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Hi
I need to have a blood test done just as a precaution for STDS to test for HIV, Hepatisis,etc..which I am sure I don't have anyways..but the DR just wants me to have it all done.. ANYWAYS...if I only smoked a couple joints between 4 of us and I only do weed a couple times a month probably...just on a weekend sometimes...will it show up if they test me for HIV,etc? How long should I wait? Or should I just go anyways? The last time I done it was 2 days ago. I am going to the hospital early next week...
I don't want any lectures from people about doing weed please :) just an answer to my question if you have any input.
Thanks
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It probably won't show up unless they test for it. Go anyway. They aren't going to turn you in or anything like that. They won't blab either. Just go. :)
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I may be completely over-reacting, but I really need some advice on this;
I'm thirteen, and I started smoking a few months ago... at first it was only a fag or two when I was around friends, but now its almost like I need a few cigarettes to calm me down just so I can start studying... not just around my mates and stuff..
Problem is; I've started to get some pain in my chest, and I've let myself get into a panic by reading that section on a ciggie packet about health hazards over and over again...
and now I'm afraid I may be sick... like i said, I may be over reacting... but I'm panicky... I don't want to die, my parents are doctors!
I can't tell them, I'll get into so much trouble... and after they send me for a check up, and if the results turn up fine, then I'll want to smoke again- but they'll confiscate the pack from me... and I won't be able to... Honestly, I have so much going through my head right now, I CAN'T STOP SMOKING, BUT I CAN'T DIE EITHER??
What should I do?!
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It is probably nothing but you shouldn't mess with chest pains. Tell your parents you are having them so you can get checked out. You don't need to tell them about the cigs...but get checked out to be on the safe side. You really should stop the smoking though because it gets harder to quit the longer you smoke. :)
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I run at least 2-miles a day, I do push-ups before I go to bed. Will this reduce my breast size or make it bigger???? Thanks
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It actually won't do either. They are gonna do their own thing. Wish I had you energy...keep it up! :)
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ok im 13 years old and a girl and my sister just got me this baby-sitting job. Its for a 8 or 9 year old i dont know if its a boy or girl though she hasnt told me. But i was wondering what i could do to keep them entertained and busy for a the few hours that i'm with them. I mena i really need the money and i dont want to screw this up and end up gettin the job takin anyway. so please help me thanx everyone. (link)
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an 8 or 9 year old will be old enough to let you know what they want to do. So long as it isn't something that will bring harm to themselves, you or the neighborhood in general just let them tell you what they want to play. :)
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i babysit little kids, and i think its really fun, but the ppl i babysit for are moving. and its stinks, i have no business and i really need the money (link)
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Tell them to refer you to any friends in the area who may need a babysitter. :)
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okay well my friend doesn't really have that many friends nd ALOT of people hate her and like i like her but she can be REALLY annoying. and if i dont put her in my profile for AIM she gets pissed off but then im gunna lose alot of friends if im friends wit this girl so wat should i do? (link)
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you need to make the decision for yourself but I will tell you this much. You need to make your own friends with people who you like. If others that you consider friends dislike you or get pissed because you like someone they don't like...well, I wouldn't consider them to be very good friends. :)
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okayy well.. this nick kid n me really like eachother.. i have a few questions.we're not really going out right now.. but we deffinatly act as a couple. im just wondering.. do you think we have to do " freaky things " in order to keep the relatioship alive> i mean hes 15 im 14, n i kno hes constintly thinking about sex with all his hormones.. but will he just dump me? he knows my value on sex, how i want to stay a virgin untilim married, and hes continued liking me. but i also have some other questions.. haha this might sound weird.. but how do you make out. i mean ive KISSED ex-boy friends.. like little pecks and all, but i know wen nick and i start going out, we wont be going any further than making out.. so im just a little confused on how to make out, and what to do.. how to practice, and what if i suck at it? ahhh any advice??! please say yes!!! (link)
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You don't have to do anything "freaky" to keep your relationship alive.
He won't just dump you if he cares enough for you. He knows your views on things and is still with you so he must think highly of you.
You can't practice making out. Well, not without each other anyway. Anything short of actually having sex I suppose is considered making out. Don't worry about being good at it. You both will learn. :)
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okay I have a advice column and I just now got on it and i was on my column and last time it said I had a 4.86 and mow it says I have a 4.8 does that mean the same thing has a four point eighty because I just got rated a five and went and check and it said I had a 4.8
please help me I will rate high
luv BrItTaNy (link)
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Your rating will fluctuate anytime you are rated. It will go up and down constantly. I'm not real sure how it works...I'm a mathematical idiot, but don't worry about it to much. Just give your best advice and you'll do fine. Check FAQ for the rating details. :)
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Ok, I have this problem, I am WAY TOO NICE to my family. I give them advice, (after all, I do have an advice coulumn here)I'm supportive of them, and all they do is take advantage of me, then they ditch me. For example, my cousin has a weight issue, and I help her, and even doctors say my advice was good. She agrees, at the doctors office. She totally ignores me outside of it. When I bring it up she's always like "I have better things to do then talk to you" and on the phone I constantly have to call her name because she doesn't listen to me, and that's just 1 example. They ridicule me one minute, ditch me another minute, then ask me for advice like they are my best friend. What do I do? I turned to masturbation and porno as a getaway- masturbating while watching porno, but more masturbation then porno. Worst thing is that I'm a strong Christian, and their semi athiest ways are rubbing off on me.Help me! And don't tell me to talk to them and stuff, because I've done this in a civilized manner 1000 times, and everyone in my family is stubborn because they think I'm lying all the time because I'm the youngest,and I should suck it up and forget what they say. Help me plz, srry that its so long though. (link)
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If you have a column here you should know that a lot of people don't care much for the advice we give. They all just want to hear the answer they want and not what might be the better answer. Sounds like you have the same thing happening within your family. If the ask give them your opinion. If they don't...don't even bother. If they don't take it...oh well, you did your part. :)
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So, my guy and I went ring shopping today and picked out rings.
The problem is gonna be my mom. He gave me an antique ring on valentine's day almost two years ago, and I've been wearing that one, but we picked one that will be sized to fit my left ring finger. Basically, we are engaged, but we're keeping it quiet until about halfway through college, when it'll be more acceptable to my parents.
This ring kind of looks like an engagement ring, but it's not a diamond. That's the only thing, though it is a single stone, which is symbolic enough. My mom is extremely against my getting married young (we're planning to get married in four or five years, so there's no rush at all, but my mom wouldn't understand that). I'm 17 and he's 19. I'll be 18 in October. Anyway, my mom's gonna freak out when she sees the ring on that finger, and essentially a wedding band on his.
What do I say to her?
Please, no smartass remarks. I'll just rate you down for stupidity.
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Mom doesn't like the idea of you marrying young but I think after the initial shock wore off she would probably be okay with it. Explain you don't plan on marrying for 4-5 years. She should be over it by then! Wear your ring and if she asks tell her the truth.
congratulations! :)
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HI! sup pup!?!?! uh....you rock i gues... i dont even know what im doing he he hehe (link)
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HI yourself! glad to rock...who are ya?
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ok well i am 15 years old on wensday july 20 2005 and well i have 4 older brothers and 1 older sister and my brother dylon who is 21 he missed 7 of my b days in a row he keeps on going back to jail ha got out june 20 and went back in july 15 he missed it again me and him get along soooo good and he got my back he treats me like a little sister my other brothers treat me like i am just there buddy .me and my dad dont get along at all and since summer started so much shit has happend i have been sltitting my wrist an my other brother west just went to jail who is 25. well i am alresdy sick of life and if it gets any worse i dunno i just wont to give up. like sooo much has been haping i aint gunna say it all because i could go on for a while. i gotin to the point where i dont no what to do anymore and i treid using the kids help line on line but they never replied. i have a boy friend who treats me good he drinks alot thuogh but it doesent bother me... i use to be into drugs but i quit most of them.my sister and i use to get along realy good she was my best friend intell she met this guy since then we dont talk she is pregnet after them being together for 15 months.like i just dont no what to do about anything i am still in school going into grade 10. i am sorry this is getting long but i need help realy bad .in the paper the other day there were 27 quistions and if you were 7 of them you needed counslind i was 21 of them. i cry almost everynight. i cant do it no more what should i do plaese help me....please
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Katy, sounds like you do need some counselling. Could your mom get you some help? I don't mind long ones if you'd like to write more please feel free to send one to my inbox and we'll try to figure something out.
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My sister and I planned a one week vacation in Paris. She lives in Colorado and I live in California so we do not get to see each other often. I made all the arrangements and was very much looking forward to going. Recently, she got back together with her boyfriend and has canceled her trip with me because she would rather do something with her boyfriend. I feel hurt about my sister's choice and resentful towards her boyfriend (although my sister says it was solely her decision). I say she can see her boyfriend every weekend and during the week too and that she can go on vacation with him next year. She says this is her only opportunity to go on a vacation this year with him and she doesn't want to miss it. I know my relationship with my sister is more important than any vacation, but I'm having trouble feeling ok about this. Should my sister have honored her commitment to me? Should I just get over it and wish them well on their vacation? (link)
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Yes I think it was really rude to cancel out on you like that. I know you were looking forward to time with your sis but, what if you asked him along?
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Alright, I'm in love. Starstruck. Head over heels. And not just the lust, or the initial fireworks, and infatuation. This is the real deal, and I know it because I no longer think forst of my own needs. I think first of his, and what he's thinking or feeling, and his perspective on life. There's always been something about him, even before he knew how I felt, that's made me feel secure, and I knew that even if he could never love me back, I wanted to be good friends with him throughout college and the rest of my life. (I'm going into my senior year of high school.) Now, we might be going to colleges far from eachother, and I know that it's a lot of work trying to keep a long-distance relationship working. It's certainly something I'm willing to do, but it's so incredibly hard even when I don't see him for a week, how will I handle maybe a month, even two at a time? I'm very afraid of losing the incredible closeness and trust that we have right now, even though it doesn't seem to be something that should be a concern. Having him by my side in life, and with whatever I do, because we have very similar interests, is something so special to me, and especially in college, having him there to help with classes and to study together and laugh about geeky questions (I guess we're very nerdy ;) ) is something that would really help, that I almost feel I can't do without. I don't really know what to do. (Okay, this site says I'm supposed to include my age and gender. I'm sixteen, and, as you probably gathered, female.) (link)
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Can you apply to same schools? Maybe attend the same one. That would be ideal. If not there is always the phone, email and good old IM. Don't let days pass without speaking in some way. It can work if you really both try hard. It will be hard not seeing each other everyday but it can be done. Keep busy with studies and time will fly. :)
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Hi, I am 14 years old, and I am dating a 16year old male. He is everything that I look for in a man. Everything is goin great. How can I keep it that way and improve it to make it more interesting? (link)
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Communication is the biggest key. Always talk about whats on your mind. Don't let things fester until you explode at each other or just get sick of each other. Talk, talk and more talk.
Don't play games...like trying to make each other jealous and all that nonsense.
Never just let the other person assume you are crazy about them. Let them know in words and deed.
Hows that for starters?
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My boyfriend and I have been dating for 8 months now, but he's been one of my closest friends for about 4 years. I truly am in love with him and I know this because I've never felt this feeling before. I won't get into that, however. He just graduated this year and is going to a college that is about 2 hours away. He promised me he'd be home as much as he can and I know he will, but I don't think I can go that long without him. He went on vacation for about 1 week out of the country and I was so upset. I couldn't stop thinking about him and was never happy during this time period. I think about him leaving all the time and how much I'll miss him. I don't know what I'll do without him..I've never had a boyfriend like him before. Should I try and overcome that feeling or try and find someone else. I really don't know what to do. I will greatly appriciate any other suggestions. Thank you. (link)
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If you feel that strongly for the guy why look elsewhere? You will just have to learn to live with him being away at school. You can talk everyday, email and IM. Not the same as seeing each other but it could be worse...computers could be non existent! Keep busy with your school activities and time will fly. And, don't waste any more time stewing about it now..enjoy what time you have before he leaves! :)
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I am a seventeen year old female and I am in love. What is the problem with this, you may ask? I shall tell you. The man I love is 7.5 years my senior (he's 25) and he lives in another continent. He says that he loves me as well, but I'm not sure how to make this relationship work. Can a 17 year old and a 25 year old really make it? Especially with him being so far away... He says he may move here in December, however, but then what? My parents would never approve and I crave their approval like I crave oxygen. I am at a loss. I don't really know what I'm asking, quite frankly, and I won't be surprised if no one replies. I suppose I'm just looking for opinions. Thanks. (link)
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opinion you shall get then!
It doesn't really sound good for you. Not that I don't think you could work it out because of age differences though. If he moved here and turned out to be all you expected (doubtful if met online) it might work out great. But, if parental approval is what you need to be happy, and you don't believe you will get it...won't work. Good luck. :)
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So I’m engaged to be married in one year. I was raised Christian and although I don’t go to church or anything any more my I do still believe. My fiancé is an atheist. It’s really important to me (and to my family) to get married in the church but he says that would be ‘compromising his beliefs’ and doesn’t want to. I don’t care if we never step foot in a church again but my uncle is a priest and I can’t tell him that he can’t preside over my wedding! I’ve always known and respected that we don’t feel the same way about religion but I want to spend the rest of my life with this guy but I don’t know what to do about the wedding. Any advice? (link)
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Maybe a compromise? Could your uncle marry you...but in a different setting than the church?
A private home or other setting?
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okay one of my best friends and i have dated before and we still care about each other even though we're not together anymore. we still care about each other a lot..but everytime i try to tell him that i still care about him and that no matter what happens to our relationship i'm always gonna be here for him..but everytime i try to tell him that he just pushes me away by saying whatever, sure, or mmmmhmmm...it's driving me crazy cause i'm always trying to make the situation better but he just makes it worse..it kills me to know that i'd do anything for him but he doesn't even care..if i had to i'd go lay infront of a car for him..i just wish he wouldn't push me away so much..PLEASE HELP!! i really love this kid! (link)
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Its only a guess but I'm gonna say that he may want to be friends but perhaps you are making him feel you want more again. He may not want to date you again but doesn't want to hurt your feelings.
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Alright, i feel silly asking this question but sometimes i feel weird that my boyfriend is a bit shorter then me. I love him very much and he loves me back even more and a feel like this could last for a long time. Should i talk to him about this (but i guess its not like this is going to change it) or what should i do? Am i stupid for feeling like this? (link)
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Its not stupid to feel a little uncomfortable at times but it isn't a big deal. If you're in love just enjoy it and don't worry about the superficial stuff. Don't mention it to him, might make him feel awkward or something. :)
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