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Gender: Female
Location: whiteboro, texas
Age: 14
AIM: xx9brooke9xx
Member Since: May 21, 2005
Answers: 37
Last Update: August 21, 2005
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im 14 and going into the 10th grade and ive never kissed a guy. and all my friends all have lost it. and i feel like im being left behind. and when my friends talk bout it they ask me hats the most uve done w/ a guy and i cant say anything cuz i havent even kissed 1! what should i do? (link)
who cares if you haven't kissed anyone....at least you aren't a slut!!! Its better to save your virginity for the one you are gonna spend the rest of your life with. Right now, it may seem like you are the only one out there that isn't haveing sex (thats how I feel) but in the long run it will pay off and you will be really happy you made the smart decision and didn't have sex. when your frieds ask you how far you've gone tell them you haven't had sex or done anything like that and be proud. But about the kissing, kissing is great! lol You will get kissed soon. And if you don't want to tell your friends you haven't done anything you can say that you have made out with a guy


ok i cut my hair about 4 months ago really short and i hate it b/c my hair has always been super long and my mom will flip if i show her but i feel bad should i show her or shouldnt i (link)
Well, you will have to show her eventually. It will take a few years before you grow your hair all the way back out really long so just show her and act like you really like it and then maybe she wont act like she hates it. Maybe she will surprise you and end up LOVING it!!!


what should a 13/f wear the 1st day of school?? p.s. i shop at hollister (link)
a cute skirt and a tight fitting tee or tank


How can you make yourself believe? Can you write "I Believe In God" a thousand times on a sheet of paper? Because I've been having trouble believing lately. (link)
to blelieve...you should feel it in your heart. Writing something down (no matter how many times) won't make you a believer!!! Pray about it and in time, God will answer your prayer. We all have some doubts, but you should know if you are a believer. If you are not sure, then you prolly aren't a true believer. You will know once you believe. its just 3 steps. 1 admit that you are a sinner and that you have sinned and you can't make it through life wiothout God. 2. Believe that Jesus is God's only son and that nothing is more important. 3. Commit your life to God. Everything you do should be about God. (This is very hard to do) but thats what a Christian is about....no one said it was easy being a believer.....just pray about it and trust God with your life and He will take care of everything!!!


I really really like my best guy friend. And if I ever lost him, I would feel like dieing. He likes me too. But I'm afraid that if we end up dating and breaking up, we won't be like we are now anymore. All of my ex's I barely talked to after we broke up. No matter who broke up with who. And one of my ex's and I who now hate each other, used to be really close. So if you even understand this sinse it's kind of confusing. Can someone out there please give me advice on what to do?


Ps- Don't tell me to forget about him-because I think about him all the time.
I've already thought about this for a long time and I still don't know what to do.
13/f
Sorry this is long but I will rate!!

Thanks (link)
Go for it girl!!! You don't wanna live your whole life wondering if yall really had something do ya? If you are worried about not being friends after yall break up then do what I do. Just back for a lil while (the time varies according to dif. things) with one of my ex's it was a month the other it was a week. After you have both had a break from each other then start to talk to him again. Act like the past never even happened, just be friends again and it will all work out, just be mature about it! I think you should def. go for it!!!


i like this gurl for 3 years we almost went out a bunch of time but something always happened i really like this gurl we had a really good last couple of days but she said she doesnt want a boy friend for the summer i dont want her to go to a diff guy i really like her but her cuz and hes my best friend doesnt like us going out so he always tries to breack us up. we made out for the first time the other night . My question is wen do i ask her out and how do i ask her out??? (link)
Well, do it in person. You need to have the courage, and maturity to be able to ask her to her face. First of all, she said she didn't want a boyfriend over the summer. Well summer is pretty much over so if your school is having a back to school dance that would be a great time to ask her. Just when yall are talking....if there is ever a pause or break in the conversation just be like hey do you wanna go out with me....or if you don't like that you can say hey I have been thinking, maybe we can be more than friends!! hope I helped


Wow ok this sounds really stupid.. but, there is this kid i like and hes really really hott. He has braces , but hes still hott with them! So if i hooked-up with him would it like feel werid or just feel regular .. lols

Stupidly Confused (link)
No. it doesn't feel that different at all. Just don't think about him having braces and don't worry about it. I don't think you will be able to tell that much of a difference.


Well ive fallen for a friend of mine, and im looking for a creative way to tell her. now im not some loser that has never had a date, and i know the standard straight forward way to ask out a girl, but im looking for soemthing a bit more intresting. i am 19/m she is 20/f (link)
Well, find something she likes and is interested in and incorporate that into how you ask her. For examlpe, if she loves food then spell it out in food and she sees it when she walks in the door. Or if she is really into a sport(for instance vball) then get one of her volleyballs and write it on their and leave it for her to find. Or if you cant think of anything that she is really dedicated to, then get roses! You can never fail with roses....but do something dif. with them like pick off the petals and write a letter on each dif. petal that spells it out. One time my boyfriend sent me roses and a silk rose in the middle and he put i will love you till the last petal falls, but its a silk rose so it never falls (but that may be too early to do that) Well I hope I helped


Okay, awhile back I liked this guy "Caleb" for almost a year. He had (and still has) a girlfriend, and "Caleb" turned me down when I told him how I felt. Now his girlfriend has moved to Canada, and he's been talking to me on AIM saying "yo" before I even say "hi" first. My mom knows what happened and how badly it hurt me when he hurt my feelings, but now him and I want to be friends. My mom told me NEVER to talk to him again on AIM because of what happened. By the way, he's three years older then me and so is his girlfriend. Now we just want to be FRIENDS, and I don't want to block him or anything, so I turn my away message on when he comes online. I'm so confused, because I don't know if his girlfriend is ever going to break up with him, and if she does, he'll be talking to me a lot about how sad he is. Any advice on how to deal with this? (link)
aight well this guy already told you he didn't like you so hes looking for a rebound girl and (since your 3 years younger) he just wants to get in your pants!! You already told him how you felt so he knows he can have you if he wants....if you still wanna be 'friends' its ok to talk to him on AIM but never be friends with benefits!!!! and when your mom comes in the room when your on then just x out of the box. hope I helped


can you give me the meaning to these words to live by....


Different strokes for different folks
People who live in a glass house shouldnt throw stones
Thereis nothing to fear but fear its self
Its mice to be important however its importan to be nice (link)
differnt strokes for different folks- means that ppl are brought up differently and you have to adjust to that and learn how to deal with the different people.
People who live in glass houses shouldn't throw stones- well that pretty much means you need to act according to how you were brought up. People can see how you were raised by how you act (so live up to your standards)
There is nothin to fear but fear its self-that means don't be scared of anything new that you haven't faced. Step up, and go for it all!
Its nice to be important but its important to be nice- well that means that its great to be successful in life, but don't get arrogant and cocky. I mean if your not nice to the 'little peopple' then you won't et annywhere and you will fail!!!


does anyone know any funny pointless songs?
Ex. (Stacy's Mom, Crazy Frog, Hampster Dance, Etc.)
Just any funny songs that you could laugh at, know any? (link)
go to www.stupidvideos.com and find the song AICHA or the song NUMA NUMA HEARTTHROBS they are both halaroius!!!!!!!!!!


ok i have never had acne or pimples or anything like it but its starting to show that im gonna get them like im getting little bumps then you can feel but you cant see unless oyu look really really close and i was just wondering what i could do to prevent them from showing and to prevent them from comming back. ill rate for good answers thank you ! (link)
Pro active....its the best thing ever!!!!! and it works for allllll skintypes!!


how can i make it so i puke in the morning so i dont have to go somewhere but can stay home? if i take to much cough syrup (but not enough to kill) when i wake up would that make me puke?? (link)
well 1) you could try to put your finger as far back in your throat as you can and gag yourself...but thats not good. lol 2) you can say you puked in the toilet and you flushed it down. That always works if you don't fake being sick a lot


16 F sophomore. guy 17 junior.

Me and this guy have been friends for about 2 almost 3 years i guess.. if i'm couting right. Anyway i suddenly liked him after a terrible break up.. and then I just gave up on it thinking i was still in love with my ex.. moving on... So this crush has kind of been hidden for a few months and i recently told him that i liked him way back then. and he was cool about it but here recently we've been joking about being benefit buds.. and i dont know if he's serious.. and even if he was and we really did like each other and wanted to date should I: b/c a) he's dated like 2 or 3 of my friends and B) this wouldn't destroy our friendship but maybe make it awkward. i dunno just some advice please?~ unsure. (link)
well after you break up,it would make your relationship awkward at first, but in time you will both get over the weirdness of it and become even better friends. I think you should go for it cause if you do really like him and you don't go for it, you will always wonder what wouldve happened. GET EM GIRL!!!

yes I know that but I was sayin don't be worried about your relationship beind awkward if you do go out. Well, friends w/ benifits is not cool, cause he can have as many friends as he wants and they can all be with benefits so...


How canI tell my boyfriend I am still in love with him . I am 14year old.
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buy him roses and out a silk rose in there with the real ones and tell him you will lov ehim till the last petal falls...but its a silk rose so it never dies


ok .. my dad has changed an hes really ill.. an hes sp mean now an i hate to be around him im only 14 .. an like i really dont want to go with him when its time .. an plus hes a lawyer an i cant talk to him about anything hes not a dad to me anymore ... an my parents our divorced an i dont know what to do im just so upset he hits me an i dont know ... i just dont want to go with him cant i make a choice if i can how ?? please help me??? (link)
tell your mother...tell your closets friends mom or someone you trust. Get help...its called child abuse when he hits you.


this will be very long..sorry! well me and my boyfriend have been going through a lot lately..and hes been wanting to me to prove to him how much i love him cause sometimes he wonders! so i went out of my way and paid my friends sister to take me to the mall so i could get him a bracelet he wanted carved with our names on it! so i spent like $74 on that and then i found the cutest card ever! well then since last night he has been acting kinda distant..like we couldnt really talk or anything! well then today he had to go help his grandpa so i thought no big deal ill talk to him when he gets home! well i looked at his buddypic thing and he took my name off and just put he had a girlfriend and added some other girl on there too which scared me! so i texted him and said something..no response! so then i called his house and he talked to me and said hed get online in a minute! well then he tells me hes going on vacation, he just got a job, and hes doing modeling so we wont really talk anymore so he thinks its best for now if we go on a break and i prove to him how much i love him! and he said after i send him his stuff he will read it all and think about it! and he said he cant talk on his cell cause his aunt wont let him and now he cant get on the computer either for like a week! it kills me so much cause ive never felt this way in my life..hes supposably bought me a promise ring and everything else! well i IMed that girl that was on his buddypic and seen what was up and i guess shes in love with him or something! and he was talking to her with me and i found out another girl says she loves him too and im so scared that he will move on although he keeps telling me he wont and those girls are too good of friends! i wanna believe him but its so hard! well i have his password for everything n he has mine too..well then he decides hes gonna change his AIM password and now i dont know what to think..im so scared something might be going on! i just dont know what to do! i have done nothing but cry since i found out! he told me after i send his stuff he will write me a letter back and i guess thats how we have to talk for now! i really dont know what to do cause im use to talking to him all day..it kills me so much! and i dunno what to do! do you have any cute ideas i could do with his card and bracelet that i can send through the mail? thanks so much! (link)
I think you should wrap the bracelet in real rose petals and on each petal write 'I love you' on it. Then, go buy a silk rose and put it with the bracelet. Then, on the card...write I will love you till the last petal falls. But its a silk rose so the petals never fall lol. and if that doesn't proove your love, I don't know what will. I hope I helped if ya wanna talk more IM me my sn is xx9brooke9xx


I'm 14/f. I liked this one guy last year and things didnt really work out. But we're still really good friends and all. During last year he started liking this other girl but now he sees her as somebody totally different but he keeps askig me for advice on what to do. I just got done with talking to him on aim. Before he went he said see ya at skool or before. I said hopefully before. And he said how true. And all last year my friends said that we were going to hook up and they acted as if it already happened. Now whenever i talk to him i feel like something might happen but i'm willing to wait for it which is really weird for me. My question is, from what's happened, are we going to hook up eventually or always stay friends??? I'm confuseddd... (link)
Well, if he is asking you for advice on another girl....he is either trying to tell you I just wanna be friends OR he could be trying to make you jealous. Maybe he likes you again with him sayin hopefully he will see you again...I'm not quite sure cause I don't really know everything else thats goin on I'm sorry. Well I hope I helped


o.k. i have this friend kieran and well hes really nice and all but i know he likes me!!!hes asked me if i wanted 2 go 2 the movies with him and i said that i had to go to my couzins house(which i didnt) Im mean i dont want him to get the wronge idea HE IS ONLY A FRIEND i dont like him i dont hes only a friend what can i do ??????
i dont want to hurt his feelings or anything i just dont want him to get the wronge idea!!!! should i go out with him and what if he asks me if i like him??? what should i say"hey well we are only friends" its not that easy!!!!! im just so confused my friends tell me to follow my heart and well maybe thats not good enough!!!sigh

****soooo confused*****sigh (link)
you did the right thing by making up an excuse. If you go with him, then he will think you like him. So don't lead him on. If he keeps asking you and you keep telling him your busy ...sooner or later he will get the hint that you don't like him. That way, you never said it, but he got it. hope I helped


I would like to find a hair straightener.Not those cheap ones,that don't even work,but those that leave the hair shiny and healthy.And can yall tell me the name of the store that i would find it in? Oh, and please tell the truth don't just invent. THANXSS! (link)
CHI iron...they are the best that I have ever seen and all the proffesionals use them....umm idk if they are sold in the stores but you can ask your hair dresser to order you one (thats what I did) But they are kinda expensive for a straightener.




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