to the future not at the past. You can move on. It isn't going to happen over night but you can do it. Work on getting the "think" out of the I think I still love him sentence. Know it and treat him accordingly. Good luck :)
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Personally its anyone's first impression after being cheated on to think that the guy will do it again and that they are untrustworthy, but it all depends on how well you know the guy and the circumstances surrounding it. How long were you guys together? What was his reason for cheating? Do you really trust that he won't cheat again? Trust is going to be the biggest problem in your relationship from now on, so if you want to keep continuing being with him then you need to break that barrier so that it doesn't linger. I suggest going to a councelor about this to figure out the underlying problems in your relationship and how to rebuild that trust. I have been cheated on and I never would have taken the guy back, but when your married its a whole lot different. There's a whole lot more commitment and sometimes that scares guys and they want to remember life when they didn't feel so "tied down". But he is very lucky that you took him back and he knows it. So try and work through what happened, teach him to regain your trust, and show him that although he made a mistake that you still love him, you forgive him, and you want to keep being with him. And never EVER think that him cheating on you was your fault. It was his mistake and you did not cause him to do it. I hope this helped. ~Sherah
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That is an incredible betrayal of trust and you have every right to be upset. Four weeks is not a momentary laspe of judgement but a huge mistake.
Have you discussed his reason and rational for cheeting? This might give you some clues as to how likely it is to happen agian, but my opinion is once a cheeter always a cheeter, even if he never cheets agian you both will always carry this experience with you. Can you deal with that? Take sometime apart and consider your own happiness first and formost.
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Take time apart. Tell him you need time to think, and to decide. If he can't accept that, divorce him. Seriously. If he's going to be a mysogomist like that, he's not worth your time.
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