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Whats going on?
I have been dating this girl for almost a year. Our relationship had been going great, accually it was amazing and I fell in love with her, and she says she fell in love with me. Then she took a trip for about a month and became close with a whole group of people that I dont really know, we talked a lot during the begining of the trip but kind of faded during the last half. She denys cheating on me while there, even though I kind of think she did. Now that shes back, she barely touches me. We have had sex 3 times in the past 5 weeks (we see each other maybe 2-3 times a week). She says when we get back to school things will be back to normal, and that us dating is the first time she has brought her school life home, because it is different for her. I just dont know what to do, she barely touches me anymore and is becoming harder and harder to get her to hang out with me. We used to do everything together, now it seems like we only hang out if I bring it up. Whats going on with her?
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It's quite hard 2 say becuse im in the same situation with my boyfriend because he got possesive over me which made me go out and cheat on him and now i can bareley look at him.Instead of diving in accusing her of cheating you need to try and talk to her and try and work things out. If things are still hard ask her friends or people she knows if theres anything going on or try and find out what her problem is.Maybe she just needs some space of her own though to hang out with her friends because i know after 2 years of being with my boyfriend i need my space with my friends.I hope things work out for you.
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I'm kind of in the same situation. Except I'm the girl and I'm doing it to my boyfriend. I've never cheated on my boyfriend but we got in a car accident a couple days ago. and I'm just scared. anyway. Maybe you should try and sit down and talk with her and see if something happened on the trip. You guy have been together almost a year so i'm guessing your pretty honest with each other. You need to just tell her exactly how you feel otherwise when you do tell her it may be to late. Just let her know that whatever is going on you want to work through. You seem to be in love with her. and if she is in love with you. She will be honest with you.
I hope this helped. Good Luck!
*Jackie*
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Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil, but protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
1 corinthians 13 4-7
This is what true love is...if this does not describe the love in yalls relationship, then you aren't truely in love. Don't accuse her of cheating...if she didn't she will be upset w/ you for accusing her of that but if she did..she should come out and tlel you. She might come around...it just takes TIME.
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Maybe she didnt cheat on you on that trip but maybe something else did happen that made her act different around you. You need to comfort her and ask her why she is acting so different. If she wont tell you then get one of her freinds to ask her and find out. Just let her settle down for a while. Just leave her alone for a day or two and see if she will call you and maybe want to talk about it. But still you have to let her know you still care about her no matter what. ll ♥ ll
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i think if you love this girl you should be able to trust her and if you feel that you are drifting away from her talk her about it and tell her how you feel.. you should keep tellin her o you cheated on me if you dont noe the truth..when you have been sperated from someone you love for a while and like you try to make the most out of ur experince while you are gone and then come back from the trip it is a lil hard to go back to how thingas used to be.. try talkin to her and tellin her how you feel. hope this helps you out.
*~Stephanie~*
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Sounds like you need a long talk with her. Something happened on that trip (may not be cheating) that has her acting weird. Why is going back to school supposed to miraculously fix things? Get together and find out what is wrong. Does she have a sibling who you could ask if she doesn't tell you? Could be related to those new people she met. Do some digging and see what you come up with.
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Well maybe she did cheat on you. But maybe she didn`t. You shouldn`t accuse her unless you are like 100% possitive because if you accuse her of it and she DIDN`T cheat on you she will be like "omg i thot u trusted me" and stuff and probablly end the relationship. Or maybe somethinq happened that you don`t know about on the trip that made her self consious or scared or and sexual reletions. People change when they go places they aren`t formilier with. what you need to think about is if you think she`s changed for the better or worse. And think about how much you love her and if it`s worth takinq the chance or her cheatinq on you aqain. hope i helped. -courtney
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well.. if you lvoe her then you shoudl trust her not to be oon you . and if she loved you then she wouldnt have cheated on you . i feel maybe form what you ahev todl em that mayeb she did and she jsut feels kindof guilty and she doesnt know how to handle it .. she might just be needign some time to get over the guilt(she wont ever really get over it) butmaybe she will admitt it too you in a coule of weeks
good luck ...
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Maybe she did meet someone at the before mentioned trip. Let us analyze that. If she did, she maybe trying to keep her distance from you so she doesn't hurt you and maybe if she keeps being weird, you'll break up with her for it and she won't feel like she was in the wrong.
The reason she isn't touching is maybe she just doesn't feel for you the way you do her. Some people grow out of love, and as sad as it may sound, maybe she did to. You should really ask her what is wrong. Ask he why she doesn't touch you anymore, tell her that if she was in love with you, she would act like it more. If she is barely hanging out with you, the question should be: Who is she hanging out with? Of course, you don't want to come off as controlling like, "Who did you hang out with today?" or "Where were you?" Girls hate that. They like their privacy. Simply ask "So, what did you to today?"
"Oh.. I went to the mall."
"With -Insert girl name here- ?"
"No, I went with -Insert name-" Make sure you say a girl's name when you ask who she hung out with. That way, it'll seem like you're curious, not worried.
Good luck!
Megan
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in some cases teenagers just start to drift away because you have been together so long she might want to try dating other people. ask her to hang out and talk to her about what your feeling and whats going on. sometimes you just need to take a break..
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