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this will be very long..sorry! well me and my boyfriend have been going through a lot lately..and hes been wanting to me to prove to him how much i love him cause sometimes he wonders! so i went out of my way and paid my friends sister to take me to the mall so i could get him a bracelet he wanted carved with our names on it! so i spent like $74 on that and then i found the cutest card ever! well then since last night he has been acting kinda distant..like we couldnt really talk or anything! well then today he had to go help his grandpa so i thought no big deal ill talk to him when he gets home! well i looked at his buddypic thing and he took my name off and just put he had a girlfriend and added some other girl on there too which scared me! so i texted him and said something..no response! so then i called his house and he talked to me and said hed get online in a minute! well then he tells me hes going on vacation, he just got a job, and hes doing modeling so we wont really talk anymore so he thinks its best for now if we go on a break and i prove to him how much i love him! and he said after i send him his stuff he will read it all and think about it! and he said he cant talk on his cell cause his aunt wont let him and now he cant get on the computer either for like a week! it kills me so much cause ive never felt this way in my life..hes supposably bought me a promise ring and everything else! well i IMed that girl that was on his buddypic and seen what was up and i guess shes in love with him or something! and he was talking to her with me and i found out another girl says she loves him too and im so scared that he will move on although he keeps telling me he wont and those girls are too good of friends! i wanna believe him but its so hard! well i have his password for everything n he has mine too..well then he decides hes gonna change his AIM password and now i dont know what to think..im so scared something might be going on! i just dont know what to do! i have done nothing but cry since i found out! he told me after i send his stuff he will write me a letter back and i guess thats how we have to talk for now! i really dont know what to do cause im use to talking to him all day..it kills me so much! and i dunno what to do! do you have any cute ideas i could do with his card and bracelet that i can send through the mail? thanks so much!
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You have definately been going through a tough time!! Just write something on his card that will make him remember all the goods times you had together and how much he means to you. Maybe then he will think harder about the descisions he has made and maybe you two wil get back together. I'm sorry if thats not the advice you were looking for!! I tried my best!
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hmm i dont know what to tell you. But if you have to PROVE you love him then doesnt that mean he doesnt believe you? I mean that might not be the case but im just saying. If he trully loved you he would believe you. And 2nd. you have to give him his space. Even if he starts dating other people he might come back to you. You just have to realize that its for the best! Just find cute little ways to show you love him. like make a collage of pictures that describe you and him! I think thats cute. but just follow your heart. it'll never be wrong!
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wow . this is a tough one .... i'm not entirely sure about this one hunny, i'm really sorry . but i can' think of anything right now , how about i'll keep thinking on this one and get back to you ?
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honestly, i dont think you should send him this bracelet and card because he doesn`t seem like a good guy! if you keep asserting yourself and giving gifts and "proving" your love for him, and he doesn`t show love back or assert himself in the relationship, maybe it`s better to actually take that break.. i know it may be very painful for you, and all you do is cry but you REALLY shouldn`t let a boy make you sooo upset. it`s going to hurt A LOT, but it`s better for you, so you don`t have to suffer! also, about the "other" girl, maybe you should just let it slide .. play hard to get if you REALLY do nto want to lose him! good luck =]
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WELL, FIRST 0F ALL,IT'S OKAY FOR YOUR BOYFRIEND TO HAVE CLOSE FRIENDS THAT ARE GIRLS. I WOULD ALSO BE A LITTLE WORRIED, BUT THAT'S JUST ME. I ALSO THINK YOU SHOULD NOT TRY TO "BUY" HIS LOVE, BY BUYING HIM EXPENSIVE THINGS. LOVE AND MONEY ARE TWO DIFFERENT CATORGORIES. IF HE TAKES OUT YOUR NAME FROM HIS BUDDYPIC THINGY, AND PUTS SOMEONE ELSE'S NAME... YOU MIGHT WANT TO TRY TO GET A HOLE OF HIM. TRY SENDING HIM 5 OF THE SAME E-MAIL TO MAKE SURE HE KNOWS YOU'RE TRYING TO REACH HIM. OF CALL HIM 3 TIMES AND LEAVE A LONG MESSAGE TELLING HIM YOU LOVE HIM AND YOU REALLY NEED TO SPEAK WITH HIM. OR TRY ASKING ONE OF HIS FRIENDS WHERE YOU COULD FIND HIM. IF YOU NEED ANYMORE ADVICE... YOU CAN E-MAiL ME. OR YOU'RE ALWAYS WELCOME TO CHAT WITH ME ON AIM!!! E-MAiL ME AT: AEBABIEX0@AIM.COM OR INSTANT MESSAGE ME AT: AEBABIEX0 HOPE I HELPED!!
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Well, to me, it kinda sounds like he's using you to give him the gifts, he can show them off to his friends and say "hey look another girl's in love with me", and then forget about it all. But what you can do to prevent that, is the next time he calls, be straight up with him. Tell him that you cherish what you guys have so much enough to be honest with him. Tell him that you're getting suspicious of all these other girls that he hangs around with. What I would do, is hold off on the gifts for right now and wait untill EVERYTHING clears up.
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awwwww hunny!! i am soo sorry to hear all of this. =[ i send you lots of love!! thats just awful what your going through. love kinda sucks sometimes. but i tell ya what.. the best of couples go through the hardest of times, and end up on top after each battle.
but i gotta tell you, i think your boyfriend, seems very admirable at the act of deceiving. to me, he seems like a very marvelous liar. who knows just the right things to do and say. so he has you where he wants you.
but, i say you send him his card and his bracelet in a heart shaped box!
[[just a cute idea ]]
in the box you should also include a letter, telling him exactly how you feel, like how much he means to you, etc.
obviously, something he does makes you feel delicate and devine. you don't wanna let it go and yet at the same time you feel so lost and invisible. but i say, if he doesn't change then you need to move on!
you can't and should not have to spend your life waiting for someone.
your a lovely person. and i hope everything works out for darling.
if you ever need to talk,
IM me [[ Brittany89819]]
<3 `'Brittany
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You want a cute idea for you to send to him? Girl, this boy is freakin' shady, drop him! I have NEVER heard of a guy wanting a girl to prove her love for him, unless he was like some psycho or something. You should not have to buy him something to prove you love him, you tell him your feelings and he should believe you, you shouldn't have to go out and do anything. The buddy pic name thing, would arise my first suspicion. Then again it's just a buddy pic icon, maybe he just wanted a change, but the reason for him to change it to "I have a g/f" is kind of dumb. Adding the other girls, is not cool at all, especially if you don't know them or have even heard their names, I consider that sneaky. The "break" thing, I consider that BULL-CRAP!!! That is just a nice way of saying that you aren't together, but MAYBE you will get back together. In other words, he wants nothing holding him back when he is gone. Again with the "prove your love" thing, you shouldn't have to do that. It seems he is keeping out of contact with you on purpose, but that's just me. The reason being because he can't talk to you, but through a letter, that's crap. It's understandable that it is hard to believe him when he is talking to all of these chicks, you need to talk to them and find out if he has been trying to hook up with them, but that is for your knowledge. The AIM password change, further proves my suspicion that he is trying to get with other girls without you knowing. You really need to think this through, it is all your decision, just so you know. My advice for you is to start getting over him now, since he is gone for awhile, when he comes back you will be able to talk with him and explain why to his face you don't want to be with him, because he is shady. Talking to other girls on the computer and they "love" him? If they actually say that, then he has been flirting with them and maybe more, but I don't know how far he has gone. This whole "break" thing is just s ploy to lead you on and keep you still within his grasp, but allowing him to go and do whatever he wants while he is gone. Your best bet is to take the bracelet back, and see if you can get your money back, if not, go pawn it and you can at least get a little money out of it. A relationship should not this way with you worrying so much and him being out of contact. If I was gone from my g/f, I would do whatever I could to get in contact with her. A letter is not trying very hard. One call a week, will not put his aunt into debt, he should be fighting to call you just to hear your voice at least and see how you are. My opinion, this guy is pathetic and is leading you on. Try and get over him now while he is gone, so it won't be as hard when he comes back. Don't send him anything! If he wants a break give him a break, let him contact you, you are just doing what he said, so he can't get mad. While this is going on, pull yourself together and try and get over him as best as possible and when he gets back, don't call him, let him call you. From there you can decide with all the evidence you have gathered whether or not to stay or go. I THINK YOU SHOULD LEAVE HIM, HE IS TOO SHADY!!! A real man keeps one girl and holds her dearly to his heart, he doesn't play around with other girls ont he internet. It is for this reason I will not give you a cute idea to use in your letter with the bracelet. I'm sorry, but that's just my thoughts. Good Luck, girl. Save your tears, he ain't worth it.
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Well, he might be cheating on you with this other girl, because it seems like he is. Also, get a really cute bag and everything, and wrap the present and card, and mail it to him. Right now, he seems like he needs air. But I'll tell you this, what he means by "showing how much you love him" is sex. And, I personally think it's a bad idea. All you can do is give him his space. Mail the present and then don't do anything else, because there is nothing you can do. It's okay to cry, because something might be going on. When he comes back, give him a day or two, and then ask him what's going on. I really hope this all works out.
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wow, i am sorry that you would have to go through that. no offense to him or you, but it sounds like he is using you. he wants to be with you, but not in the way that you want to be with him. he wants you to prove how much you love him because he knows that you will. he knows that he has got you under something and it will only take a realization to know what he is doing. he is playing you. the reason he wants a break is so he can do things with other girls and not get caught. i am really sorry to tell you this, but its true. i have seen so many friends go through what you are and have been through. its all the guy wants. you need to tell him that you are not some game piece that he can do whatever he wants with. you are a person with feelings and you deserve to be treated with respect and love. send him the stuff, but also know and understand, that it might not make any affect on him. maybe you can write something in the card to make him realize that you know what is going on and you are not going to stand for it. tell him what you are feelings. i know that you love him, but sometimes when the love is only coming from one side, you need to break it off.
if that is not the case, or you don't think it is..i think some cute ways to send him the card would be...let me think. write him a really sweet note in the card. add things like inside jokes only that you two know, make some new inside jokes. call him names that only you would call him (i.e. baby, sweetheart ect.). as for the bracelet, put it one of those boxes for jewlery, then wrap it in a cool paper then wrote something sweet on it.
i hope that everything works out. and if i am completely wrong about what i said in the first paragraph, then i will apologize right now. i hope that i helped.
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I think you should wrap the bracelet in real rose petals and on each petal write 'I love you' on it. Then, go buy a silk rose and put it with the bracelet. Then, on the card...write I will love you till the last petal falls. But its a silk rose so the petals never fall lol. and if that doesn't proove your love, I don't know what will. I hope I helped if ya wanna talk more IM me my sn is xx9brooke9xx
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hey, thats really sad lots of stuff seem to be changing the fact that he took yr name of the buddy pic and put someone elses name is wrong but i doubt you want to believe this but he may have feelings for this girl and him changing his aim password theres someone on his list he dont want you talking to or finding something out.. and if he just got a job hes prob not going on vacation cause it would be hard for him to keep the job.. him wanting you to send the stuff you bought him yea go ahead and send it but if you had to buy it just to prove you love him is wrong to but when you send it write a letter with it* sayn how you feel about his avoiding you and becoming distant from you! but i hope i helped a lil bit atleast but anything else at all IM me on aim- sweethang1768 im on all the time so whenever
*if he loved you so much then nothing could cause him to break up with you not even not talking to him or what not* but send a letter with the card and the braclet
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girl i'm sorry but he is cheating on you! But hes not good enought for you rememer theres other fish in the sea lots of more fish that like you a lot you don't realize yet but someone right in front for of your is in love with you! just pray to god and he will guide you! And i hope that jurk gets everything that he did too you back to let him feel how it feels i'm so sorry! don't feel like your watching in the rain as your life fall apart! go on with your life hope this helps rate high please
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I'm sorry your boyfriend has been acting weird lately. I understand that he asked you to prove to him how much you love him. Alot of guys ask us girls to do that. But what we don't realize is that if they trully loved us back then they wouldn't need us to prove anything. The same applies to your boyfriend. A card and bracelet were a cute gift, but can you honestly say that those to things are equal to love...no. If he is talking to other girls online that tell him they love him, then they and him have no concept of love. I don't think he is cheating on you but I do think it is wrong for him to be talking to other girls as more than friends. I also think that you should definately give him some privacy. Some guys aren't so great in committed relationships althought they have feelings for their partner. Him changing his AIM password is his way of saying that he needs is individuality, independence, and privacy back. I don't think you should send the card and bracelet to him. Tell him straight up, "Do you want to continue our relationship?" It's either yes or no. Don't accept any other answer like, "I don't know, Im confused." Although he really might be confused don't give him time to "think nabout it!" You already know what you want, if he has doubts then it won't work. As much as it may hurt you, you need to stand up for yourself and move on. He isn't worth keeping if he has doubts about your relationship. It isn't fair to you to keep getting hurt. Try and find someone who will treat you right (like a princess LOL). I'm sorry I didnt really answere your question on how to send the card and bracelet. But this is what I think is best. I'm really interested in hearing what happens later on in your relationship with him. So please e-mail me at nvme0212@msn.com and tell me how things go.
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alright well i think your crazy for staying together with this guy. hes such a loser and you still want to be with him after these other girls said all this about him? well i really dont think you should even bother sending that stuff to him either unless your planning on getting your heart broken even more. please try to get him off of your mind and look for a new guy that will treat you a lot better and i know their out there somewhere too! well i hope i helped out a little:/ brooke<3
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Well i have to done the same thing to girl basicly its when you get the feeling you want time alone or your never sure what you maybe keep your options open like maybe this girl will be better for me then this one.. I mean i understand whats going on.. Sometimes guys just like to play games of going back and forth and getting on the messangers they really don't care well i didn't when the girl did it was the whole fact its my name not hers you know... But When i did it I was a cheater so I would be very cautious and i fyou really want to show you love him.. You just tell him if you love me then you will make this work out beacause your supose to love me for me and who i really am ... Your not supose to love someobdy beacause of the gifts we buy them or the stuff we give them .. I mean it sounds if this guy really loved you he would show it.. Love is a hard and very complicated situation .. but for cute ideas write to him how much the things you guys did together really mean to you and send him a few pictures of you guys together if you have any.. Try spraying it with your perfume he likes if he has one Beacause then it will make him think of you.. But just don't give up and hang in there im sure he will come around eventually If you have anymore questions or anything you need feel free to ask ..
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Hey this must be Tough situation ...
but you have to listen to your heart...
so here are some action that might happen when your guy is cheating on you...
1. spends more time with his "buddies"
2. spends more time online but not with you
3. while on a date with you, his cell rings and he checks his caller ID then doesnt answer his cell
4. he accuses you of cheating out of guilt
and most importantly of all, he you think his not dedicated to you, then you are probbly right and from hearing your story he might be...
so you have to ask him to come over one day and sit down with him in quiet place, then tell him how you feel about all those things goin on. but truth fully ... and if he acts little jerkish about it, then he probably is, but if he really cares about you, he will tell calmly that he isnt and you have to tell him about what made you think that way, so he know what to fix...
and if you have more question, ask away and hope i helped =)
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ok heres my advice for you..
first of all a guy who makes you cry isnt worth it cause any guy who loves you wouldnt make you cry cause it would hurt them to much to see you in pain cause itll bring pain to them. so once he made me cry i would i really talk to him and tell him that if that hes the one who needs to show his love for me and stop acting all weird and switching his stuff around on me cause if it keeps happening ill be the strong one and say good bye <- thats wat i would say causse i would just let him kno that until hes ready to go back to normal to let u kno and if he isnt planning on to then leave him cause hes not worth it and deff. not worth your time when you can be out there picking up some real guys that will treat you right. and so i wouldnt waste my money and send the gifts.
but if he does say hes going to change and he does then i would send the gifts and i would wrap the bracelet up and put the card on the box with a bow and decorate it real cute with wraping paper that saids i love you and everything else. and then in the card write something cute like your my everything.. or i wish this gift could show you how much i really love you but i kno nothing will cause nothing has the great of power and much love. and then send it in the mail boxes and its on its way =]
hope i helped and you make the right desiscon on this guy =]
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hm..sweetie it sounds like this guy wants a break..all of a sudden hes going to be so busy like that? he pretty much broke up with you , dear. :(
i know it hurts.i have been there ..and it hurts a lot..but im going to tell you what i tell everyone else who is feeling the pains of love:
time will heal it. time is a wonderful thing. yes, time. as time goes on it will get easier for you..for now try try try to go out with friends have a really good time..do something like
-have a sleepover, go to the movies, go to the mall, hang out, swim, go to an amusement park...just keep busy because he will be keeping busy himself
the thought of him moving on is scary to you..and i bet the thouht of you moving on is scary also..but it will happen. both of you will move on and both of you are going to go through several love interests during your life. these are "the good ol days" live em up!
as time goes on, you wont think about him as much, sure at night time you will think about him and miss him..but you will find that during the day things are easier and your happier..this is good! he is going to be keeping busy, so dont mope around...
thats my advice sweetie...
as for the bracelet..well you have some options
-send it back..try to get your money back (this is what i would do because it sounds like things are over)
-send it to your guy in the mail..saying something on the card like "you wanted me to show how much i care for you..well heres how much..."
i wouldnt do this because sweetie it sounds like hes moving on
this is just my opinion..i hope i helped?
-melissa
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