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Boyfriends vs. sisters re:vacations
My sister and I planned a one week vacation in Paris. She lives in Colorado and I live in California so we do not get to see each other often. I made all the arrangements and was very much looking forward to going. Recently, she got back together with her boyfriend and has canceled her trip with me because she would rather do something with her boyfriend. I feel hurt about my sister's choice and resentful towards her boyfriend (although my sister says it was solely her decision). I say she can see her boyfriend every weekend and during the week too and that she can go on vacation with him next year. She says this is her only opportunity to go on a vacation this year with him and she doesn't want to miss it. I know my relationship with my sister is more important than any vacation, but I'm having trouble feeling ok about this. Should my sister have honored her commitment to me? Should I just get over it and wish them well on their vacation?
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Let me say I think your sister was wrong to break off the vacation you two had planned...it was a commitment she made and something she should stand by, especially since you're sisters and don't get to see eachother very often. Tell her that you're hurt, and that you were really looking forward to spending some quality time with her. Ask her why she feels that the time with her boyfriend will be more important, and remind her that you live far apart and don't get to see one another very often. If she's not going to change her decision, and this is just a thought, if you have a boyfriend, all four of you could go on vacation together, and then your sister gets time with you and her boyfriend. Either way, just tell her your feelings on the matter and see what she says. Hope this helps.
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Yes I think it was really rude to cancel out on you like that. I know you were looking forward to time with your sis but, what if you asked him along?
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umm wat she did is reallii rude..that is her fault for not wantin to go.family alwayz comez before men so she should of went wit you.you are gonna have to get ova it though and wish them a good time because she prob wont change her mind on that.
i hope i helped you:)
megz
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She probably shouldn't have backed out of yalls vacation plans to begin with. You are her sister and she'll be connected to you much longer than her boyfriend, even if they stay together the rest of their lives. On the other hand, maybe she just doesn't like Paris (I know I don't) and maybe she has the (however mistaken) view that she can be with you next summer and the reason she wants to be with her boyfriend now is because she knows she probably will not be with him in a year. Maybe you could tell her that you kinda feel like she's ditching you and see what she says. Maybe ask her to think about how she could resolve the issue with you, that way you don't have to settle or try to think of something on your own. Hope I helped. Good Luck!
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Honey,
you have a RIGHT to be upset. Your sister shouldn't have made plans with you if she was just going to blow you off for her boyfriend!
Something like this happened to me but it was with my aunt. I was about to go to Florida for 3 weeks last summer with my aunt but she blew me off because she had to go "sight-seeing" in Kentcuky with her boyfriend.
I talked to her about it and she made it up to me by taking me out to ice cream and then, we went to Florida.
My point is you should talk to her and see how you can arrange something else with her SOON. I'm really sorry!
You know where I am if you need me! You can also email me at x_pink_x109@yahoo.com O.K?
Best of luck! ♥
Hope I helped! ♥
&hearts Kayla ♥
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No you shouldn't just get over it.. She is your sister and it is wrong to pick your boyfriend over your own sister.. Blood is thicker then Water I'm always told. I think you need to tell your sister exactly how you feel. But dont hold any of this against the boyfriend for your not positive if he had anything to do with this. But she has all the time in the world to see this guy and she doesnt see you often. I would feel the same way that you do. But The best thing i can say is to talk to your sister and tell her how you feel...
Hope This Helps.. Good Luck
*Jackie*
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She shouldnt of done that to you. You are her sister and she shouldnt of left you for her boyfriend. But then again its her decision. Its not your fault and she should of went with you. You dont have to get over it completly tho. Its okay to feel hurt. You should tell her how you feel and that it really hurt you when she decided to go with her boyfriend instead of you. But you should still wish her well on the trip. Good luck with everything. ll ♥ ll
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no guy is worth more then your family especail since she doesnt see you often. i think you should feel hurt but it was ur sister choice and not yours. try talkin to her and tellin her that what she is doin is a mistake. hope this helps you out.
*~Stephanie~*
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this is not your fault. your sister shouldnt have canceled your trip just to be with her boyfriend she can see everyday. call her tell her you are hurt an say you would really enjoy spending time with her. tell her, her bf is invited to that might be the only way that you can spend time with her..
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You are more than justified in feeling hurt...
Talk to her about it. Tell her you want to spend time with her, and that you miss her.
WHy not invite her boyfriend too? That way you get to spend time with your sister, and she with her boyfriend!
If nothing else works, wish them well. There;s nothing else you can do.
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